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Another rant about the wife....

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  1. Airjockie

    Airjockie Watanabe Whore!!!

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    Background...

    about 2-3 years ago she had some complications....actually...since I've know and have been married to here...she's always in the hospital for something....but the last time it was endomitrious around the colon, a few fibroids in the uturis, and a few cystes on the on the olvaries...huge operation...and I've been sexless since..anyways....


    just when she was getting into the mood again to do some things...more crap is happening. She started college courses for ESL (englis ans a second language), and she's been almost the prefect wife (except for the sex)...but I can live with that...but now her body is torturing her like crazy. She got a 65% on her first test...and it seemed like the very next day she became ...uhmmm....well...hard to discribe...I know it not the test that made her this way...but it sure seems like it...since she's Japanese and all....

    She woke up one day, and all of a sudden her right leg was dead...as if she had no muscle control in it. And her left leg was numb. I gave her a massage, and she was able to walk a little. Then she goes to sleep again, and the same thing...dead leg and the other numb. After a breif visit to a doctors associate that I goto for my back..he rushed her to the X-ray machine to see what he can see in his office....nothing. She's able to limp around now, and move and do things...but still, her right legjust wond move like her left leg, and parts of her left leg is numb. The first thought that the doctor had was it's a herniated disk in the spinal colume. But she has no pain. So the next step....

    We are rushed to the next available MRI, and get the scans done...and nothing. The MRI shows nothing... so then were refered t a neurologist(sp) and he looks at her, and at the MRI, and he wants more test done...liver samples, blood work, and a head and neck MRI to go with the lumbar MRI tat she just had...except this time with a die so they can see other things. That all fine and dandy....but the wife still wanted to go to classes...so I took her and picked her up last night, and I was planning to go take here to get the blood work done today...but she went to bed and she called me and said she can't move.

    I get home this morning after work, and she's in pain to even move her neck, and her right side of the shoulder area is in pain. So I ask her if she wants to go to the hospital and she declined, and she got another massage, and I cooked her some breakfast and got her some flowers and a card to cheer her up...and got her some back pain medicen and she's sarting to feel a litle better....but now I'm worried, because she still want to go to school tommorrow night so she doen't miss a damn class. Plus we have to go get all the test done tomorow morning that we planned to get done today...so I'll have no sleep again, and I'll be worried on how she will wake up the next day.

    Now for the rant part of this post.....

    How come? Why? Is it me?.....

    My dog is old, she has arthitis in the rear knee's, and hip displaysia (rotted away hip joints)... me and the wife try to make the dogs life as fullfilling as possible...pampering her and taking care of her as much as possible. Then I have a back problem where I'm in pain every fucking day, I was doing 8-16 advils just to get thru work, and I'm currently doing physical theripy for the last few months, I'm not getting better, but I am off the advil and on oxaprozin.... And now my wife...with her new problems..... plus I have the cars that needs a ton of work that I can never get to...and a house that needs attention like a muther. I only make a max amount of money, enought to actually just give everything up and drop cars and motorsports, sell everything I have for cars off and buy a bland car for everything... and the only illegal crap I do is wank off to internet porn...if that is illegal in ct?!?!?!... plus the only other real bad habits I do is smoke cigarettes and drink corona's.... sure my projects are piling up, and I'm always looking for more projects, and then two days ago my awesome Sony computer dies and I'm posting from a laptop (hard ass hell to type on)....but why is it me?....why do I always have bad luck? Sure...other people out in the world have worse luck than me...but they are the ones that depend on my tax dollars to survive..and I'm the one who does pay taxes, I'm the one that puts in 32-60 hours a week, I had my company's union strike this year for 7 weeks, and I lost a lot of money, but I've worked my ass off and I'm already past $65K's for this year..and the next 3 months...I hope to break $80K's.....Why? Why? Why?



    sink your feet into my shoes for a day.....I beg you....I would trade anybody their life for a day...... I build helicopters, I have to make sure they are up to blueprints and to safety spec's everyday, I limp and hobble around and try to find new ways to use my body to the way I could 5 years ago...I can only lift 25 lbs max now due to my back, but I have to beg co-workers to help me when I have to torque a bolt that requires over 75 ftlbs or more...I try to take care of the wife, dog and house the best I can, with what I can.

    And for the life of me...WTF....What the friggen fuck?...why can I have 7 beers, type a long ass post, and have it come out with very few imperfections in typo's, contain your attention span, and sound pathetic? I've already cracked open the 8th beer, I've already spilled my problems to thousands of internet people's, I've purged the heavy crap off my chest that I wanted to in the first 3 paragraph's, and yet I continue to divulge more info on my crappy life. I ought to become the first drunk autobiographer or something like that...if I have a keyboard infront of me, beer in one hand, a cig in my mouth and my bills paid off......I could prolly write a full book about my jacking off to asian porn tendancies with the other hand.....althought ther could be too many sequels, but I bet you would buy and read them...hehe

    Anyway's...thanks for getting this far on one of my rants again...I actually feel better just getting it off my chest and I want to get the wife to her tests faster tommorrow. Peace.


