Mild rant thread, more just curious than anything: the male mind

[Celerity]

What happened to you is the same EXACT thing that happened to me from girls (any age) that I met in real life,

It's rejection, as everyone has said. Even this current girl, the MOMENT she thought I may be rejecting her, she blew up and tried to make it look like I did something. What's worse is that I almost fell for it, and then in the end had to pretend that I did to gently coax her back.

It took a real long time to get her to even think that I didn't hate her, and wasn't going to leave. things are getting a little better, because when I say the same things she gets panicked instead of "angry"

It's just a defense mechanism for the weak.

What you mean to ask here is not "the male mind" but the "weak mind'.

[94H_Ex]

^^^^I agree with cel

sounds like the dick wanted to try to get some midnight desperate laid or something. you rejected him so he blew up like a retard.

[BrutalB83]

Guys like that are just immature, period. You reject their advances, they get pissed and throw a bitch fit. They lash out at your looks and your life because those are two things that anyone might get upset over; they're easy targets. They clown on your car because it's obvious that you're into cars. It's your hobby so it's another easy target, when it comes to you specifically.

Just don't let it get to you, and go on about your business. If a guy acts like that then he obviously just wanted a quick fuck and isn't worth your time, either as a friend or a boyfriend...

Originally Posted by VTEChris

hopefully i dont get introuble for language or anything. i could have used worse. hopefully your still awake and i can get a responce....yay for responses.

I don't think you even used any swear words at all dude, lol. Don't worry about language on here...nobody cares...

[Aleaf.CRX]

Originally Posted by Celerity

What happened to you is the same EXACT thing that happened to me from girls (any age) that I met in real life,

It's rejection, as everyone has said. Even this current girl, the MOMENT she thought I may be rejecting her, she blew up and tried to make it look like I did something. What's worse is that I almost fell for it, and then in the end had to pretend that I did to gently coax her back.

It took a real long time to get her to even think that I didn't hate her, and wasn't going to leave. things are getting a little better, because when I say the same things she gets panicked instead of "angry"

It's just a defense mechanism for the weak.

What you mean to ask here is not "the male mind" but the "weak mind'.

Just a head's up, that sounds more like abandonment/ insecurity issues to me than rejection. I mean that's part of it, but mostly the other two. That's a typical girl thing, as soon as they get initiated into "crazy world of serious relationships". I'm not saying all girls do it, but a lot. Until they figure out that it really doesn't fucking matter if someone loses interest or whatever. You're the only one who can make you happy.

[phyregod]

My take on the whole bit:

We're wired to be macho. "kill food, drag home" "flex muscles, impress woman, breed"
But there is no place for that in today's society. As a species, we are robbed of so many of our natural instincts.

He, in his mind, pictured you coming over to his place, him sweet talking you, and it all ending in the bedroom knockin the boots. When you said "No" rejection set in. This sent his hormone fuled mind reeling uncontrollably. "Woman no like sloth! Sloth no need woman! Sloth Macho!!! Sloth put woman in her place!!" These things, no joke, are fueled not only by the mind but amplified 10x by said hormones.

Now sloth is vulnerable and feels the need to protect himself and strike back. Its cave man instinct. So he hits you where he believes you are weak, to put himself above you, and make himself feel better.

Problem is, sloth will end up in jail some day, because we can't follow our instincts like that. He'll be the one that robs people and beats women, because he has no self control.

[UNDR8D]

You are walking around Wal-Mart's clothing section wondering where they hid the Burberry and Gucci. Why don't you GTFO and hop on over to a Saks 5th...

[Aleaf.CRX]

Originally Posted by UNDR8D

You are walking around Wal-Mart's clothing section wondering where they hid the Burberry and Gucci. Why don't you GTFO and hop on over to a Saks 5th...

I'm trying to get an opinion man. I'm not looking for perfect, I'm looking for exceptional. I think misinterpreting things, just like some the guys on here did at first.


I'm just trying to bounce some ideas back and forth, end of story.


And btw, I like some of wal-mart's clothes....when they fit. Size zero, my ass.

[Celerity]

More Virtual rep for the R8D !

[UNDR8D]

Originally Posted by Aleaf.CRX

I'm just trying to bounce some ideas back and forth, end of story.

