Thinking of Relocating

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SlushboxTeggy

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NJ is just too damn expensive. I have a good paying job and I don't see myself moving out of my parents house anytime soon. Also not a huge fan of the live to work lifestyle I seem to be falling into. I find myself stressed more often than not and that's just not how I've ever been. Plus, I've always wanted to live somewhere else just to see things from a different perspective.

What I have entertained thus far:

1. Australia- I've brought this idea up before. I qualify for a work visa because I'm in a desired profession. This idea has kind of been put on the back burner, but it's still on the stove, so to speak.

2. Utah- Park City/Salt Lake area. I applied to a job at BackCountry.com awhile back. I didn't get the job, but in researching if it would be feasible, I fell in love with the area. Cheap to live, still pretty nice salaries, fairly laid back, and tons of activities right outside your door.

3. Arizona- This just popped into my head one day. My parents vacationed out there and said that I would absolutely love it. Haven't really researched it much other than that they do have some decent snowboarding, surprisingly.


I'm kind of just spit balling because I'm bored at work with nothing to do. Certainly would like to get out of auditing, or even out of a cubicle all together.

What do you guys think? Has anyone just dropped everything and relocated on a whim? Advice to someone thinking about it? Things I may not be considering?
 
Your good paying job in NJ might not be as great in a different area, but, that may offset by the cost of living. Weather is also something to consider. Also consider whether where you choose to live is thriving, or is it a city who's town is going to go bankrupt....look at crime rates...not sure of your political views but you might want to research that as well...

I would love to move out of CT. I have been to Salt Lake, Nashville, Charlotte and those are places I would consider moving too. Nashville would be my #1 choice. I would throw that in your options if it suites you.
 
You need to ask yourself WHY you can't move out of your parents house.

If you have a good paying job, its not your income is too low, but your expenses that are too high.

After you figure that out, you need to figure out WHY you want to move somewhere. It always sounds greener elsewhere, but until you actually live there and reality check sets in that you can't afford to do it and end up right back where you started at your parents house.
80% of people I know who left came back within a year or two, usually for financial reasons.

Picking up and starting over for anything but a job, a lover, etc, is a bit of running away from problems that you think will be solved immediately in a different city. Truth is, you'll have all those problems there too, plus no friends or family near by to help/hang out with.

I think you need to ask yourself WHY you are in the position you are in. Not WHERE you are in the position you are in.

I WANT to move to new Hampshire. Why? because I love everything about the state. It's beautiful. It has culture. The people are nice. Gas is 40 cents a gallon cheaper. The government. The lack of taxes. All the parks and hiking and mountains. And it's only 3 hours away from home should I want to visit the nieces on their birthday or come home for Christmas without too much of a production.
But there's also few jobs, and not a lot of opportunity for a younger single person to mingle in a rural area. So, i'm still here. for now. And when the time is right, perhaps with a new woman who, after spending time up there, is in to the idea of relocating there.
Maybe it never happens.

But dreams are just thoughts until they are put to work. If you want it, take it. But don't do it for the wrong reasons or knowing that odds are you will fail.
 
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B You should buy some land up there, its cheap.

I would say for you to go to Australia for a year. You keep talking about it. Perfect time, no kids, at a cross roads. If you don't like it you can always come back.
 
You've been thinking for a while man. I'd just sack up and do it if you have nothing holding you back.
 
High cost areas tend to have higher paying jobs. It's a wash.

Move somewhere else and take a pay cut.

Would you rather have a $2400 mortgage, nice car and at the end of the month have $500 left over.

Or

Have a $1100 mortgage, drive a so so car and have $500 left over at the end of the month? But... feel better because the cost of living is cheaper.

Depending on your field, your income could vary from $50K-100K based on location doing the same damn thing.

Linh works in NVA, if she got a job 3 miles from our home doing the same thing, she'd take a 25-35% pay cut. That's just 60 miles between the two places. Just think what it's like going to Ohio, Indiana or other lower income state?
 
You need to ask yourself WHY you can't move out of your parents house.

If you have a good paying job, its not your income is too low, but your expenses that are too high.

