depression is setting in...

[BodyDroppedNikes]

hey guys and gals. i normally dont post my personal problems on here but i figured that every one else here pretty much does, so i wanted to spill my guts to my friends here because i know how much you all here like to try and help others out. well, now its my turn to get some help and advice because i trust all of you all here for the best advice possible (outside of a shrink). this going to be rather long so please bear with me.

1. i found out last week that the guy i rent a room from is moving out so therefore i am forced to find another place to live or be homeless again. me and a friend of mine here named Wes have been looking al of the place for a place and have a few possibilities but no real commited place yet. its not going well because the guy i rent from has baically giving me until Nov. 1 to find a place because hes already got his new place and its kind of hard when you have no cash saved up and less than 2 weeks to find a place and get it set up.

2. i've been talking to this girl for awhile and i believe i have totally messed things up with her. i finally got up the nerve over the weekend and told her that i really liked her and wanted to go out with her. well need-less to say she was shocked and seemed flattered. ever since i have talked to her that day, she hasnt called me much or even hardly got online to talk to me. she told me that because she lives 500 miles away that it would be very hard (she lives in Virginia and i live in Indiana). and yes i have seen her before and shes hella cute. anyways, i told her to think about and to take her time and let me know what she wants to do. well since she hasnt gotten online or even called, i feel like that i scared her away and i didnt want to do that. i REALLY like her and shes is hella sweet and cool too. she is also on this site but i dont think she comes here much. what can i do? i seriously like her and i always look forward to hearing her sweet voice because she makes ME feel really good which is a very tough thing to do.

3. well most of you all know that i have no license and being that i have no license, i have to get rides from people to go anywhere..including work. this really bums me out because i like to go out and see people but i cant and i know my friends (including sleepergtx here) doesnt like to pick me up to take me out anywhere i need to go. i am the type of person that hates to depend on others because it makes me feel totally useless. i hate being stuck here and all i do is sit in my room and play on the computer every single fucking weekend and i hate it. i have no cars to work on in the driveway (yet) or the means to go out and do something. im sick of it.

4. being that i am 500 miles from not only that girl i talked above, i am also 500 miles from my family, my life and everyone that actually gives a shit about me. i really miss my family and its going to be really tough because i am not going to be able to see them again this Christmas (big event in my family). i hate not seeing them and i will again be forced to spend Christmas, not to mention Thanksgiving, by myself again this year. i hate holidays now because of not seeing my loved ones. its really depressing for those that dont know.

these are basically the things that are on mind ALOT lately and i am starting to get to the point of just giving up on lots of things. i hate not seeing my family, i hate myself for screwing up things with that girl, i hate depending on others and i am damn near hating life right now. i really need help here guys and gals because i know you all can maybe offer me some good advice on what i should i do to help me out....please help. please!!



and if you want cliff notes....my life sucks ass!!

 

[civicious]

my old roommate threw me out...

my parents said i gotta leave as soon as i get my car back...

need a roommate? lol

 

[dohch22a4]

Shit, mang, that really sucks.

The best advice I can give on the female situation would be to talk to her and let her know that it's totally her decision and that there is no pressure. If she thinks she's in a good position to do things at her own pace she will be much more comfortable. Long distance relationships are tough to maintain, but with care and proper "tuning" I'm sure you can make it work.

I know what it's like not to be close to family and friends. I'm going to college 250 miles from home right now and it blows donkey cock. I have no "car friends" here and I have to deal with people I don't like all the time. The food sucks, the school is in a desert wasteland, and everything seems to be pissing me off. I'm in the same boat without a car as well. My hatch is at home being a garage queen because my dad doesn't want me to have it in a small town like Cheney. Being without wheels sucks because all there is to do is chill in my dorm with my douchebag roommate. It really sucks that you can't see your family on Christmas. My sympathy goes to you because I love my family too and being without them sucks.

I hope things turn around for you man. Here's to you finding a new place! Good luck!

 

[posol]

Honestly dude, you already know the answer. You wrote about it.

EVERYTHING you want, is back home in lynchburg. You're getting kicked out, why not move back home? Your fam is there, your girl that you want to be with is there, and you say all the time that you hate indiana. I don't see what's stopping you, other than some cash to make the move. Sell pretty much everythign you got, pack 1 bag, and get on a plane and come home. It's what you want dude.