Don't get mad and instantly get defensive. Just hear me out. This is not a personal atack....You are misinterpreting things. You know the answer to your own questions before you even ask them. You know why this guy did what he did. It's because he thought he was going to get to nut all over your stomach then you shut him down so then he had all that pent up aggression and jizz and he had to release it and since you were the source of his frustration, you became the target. I guarantee he beat off that night and forgot all about it.

Here's an idea. Cancel your MySpace account and find safe viable outlets for your social exploits. (Once again, not a personal attack) You are like almost every girl I have ever met. You wax on about wanting to change this and that with the grandest of intentions, yet you make little effort to break the cycle. What effort you do make is misguided and more detrimental to the situation than just remaining stagnant (read: moving in with whoever it was from the site and all that bullshit).

Don't even talk to guys on MySpace. Cut that shit out. And to the rest of you who come on here and keep feeding the fire with your comments about how "ya, a lot of guys are assholes. They are just looking for one thing.." No fucking shit. If you think you are any different you are in serious denial.

Here's one for all the girls that bitch about guys being assholes:

Close your legs and open your mind.

Figure it out.

Originally Posted by Celerity

More Virtual rep for the R8D !

Thanks. I am always repping you in my mind. Even when I sleep.

[Aleaf.CRX]

Why does everyone assume I talk to random guys constantly on myspace?? That's really starting to piss me off. I'm not some myspace whore, and actually, most of the only people I talk on myspace are people I know in real life. When guys get in contact with me through the interweb, it's usually their own doing. I don't go looking for fuck buddies.


How the fuck am I not supposed to take that as a personal attack. You know, I'm done trying to explain what I'm trying to get acroos to you. All you need to know is I agree with a couple things you said, but the rest is just a huge cynical load of horseshit.

[Celerity]

I'm sorry to say, but I agree with UNDR8D. I also think you may have misunderstood what he said.

Read it again, because it's not a personal attack on you. You have to cancel this myspace page, and you have to do it now. You all need to do that. It's nothing but trouble.

Nothing good comes of myspace unless you're an advertiser. And advertisers know to go after ignorant audiences.

[Aleaf.CRX]

Originally Posted by UNDR8D

Here's one for all the girls that bitch about guys being assholes:

Close your legs and open your mind.

Figure it out.



Thanks. I am always repping you in my mind. Even when I sleep.

That's the shit that gets me defensive. I'm not the village bike and that's what most guys don't seem to get. Just because most guys find me attractive somehow, automatically means I'll put out??


As for the opening the mind thing, I think I have damn open-minded for my age. I may be opinionated, but that's a little different.

And I'm trying to figure it out. Bouncing ideas off of people's one of the best ways to help the process.

I respect your opinion, but I think what you're saying it a tad different than the idea I'm trying to get across.


Cel- You hate myspace, so I think that opinion's a little biased.

[Bl6CRX]

Honestly, Phyre and UNDR8D both hit the nail on the head. The bottom line is that his reaction and your concern about it are becasue your both young and relativly immature. I can only speak for myself, but I am WAY more mature at 23 than I was at 19-20 (however, I am sure I still have room to grow).

In one respect, life is way easier now because I simply don't have the time of day for that bullshit. My advice would be just to ignore it and move on. Its b/s and not worth dwelling upon or even trying to understand. Chances are your not going to give a crap about it in a week anyhow, keep the big picture in mind.

[Aleaf.CRX]

For the last time, I used that instance as an example. I don't care about it. I don't talk to him, and I'm fine with that, I don't know him. This is a general thing for the guys I've encountered lately, therefore, I just wanted some general advice on men that act like this. They're basicaly carbon copies of one another, so one piece of advice will work for most of the guys my age.

[Aleaf.CRX]

Okay, I have better idea of what's going on. But I'd still like to say that there are some of us that get on myspace for it was originally intended, to keep in contact with friends and family. I typically don't add anyone that I don't know from anywhere. I add most HS people and only friends I know from around my area.


How am I supposed to emphasis this part of it on there??? I mean, being on here is almost the same deal for me. I still get guys PMing me with stupid questions, just to tell me they think I'm hot, or whatever. This site is virtually no different for me.


But I'm not even talking about myspace in the first place. I'm talking about men. I've had the same EXACT situations with men that I've met through work or whatever. The point of this thread is know why these guys treat me like this. Not why myspace is dangerous and not specifically for online situations.

