the filter gasket surface was clean, i always wipe them clean with a rag before i install a new filter. but that is besides the point, as i actually SEEN the oil gushing from the gasket right in the center of the head on the rear of the engine. that's how i came to the conclusion that the motor was either cracked/warped badly, or had a severely blown head gasket. only time will tell, i'll probably get a chance to look at it on sunday.
as for the cap recommendation, i threw a new one on there after i installed the new pump, so as soon as it's running again i'll let you guys know if it worked (and i saved the old one in case the problem went away, so i could re-install it and see if it was the pump or the cap.) i have my fingers crossed.