In the past few years i have always said that i hated kids and didn't want one until AT LEAST the ripe age of 32-36. my friend has a son and is having one from a one night stand. I told my self not even 6 weeks ago that " i would not let that happen to me". i look back and i feel so stupid because i said that knowing that i had gotten 2 girls pregnant in the past [they payed half]. SO 1 month later; my wife "forgot" to put on her patch the sunday after her period. she told me and i knew that it wasnt there and that we had to wait until her next cycle to be safe. However, being married to a hot woman and being the horny fuck that i am. i did the dumbest thing i could have ever done. after my Bday around 4-13-07/4-16-07 while intoxicated with xanax, alcohol, and some weed. I failed to pull out during one of the best lays i've had in a while. i didnt think anything of it because she washed and it was a while before she was to have he cycle. fast forward to last night [6 days late] the ept early test kit said pregnant not even 10 seconds into the test. so this morning with her first pee of the day she took the test again and its the same result. she is my wife and i love her and i know that i may have a baby coming but i don't feel ready. i hardly know how to take care of my wife and i. i wanted to finish college, save money, buy a house, travel the world then maybe THINK about having one. i have a steady job but i only make 30k and she hardly breaks 26k. i have NO money saved and i just got a letter from an attorney saying that i owe target corp 1k for something that happened in 2000 when i was a minor. my dad might frown on this because i've not finished college and i don't have the funds. but i would make him a grandpa. my mom would be delighted but she isn't the one paying the bills. then the fact that i don't want to use welfare. i've always frowned upon people that abuse it. but if push comes to shove i wouldn't let my infant go hungry because of my pride. by welfare i mean WIC, & whatever health care my wife would need since we don't have insurance. so in this regard i have mixed feelings. when it comes to my earnings. i have the ability to double my pay by staying after work and doing outbound calls. so in that regard i feel confident that if a bust my ass i could make 60k by the time the baby in born. but the chances are slim. the only reason that i am posting this thread is because i don't have any one that i feel comfortable telling this, this early. & i think you guys wouldn't sugar coat it. ohhh i did tell my dads secretary. she is like my 2nd mom and i trust her with my life. she was happy for me but told me not to tell family or people until at least 2months. just to make sure its for real. so what do you think about this?