[VTEChris]

If a guy thinks that you have some sorta attractive aspect to you then they will see what will go on but sometimes a guy will end up letting his trouser snake take control and let all his hormones take over his brain. After all that is said and done no matter how you react it will be sorta weird because his hormones are ready for something and might not be able to get it. UNDR8D is right about all guys being assholes. I am one aswell but some people know how to hide it alot easier than others and just tend to be gentlemen. If you keep finding assholes around you just forget about it cause well most guys dont care and if they do get upset they will forget about it soon. Guys most likely treat you like this because your attractive and they think that pretty girls are willing to give it up with enough effort on their part. Young is just a horrible thing sometimes. Maturing will come to them some day and of course you will get more mature aswell. Since your not really worried about that guy anymore and just curious about why guys sometimes treat girls like that. My idea is some guys really think that girls like to be treated like that. Others are just stupid.

[Drake]

Originally Posted by Aleaf.CRX

For the last time, I used that instance as an example. I don't care about it. I don't talk to him, and I'm fine with that, I don't know him. This is a general thing for the guys I've encountered lately, therefore, I just wanted some general advice on men that act like this. They're basicaly carbon copies of one another, so one piece of advice will work for most of the guys my age.

It still sounds like you are talking to the wrong guys if they are all basically carbon copies of one another.

[invisibledemon]

well, it seems that maybe you need to work on your appearance, if you seem to meet these guys everywhere then you are doing something to give them that idea. you may not know it, but if it happens a lot, then you are.


some guys get defensive bc they dont know how to accept rejection. they cant seem to grasp that not every woman wants to have sex with them. and when that happens, they feel insulted. stupid people do stupid things. my brother is the exact same way. stop talking to people. when a guy approaches you with some kind of line like that, just tell them to go away.

[UNDR8D]

Originally Posted by Aleaf.CRX

That's the shit that gets me defensive. I'm not the village bike and that's what most guys don't seem to get. Just because most guys find me attractive somehow, automatically means I'll put out??


As for the opening the mind thing, I think I have damn open-minded for my age. I may be opinionated, but that's a little different.

And I'm trying to figure it out. Bouncing ideas off of people's one of the best ways to help the process.

I respect your opinion, but I think what you're saying it a tad different than the idea I'm trying to get across.


Cel- You hate myspace, so I think that opinion's a little biased.

I promise I was not referring to you. Just dropping a little piece of unr8d knowledge.

[khrisb]

yeah what b said. don't try to date random dudes from myspace. i try not to even talk to people on there. I can't imagine inviting some creepy slut over...

[Aleaf.CRX]

Originally Posted by khrisb

yeah what b said. don't try to date random dudes from myspace. i try not to even talk to people on there. I can't imagine inviting some creepy slut over...

Dating him didn't even come into my head. Jesus, once and for all, I don't go looking for this shit on myspace, I don't sweet talk these guys into complimenting me or hanging out with me, they find me. I understand what everyone is trying to say about the myspace thing. I get that now. I also understand that maybe I am giving off some kind of signal to these guys that I'm not aware of, I'll look into that more.


But I don't want this kind of attention and definately am not looking for it through myspace.

[Celerity]

Leave myspace. Problems over. Stop putting yourself in the areas that creeps congregate. Remember what I said about hanging with "lower" people ? They only drag you down.

Bars and clubs are fun too. you'll never find ANYTHING that elevates you at them. Turn around, and don't even log into myspace to close your account. Just walk away.

[khrisb]

you could try not buying into what every guy tells you. we tell you what you want to hear. we've figured that part out. the rest, most of us are clueless, such as that guy. just sayin. you wanted insight into the male mind, don't get mad about it.

[Aleaf.CRX]

Um, I'm not gonna get mad about it. I've figured out that guys tell you what you want to hear, at least most of the ones I talk to. But, in reality, a lot of people do that. So who're you supposed to believe when most people you talk, lie through their teeth to fulfill their selfish desires. I mean, you either buy into it, knowing what's going on, and just use care. Or you don't talk to anyone, period.


But, at the same time, I have what people like to call "selective hearing" which I'm trying to overcome. For those who don't get that concept, you hear what you want to hear, and when you listen to someone tell you something that totally opposes what you're going for or hoping to hear, you either ignore it, or get defensive. But there are some deep-seated issues that go along with that I'm not going to get into right now.

[Ethan]

So yea... Check out my myspace and give me a call 555-555-5555 and we can have some fun tonight.













*sings* Im gunna get some booty!