 

[sloazcrx]

For the girl: Go out, get drunk and get laid. You'll forget about her soon enough!
The car: Life sucks sometimes, I know how it feels.
Christmas with the family: Have them record Christmas on vhs and send you a copy. It's not the same but atleast you won't feel so left out on the Holiday's. Or maybe even a WebCam might help, then you could see it as it happens.

 

[jamesA]

Originally posted by pissedoffsol@Oct 22 2003, 01:55 AM
Honestly dude, you already know the answer. You wrote about it.

EVERYTHING you want, is back home in lynchburg. You're getting kicked out, why not move back home? Your fam is there, your girl that you want to be with is there, and you say all the time that you hate indiana. I don't see what's stopping you, other than some cash to make the move. Sell pretty much everythign you got, pack 1 bag, and get on a plane and come home. It's what you want dude.

1. the guy is an ass. I hate him too. Punch him for me, and then tell him to not eat your fucking lunch meat.

2. maybe you're overreacting. Give her some time to think. You might have surprised her. Let her think about it and slowly just start talking to her little by little. The more you play hard to get the faster she'll come to you online and talk more.

3. I know you don't want to rely on other people. but fuck dude. anytime (i'm not at work) and you wanna go somewhere...fuckin ask me! Remember when I took you to Best buy for a can of compressed air to clean your computer? Good times. I have no problem wasting gas for ya man. You're cool, and you're buying my damn escort off me.

4. B (topic starter)....you know B (site starter) is right... I hate Indiana, but I don't have the luxury to leave. Do what you gotta do. But two weeks is a very small time to make such a large decision.

 

[sloazcrx]

Originally posted by pissedoffsol@Oct 21 2003, 08:55 PM
Honestly dude, you already know the answer. You wrote about it.

EVERYTHING you want, is back home in lynchburg. You're getting kicked out, why not move back home? Your fam is there, your girl that you want to be with is there, and you say all the time that you hate indiana. I don't see what's stopping you, other than some cash to make the move. Sell pretty much everythign you got, pack 1 bag, and get on a plane and come home. It's what you want dude.

Or do what B said.

 

[kyleirwin]

Originally posted by pissedoffsol@Oct 21 2003, 08:55 PM
Honestly dude, you already know the answer. You wrote about it.

EVERYTHING you want, is back home in lynchburg. You're getting kicked out, why not move back home? Your fam is there, your girl that you want to be with is there, and you say all the time that you hate indiana. I don't see what's stopping you, other than some cash to make the move. Sell pretty much everythign you got, pack 1 bag, and get on a plane and come home. It's what you want dude.

. i was thinkin' the same thing when i was readin' your post man. you really should be with your family. things aren't all bad man, at least you've got a family that cares about you. i'm sure some people back home could help you get back on your feet. but whatever you choose, good luck man and keep your head up .

 

[BodyDroppedNikes]

Originally posted by pissedoffsol@Oct 21 2003, 08:55 PM
Honestly dude, you already know the answer. You wrote about it.

EVERYTHING you want, is back home in lynchburg. You're getting kicked out, why not move back home? Your fam is there, your girl that you want to be with is there, and you say all the time that you hate indiana. I don't see what's stopping you, other than some cash to make the move. Sell pretty much everythign you got, pack 1 bag, and get on a plane and come home. It's what you want dude.

as much as i would love to move back home, i cant for tons of reasons. i cant stay with my dad and his wife because they have a little 5 year old (who barely knows who i am ). i cant stay with my mom because either because she just moved back to VA from FL (why i have no clue). plus if i move there, i want to have a job lined up already and plus i wouldnt be able to get to whatever job down there i got hired at because of not having no license to drive. i would prolly get back to VA by Greyhound because it would be cheaper (thats how i got up here).

