3. I've seen my female friends get shit on, and I vowed to never be the type of guy who's a cocky fucker and treat women like 'hoes'.
here's my problem with this. guys shouldn't have too many female friends. for this exact reason. you see them "get shit on", but you can't do anything about it. you are simply the shoulder to cry on. the guy they can vent to. the guy who is always "there". but what does that get you? absolutely fucking nothing.
here's the convo:
girl: he shit on me
guy: that sucks, you can do better
girl: i know, but who:
guy: i dunno, just have faith
girl: thanks, you're my best friend. i love you
guy: i love you too.
here's how it should go when YOUR girl gets shit on:
girl: he shit on me.
guy: he's a piece of shit. i should beat his ass
girl: no, he's not worth it.
guy: you're right, but you can do better.
girl: i just want someone i can be with AND be friends with.
guy: i've been thinking about this a lot, we're both single now and have been friends forever. lets give it a shot. i'll treat you good.
girl: well i dunno, i never thought about it.
guy: *big sloppy kiss*
end of fucking story. you are either in or out. but at least it's not the dread "friend zone"
nobody is telling you to be a dick. but you do have to nut up a little bit. a woman worth having will never want a guy they walk all over, nor do they want a guy that is "just a friend".
regardless of what you are willing to do or not, these guys are getting the girlfriends. they are getting laid. they are having relationships. but if that is what you want, you have to be assertive. it's different from being a douche.