After you figure that out, you need to figure out WHY you want to move somewhere. It always sounds greener elsewhere, but until you actually live there and reality check sets in that you can't afford to do it and end up right back where you started at your parents house.
80% of people I know who left came back within a year or two, usually for financial reasons.
When I say good paying, I really meant good paying entry level.

My expenses are minimal. No car payment, cheap insurance, cheap cell phone. I mistated. I can move out. I can't buy my own place. I save, it's just the cost of a shitty, small fixer upper around me is $250k+. I feel like I'll be with my parents until I'm 30 saving for a down payment. I don't mind renting either, but in NJ, a shitty studio in my area can be a large chunk of my paycheck. The chunk I currently save.
Remind me again what you do.
I have a Masters in Accounting. Currently I'm an external auditor.
You've been thinking for a while man. I'd just sack up and do it if you have nothing holding you back.
Australia would have to wait until next summer. My best friend is getting married in May and I'm not shelling out the cash to fly back for it when I only moved 6 months prior. Utah is a $300-$400 flight. Australia is over $2k.
High cost areas tend to have higher paying jobs. It's a wash.

Move somewhere else and take a pay cut.

Would you rather have a $2400 mortgage, nice car and at the end of the month have $500 left over.

Or

Have a $1100 mortgage, drive a so so car and have $500 left over at the end of the month? But... feel better because the cost of living is cheaper.

Depending on your field, your income could vary from $50K-100K based on location doing the same damn thing.

Linh works in NVA, if she got a job 3 miles from our home doing the same thing, she'd take a 25-35% pay cut. That's just 60 miles between the two places. Just think what it's like going to Ohio, Indiana or other lower income state?
Understandably. I'm more looking for a better lifestyle than a cheaper lifestyle. I'm not very "look at what I own because I work so hard". I'm more of a "because I love to snowboard/hike/climb/mountain bike, I work at this company". Again, going back to the need to "work to live" rather than "live to work".
 
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With your experience you should be able to land a good job at an accounting firm in any city you choose in America. Pick away.
 
I would say for you to go to Australia for a year. You keep talking about it. Perfect time, no kids, at a cross roads. If you don't like it you can always come back.
A lot of friends and family feel that if I leave, I won't come back. There is some truth in their fears, but because of it, I get very little support in going after this dream. Seems like every time I bring it up, I hear a list of reasons why I shouldn't. It's somewhat disheartening.
 
With your experience you should be able to land a good job at an accounting firm in any city you choose in America. Pick away.
I have less than a year, but it's in a desired profession. It took me over a year to land this job. Frankly, I think that's because of the population density of the area combined with the amount of colleges. There are lots of qualified people between NYC and Philly. Not saying I need a smaller place so there is less competition, but I want to live in a smaller place, which has the added benefit of less competition in my field.
 
I have less than a year, but it's in a desired profession. It took me over a year to land this job. Frankly, I think that's because of the population density of the area combined with the amount of colleges. There are lots of qualified people between NYC and Philly. Not saying I need a smaller place so there is less competition, but I want to live in a smaller place, which has the added benefit of less competition in my field.

How up to date is your linkedin? That's huge. Mine sucks and I still get pillaged by recruiters.
 
you only get one trip through life man, you might as well do whatever the hell you want with it
if you have the money go visit a place and try it on for a week or 2
you might find yourself a new job there and just never come back
better to try it and fail, than to live with the regret of never taking that leap

20k
 
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You should move to texas. It's awesome here. The only thing that sucks is property taxes are decently high, but no state income tax, and a sea of red as far as the eye can see....except austin...you must never go there...
 
You should move to texas. It's awesome here. The only thing that sucks is property taxes are decently high, but no state income tax, and a sea of red as far as the eye can see....except austin...you must never go there...

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Come to Texas.
 
My cousin and her husband moved to Utah earlier this year. They spent some time there on their x-country honeymoon and they just fell in-love with the place. They are both teachers and while my cousin was the only one that has a job right now they are both living comfortably. Her husband really wants to be a park ranger as he's very outdoorsy and would love to teach natural history. I say go for it. Looks absolutely stunning!
 
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