Tell the parents or no?..it's exactly what you're thinking it's about

[92civicb18b1]

So I've been contemplating on telling my grandparents (cause I live with them and they raised me) about how I, uh, go 'both ways"....

I wasn't really hiding it from anyone but I haven't really told anyone either, not until recently, before the last year or so I was closeted and didn't tell anyone, it took me a while to accept it, but now I could careless what most people think. I'm not one of those flamboyant rainbow feminine fags so it's not exactly obvious unless I make it obvious or tell someone. My last couple of ex's knew and that's cause I told them right from the start so it wouldn't end up being a surprise later.

Anyway, what do ya'll think, should I tell my grandparents, I don't think they'll really care, they won't be happy that I mess around with both sexes but the worst they can do is put me out of the house. I have no intention of telling my real parents or sister cause they're just to critical and I'll never hear the end of it.... They just won't see eye to eye with me or understand why I do what I do.....

So......

 

[jdm_slut]

Well..
I don't think you should really bother telling your grandparents because most likely they're old fashioned and won't understand.. Some things are better left unsaid. Not like its a huge deal.

 

[92civicb18b1]

The only reason I thought about telling them was because they're the ones who raised me.

 

[nootrac22]

yep, the only people who should know are the people you are sleeping with. It dosen't matter to anyone else, just my .02

 

[dacheat]

i agree with nootrac with the following exception: if you can't sleep at night because they don't know, then obviously something in you needs them to know - whether you need acceptance from them, or what - you're ultimately going to have to do or say whatever it takes to give yourself some peace in your life choices. maybe you don't care if they know, and are just trying to be respectful to the people who raised you by keeping them informed of your goings-on. if that's the case, it's TMI, imho - until you happen to find someone that rocks your damn socks and it happens to be a guy; at that point you'll probably want to share with them that you're happy, and PS it's with a guy. just my $.02 as well - at this rate you could get up to a dollar for your question

 

[nootrac22]

gotta remember tho seeking acceptance and getting it are 2 diffrent things. some people will never accept that, and if the people you are trying to tell are like that, don't waste your time.

 

[dacheat]

 

[92civicb18b1]

What's TMI?

And yea, it was more of a respect issue then peace of mind. I don't really tell too many people. I experimented with telling a couple of my friends/acquaintances, just to see their reactions. But at the same time, if someone brings up the topic and asks me about it, I'm not gonna deny it.

 

[dacheat]

What's TMI?

too much info.

 

[92civicb18b1]

I might have worded that odd, it would be just out of respect. I could careless if they know.

 

[BigJ]

i don't know man.

A friend of mine told his family and they're religious and accepted it. Others haven't.

 

[92civicb18b1]

Well, it is a difficult subject for some. I'm not sure how they would take it, I'd think they wouldn't care but then again it might not be acceptable. The topic has never come up.

 

[BigJ]

I'm not in your situation, like i've told many friends, so I can't tell you how to feel and react to your lifestyle. But, you got to be true to yourself, at the same time, its a process, and losing relationships over it can be a consequence you have to be willing to take.

 

[dacheat]

But, you got to be true to yourself, at the same time, its a process, and losing relationships over it can be a consequence you have to be willing to take.

veritas.

 

[92civicb18b1]

yea, I figured and I guess I could accept that.

What do you mean, I'm not in your situation, like i've told many friends?

 

[dacheat]

he means 'i'm not where you're at so i can't tell you how to feel and react, but here's something i think might apply.'

 

[Hondadude141]

BUT no matter what be you, don't be what the world today wants you to be, the "ideal image" bs, just be yourself!

 

[chestercheeto48]

yea, I figured and I guess I could accept that.

What do you mean, I'm not in your situation, like i've told many friends?

I think he means that he has told many friends " i am not in your situation"

 

[TommyTheCat]

Don't ever do this until you're out of the house. There is no reason to do so, and it could only come with bad consequences (nothing "positive" happens - no gain).

 

[totalburnout]

WTF? You haven't knocked up enough girls yet? You're going to try to get dudes preggers now?