1. the guy is an ass. I hate him too. Punch him for me, and then tell him to not eat your fucking lunch meat.

i plan on cussing his ass out the day i leave...shall i put in a few for you James?? i know Wes does...lol

4. B (topic starter)....you know B (site starter) is right... I hate Indiana, but I don't have the luxury to leave. Do what you gotta do. But two weeks is a very small time to make such a large decision.

i dont really hate it here, its the fact of not going anywhere or do anything that i hate. maybe when i get my license back it will be much better for me. and i actually somewhat like my job. i just got a nice ass raise so thats a good thing. hell, just having a job is good these days!! i really appreciate the thoughts and advice y'all. keep them coming!!

 

[Canadian_GSR]

I gotta agree with brian too man, sometimes ya have to make a big decision and take a hard hit financially to make yourself happy. but its worth it

 

[jamesA]

Originally posted by TrailorParkPimp+Oct 22 2003, 02:11 AM-->

pissedoffsol

@Oct 21 2003, 08:55 PM
Honestly dude, you already know the answer. You wrote about it.

EVERYTHING you want, is back home in lynchburg. You're getting kicked out, why not move back home? Your fam is there, your girl that you want to be with is there, and you say all the time that you hate indiana. I don't see what's stopping you, other than some cash to make the move. Sell pretty much everythign you got, pack 1 bag, and get on a plane and come home. It's what you want dude.

as much as i would love to move back home, i cant for tons of reasons. i cant stay with my dad and his wife because they have a little 5 year old (who barely knows who i am ). i cant stay with my mom because either because she just moved back to VA from FL (why i have no clue). plus if i move there, i want to have a job lined up already and plus i wouldnt be able to get to whatever job down there i got hired at because of not having no license to drive. i would prolly get back to VA by Greyhound because it would be cheaper (thats how i got up here).

1. the guy is an ass. I hate him too. Punch him for me, and then tell him to not eat your fucking lunch meat.

i plan on cussing his ass out the day i leave...shall i put in a few for you James?? i know Wes does...lol

4. B (topic starter)....you know B (site starter) is right... I hate Indiana, but I don't have the luxury to leave. Do what you gotta do. But two weeks is a very small time to make such a large decision.

i dont really hate it here, its the fact of not going anywhere or do anything that i hate. maybe when i get my license back it will be much better for me. and i actually somewhat like my job. i just got a nice ass raise so thats a good thing. hell, just having a job is good these days!! i really appreciate the thoughts and advice y'all. keep them coming!!

1. Yes. Yes please do. Better yet, Can I be there to pick you up and we can jump in my SI and peel out bad as we're ripping out of the driveway.

4. I hate it here. it sucks here. I know you hate it here cause you're bored. I got an idea...

I know you need to get out more...I do too. I had a blast last time I went to Piere's. One of these days I'll take you to Pieres man, you can get totally smashed and I'll drink one or two. We'll have a great time. Sound good?

 

[Tonyd0821]

hey thanks for copying my idea of putting all your personal problems for other people to view on hondaswap


j/k


go with the girl. move up to where she is at, if your mom lives in va, and she does too, move back in with ur mom.

sounds like a plan to me

 

[Frankie P.]

When you get stuck in a rut like that, family is all you have. I was in the same position, had to pay, but didn't have the money, and had nowhere to go. This was the first time I thought about moving out to Texas. But decided against it, because we (me and my gf) didn't even have money for gas. We both had just gotten laid off, and couldn't get a job in time. Aside from that, we needed good payin jobs, because rent alone was $1200 a month. Anyway, my mom said I could move in with her, but Kara (my girl) could not. My mom is pretty religious and if we aren't married she can't live with her.

So my sister decided to let us live in her motorhome until we got back on our feet. My sister really helped me out, she went so far as to take our paychecks every week, and keep them so we didn't spend any money. She only gave us money for groceries, that was it. After about 4 months, we had over $2,500 saved up, we had to pay rent and such, but not much. In the end we got our own place, this time played it smart and were doing great. Then I was getting ready to go to school, car registration tripled, taxes up the ass, crime in our are was bad, and California was just too expensive. Kara talked to her uncle, he invited to stay with him until we found a place or both finished school as long as we paid rent. So here I am now in Texas, saving money to move out again, this time buy all new furniture, dishes, everthing. But now we will have very nice items, leather coaches, so on and so forth. Sorry for my long ass story.



Family will always be there, when times are tough they understand. It might seem bad in the beginning, but in the long run, it will all come out better.