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Discussion in 'Members' Lounge' started by Black Widow g2, Oct 9, 2007.

  1. Black Widow g2

    Black Widow g2 *princess*

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    Well, I will let you all know what's going on... since I've been gone a while. Dunno if any of you noticed. XD

    Anyway, my ex husband has been giving me grief not worth my tears, however, he still knows how to make me feel like I'm a piece of shit. That's really all I'll say about that, because it's a long story that no one wants to hear.

    My grandmother was in the hospital and almost died as most of you know, but she's been sent back home and one of our family has been needing to watch her around the clock. To give my aunt a break, I had been going up there as often as I could while not working. I have been working myself to the bone... and I've found out a lot about who I am in the process. I try to not bother anyone with my problems, but that in turn makes me about die in the process. I always act like nothing's wrong or that I'm not doing anything, when usually, I'm doing too much! Basically, I find that family means more than they ever have. I think to myself 'when I'm needing someone to take care of me, I hope someone will be there' like never before. It puts a lot in perspective. My father is now having more problems than ever, same with my mom. Mysterious seizures, brain issues, diabetes, and worst off, her doctor put her on some crazy med that interacted with her seizure medication, causing her to get sick... so much so that she lost 30 lbs in 3 weeks. She wouldn't want to eat because food tasted like shit to her, literally. My father is coming up on 10 years with his bypass. He may never be able to have a replacement done because of his prior history (he has no legs, basically) so nowhere to harvest from, and the veins in his arms are not viable since the nerves and systems are slowly dying from something called 'post polio syndrome.' Either way, I'm doing my best to stay as close to them as possible and help them out. Considering my mother is not able to drive anymore, I do a lot of errands and take them places so she doesn't have a nervous breakdown. She's scared she's going to have a seizure while driving and kill herself or someone else.

    As for the 'tune' of Papadakis' car, like I thought, it didn't happen, nor do I see it in the future... great opportunity that went by. Got to meet him officially though, which was neat. Let's hope he gets his car done.

    Sorry for the long read, but I've been needing to vent for a long time now. Thank you HondaSwap for listening. :)
     
  2. TeinGirl

    TeinGirl Senior Member

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    Glad to see you post!
    Super admirable that you're helping out your family! I hope that everything tones down for you soon. I know that has got to be stressful! You have to be careful not to get too run down, remember that you have to take care of yourself as well!
    I have been overloaded with stress lately and I have become some kind of insomniac junkie, not fun.
    All my best wishes for you and your family!
    You rock my face! :wub:
     
  3. Kanned

    Kanned Beast

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    Welcome back and I hope for the best for you and your family. The world will keep spinning and all you can do is try to keep up. Your parents are lucky to have you.
     
  4. Bob Vila

    Bob Vila ɐןıʌ qoq Admin VIP

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    B16 Super Moderator VIP

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    Welcome back! I know how you feel with taking care of family, hang in there kiddo.
     
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  6. Black Widow g2

    Black Widow g2 *princess*

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    If you think you're too good to read what I have to say...



    1) My ex husband is an asshole
    2) My family members are dying
    3) Realize family is important
    4) I was gone
     
  7. Capt. Orygun

    Capt. Orygun Win the Day

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    this thread is NOT what I thought it would be when I read the title....

    lol
     
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    Battle Pope New Member

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  9. Celerity

    Celerity Well-Known Member

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    Sorry to hear that all of that is going on. With you taking care of family, are the kids with you ?

    If I'm too personal, you can say "fuck you, cel". In fact, there may be an emoticon at this point.
     
  10. Black Widow g2

    Black Widow g2 *princess*

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    That's been part of the problem I mentioned. Since the split, my ex husband has had custody of our son, and in the best interest of my other son, I also had him stay with his father. I couldn't justify taking them into a new city, home, school, etc when they had worked so hard where they were. They're happy, and that's what matters. The children and I have a schedule where I see them every other weekend, and on their holidays. My main concern is for my second son, because his girlfriend now lives in our house (well, it WAS ours) and I can see that it's affecting Tsi. The problem is, Dave is not home as often as he says he is. His girlfirend is the one 'taking my place' and I see it's not for the best. Our son needs his mother and father, not his father and his father's girlfriend. But, like I said... that's not something I really want to get too far into.

    As for taking care of my family, it's mainly a lot of driving... but it's worth it. :)
     
  11. Celerity

    Celerity Well-Known Member

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    is "tsi" a name ?
     
  12. Black Widow g2

    Black Widow g2 *princess*

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    Yes, Tsi is a name. My second son's name. Kyle is the first. I wanted to name him Zidane though.
     
  13. gomezkun

    gomezkun Yay for DOHC VTEC ^_^

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    I hear ya. Family is important and its good your looking out for them as well.
    My issue is that my parents have told me to not worry about them until they REALLY need help.

    Heh- my parents are stubborn as hell. Now I know where I get it.

    Keep your head up!
     
  14. ScrapinSi

    ScrapinSi Senior Member

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    Sorry to hear about all this... Gimme a call if you need to Talk...
     
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