    /end another endless rant....
     
  2. BigJ

    BigJ I'm just about that action Boss. VIP

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    Sounds like you need god, because it seems you're doing everything you can and praying will get you only further.
     
  3. get_nick

    get_nick These snozzberries taste like snozzberries... VIP

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    clayton, i actually read your entire post. and i have several thoughts, probably not the best, but hopefully can help you with what you are thinking.

    as far as the job is concerned. not everybody is happy. i'm sure as hell not. i know you aren't. we can't all live our dream job. right now i have an opportunity to possibly go work at frank russell. (one of the biggest investment companies in the world) and i'm not happy. i can make a shitload of money, but it isn't a dream job. i often contemplate going back in the military now that i have a degree. i would love to go be a fighter pilot. it starts at about $75k if you include flight pay, bah and bas. pay is a little higher because i was enlisted. but i dont' want to do it because it would fucking suck. i don't have the money to build a full drift car i wouldn't mind fucking up. i feel your pain. part of life is having a job you enjoy. if you sacrifice doing what you enjoy for being able to afford a nice house and projects, you do it on your own. cut the house and all the cars, then you could go work as a car mechanic or something you would enjoy more.

    as for the dog, i'm not much of an animal person. i can't help you there. yes, it sucks. but dogs are man's best friend. two option, love it to death, or put it to sleep. even old yeller had better days.

    the wife issue is a whole nother mess. i have been with the craziest women to the most normal. hottest to some that i wouldn't show in public. i've cared for some, loved some, even hated some. the fact that she use to be your dream girl and possibly still is, is very admirable. some people are just unlucky and are burdened with health problems. this is what creates a lot of religous faith in people. i would love to find a day when i have that special woman i would do all that you do for. i'm sorry to hear that she is pretty much anti sex these days, but medical conditions do that to people. if you didn't have such a long history together, it would be easy to go out and get something elsewhere, but i wouldn't suggest that when there is a great bond. the emotional attachment is much more than any nut will ever mean to you.

    basically the moral of the story is to stick it out. some people are just born to not have a perfect life. i often feel the same as you do. why do people who can't read or do any mental function (i.e. pro athletes) get to make millions just because they are genetic freaks. you and i are the working people who are destined to work with the hand that we are dealt. i simply grind along waiting for the golden ticket in life to come along. i have faith that something will come into my life and make a drastic change. until then, i just grind and grind and grind. yeah i complain, but i keep going. so my words to you brother, keep grinding. it can't rain every day. things will get better so enjoy what you have and dont' lose faith.
     
  4. LateApex31

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    Lots of people have way shittier lives than you do. Not to be unsympathetic, but your problems may seem big to you when you couldn't even fathom the problems that some others have. Life isn't simple, it isn't logical, and it sure as shit isn't going to go where you think it is. In short, suck it up and enjoy the fact that you get a brief glimpse of this awesome universe.

    To the guy who suggested god, piss off. Praying to an imaginary friend won't change anything besides making you look forward to a wonderful afterlife which doesn't exist. The important time is NOW not later.
     
  5. jeffie7

    jeffie7 Wrong Whole! VIP

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    Lateapex31.. you just done gone and pissed god off. Just you wait. he's going to reply to you for disrespecting him like that.....
     
  6. Capt. Orygun

    Capt. Orygun Win the Day

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    do you even know what's wrong with your back? Maybe with some physically therapy you could turn that around. Yeah it sucks now but you need long term solutions so plan that way.

    life to stressful, get rid of some project vehicles. Put your time into one, and it's less chaotic to look at

    your PC died? Fuck it, one less thing, obviously your lap top works fine. Fuck it get WI-FI and you can jerk off everywhere!

    The dog... put it down while your wife can't stop you, sleep on the couch for a night to let her be mad, then go get her a puppy.

    The wife... ehh I dunno man, I would be out, but I am single and you obviously have emotional attachment so that's not actually a real solution. But do everything else and maybe it will be manageable.

    College? Buy another lap top, she can take classes from her fucking bed if she needs to.

    Sometimes we think there is nothing we can do just because we don't know where to start, but you have options, just do something
     
  7. TurboMirage

    TurboMirage YEEAAAHHH VIP

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    hes got wi-fi :) that was one of the requirements :)
     
  8. Amidon

    Amidon lessweight=morepower

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    Just so you know I speak from experience: my wife went through the endomitriosis, full histerectomy, other problems ( bi-polar, thyroid radiated away, etc.) and the oldest daughter(also bi-polar) recently had some cysts removed, and she's the oldest of three(all girls). Dog died in July after suffering (went blind, fell in the pool constantly walked into walls and shit). I'm 44 almost 45 and hate that I hurt after I do things that never used to bother me(hooked on Tylenol PM just to get to sleep because of me back) gave up all the bad habits except cigs(don't even drink much anymore). Extreme stress at work. Constant bickering at home(3 teenage girls, remember?) Way too many projects and ideas for more and medical bills out the ass.
    Sorry, what was my point again? Oh, yeah. It sounds to me like you're doing what you have to do. Taking care of what's important to you and ranting about it every once in a while to get the shit out. It's alright to hate life but you got to love hating it. And never lose your sense of humor.
     
  9. igotnothin

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    dude prayer is a nesecity when probs acure. but either way

    life can be hard. im only 19 and my mother last year was in the hospital every other week for who knows what. the docs said M/S but it isnt thank GOD. had hernia repairs and i think the cist thing to. i had to take here there and from and all of that good stuf. not saying my life is bad its not. i love it well most of it. point is that when bad shit hapens think of either the good times u had or have hope that it will get better. and Again Pray
     
  10. 90 accord

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    I wish i had some good advice, or anything to make you feel better, but soon, i may be working with you(assuming the offer is still up when i get my P :) ) [insert evil music here] pending my descision on living where white stuff comes in the winter, and i get my powerplant lisense in march :)

    my damn "official" airframe lisense better come soon.. my temp expires at the end of this month >.<
     
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  11. pissedoffsol

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    As much as all that sucks.....

    you're alive, have some good friends, and things could be a lot worse.

    The perfect life doesn't exist. It's a theory in everyone's head.

    No matter how much money one has, no matter how hot one's wife is, there's someone out there who wants more, doesn't have enough, and is tired of fucking it.

    ........... in sickness and in health.........
     
  12. Dustin_m

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    Werd. You, or amyone for that matter, could be gone at any time, so be glad that you are alive and healthy enough to bitch about whats going wrong. I hope things get better for you, but for the time being keep your head up and cherish the things around you that are important.

    "Just remember, the sweet is never as sweet without the sour"
     
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    "Wihtout dissappointment, you can't appreciate satisfaction"
    -Eleanor.
     
  14. Vosty

    Vosty "REP 4 U" Whore Member!!!

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    Wow enough of the stupid quotes already... sorry just my 2 cents...

    "Cheese isnt cheese without the cheddar?" This is the one i live my life by and it should help you in your situation...
     
  15. Celerity

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    I learned at a young age not to complain. I always remember Tom Petty's line in "End of the Line" (Travelling Wilburys):

    "It don't matter what kind of car I drive | At the end of the line | I'm just happy to be here, happy to be alive"

    Also, as a man who should be walking with a cane and/or a wheelchair by now, all I can tell you that is that you can either feel good, or you can be a fuckin man. I chose, as you do, to be a fuckin man. Never stop, always help, and keep active. I know SO MANY GODDAM PEOPLE who decide to stop being a man so that they can relax and seek comfort in others.

    Fuck that, I'll take the pain.

    Overall, you're fine.
     
  16. DwnShftPrincess

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    "you've only got one life to live and you are living it now" just stick it out. everyone has a shit load of problems. there are those who survive and those who don't. I know from first hand experience. My sister gave up and shot herself in the heart. me, i'm still hear bitching through the bullshit and her bullshit that she added to my mound of bullshit. so suck it up and be glad that you are still able to breathe and your wife is still around to smell your stnky breath when you wake up.:D and as for the dog, keep giving him pain pills (i suggest 1/2 of a childrens asprin if the vet hasn't presribed anything),put him in pampers, hose him off when he shits and rub his belly. i guarantee he'll still love ya.
     
  17. Capt. Orygun

    Capt. Orygun Win the Day

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  18. Airjockie

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    thanks guys....

    I'm still amazed that I can type nearly perfect wasted on a laptop keybaord that I can't type on sober....so I guess I should form a club...the "Drunk Writters." hehe, ohh well...Venting really does help, and to add insult to injury, the landscapers that are ripping me off are trying to put a lein on my land, the clothes dryer died last night, and I can't decide if I should take the red Z to NJ for a drift clinic on the 13th, and risk blowing it up again farther than the AAA will tow + the real drift event I want to do is on the week after that in CT. Ohh well...life goes on, I try what I can do, and press on.
     
  19. Celerity

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    What I meant to say was that you have no reason to really complain.

    And to rant about your wife ? Feh.. let her do what she wants. Everyone should be left to do what they want, and what they feel is necessary to get by.

    I'm just still impressed that she's still in the US. You know that the only reason she's here is because of you.
     
  20. Vosty

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    No way man... if it has to do with the health of my wife shes going to the doctor even though she hates needles and everything else about it...

    I would make her go to the doctor/hospital whatever and do it asap... thats just me though...
     
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