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Just f*cking relax - Kanned's discovery

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  1. Kanned

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    So I was at a customer's house just delivering some cabinets when what turned out to be the home owner's granddaughter walked into the garage to see what the noise was. She was my age, very sweet, semi-quiet, and attractive. I looked over and said "Hey, I'm Sean and just dropping off cabinets. Sorry about all the noise.". She stepped into the garage, closing the door behind her and introduced herself as well. I heard a northern accent, so I took a shot and asked how her vacation is going. She smiled and said "It's beautiful down here, but my flight heads out Saturday to go back to NY. I love it down here, but I've been hanging out with too many older folks.". I mention how lucky a guy would be to take her out and all that jazz and she slips in that she has a boyfriend awaiting her up north. All in all, she was still being quite flirty and as soon as I drove away I realized I could've and she wanted me to show her a good time. I wanted to turn around, but of course I did not.

    So while chewing myself out during the ride back home, I stopped to get gas. I'm beating myself up while filling up and decide to get a drink. As I'm about to walk inside for some water, a girl gets out of her car and stares right into my eyes for a good three seconds. It was then that I realized I don't take any chances when it comes to women. Like Cel said, I'm practically waiting for my doorbell to ring. So I just said fuck it. I walked over to her while filling up and said exactly what was on my mind. Maybe not for the best, but I was amazed with the results. It went something like.

    Me: "Hey, what's up?"
    Her: "Just emptying my bank account, do I know you?"
    Me: "Nope, I just noticed that I seemed to of caught your eye and figured I could squeeze talking to a cute girl into my schedule."
    Her: "That's so cute, but my boyfriend wouldn't like that very much."
    Me: "That's fine, it was well worth the chance. Maybe I'll see you around."
    Her: "Was nice chatting and maybe we will."

    I know it's nothing special at all, but she didn't slap me and yell "rape!" and I think that's what surprised me. Why the fuck is everyone so anti-social these days, including me? Why don't I do this more often? I can take rejection fine, it's just the anticipation that kills me I suppose. Before even talking to girls, I'm worrying if they're taken, whether or not it will actually last, that she's out of my league and any other excuse to just walk passed her. That's absolutely ridiculous and I can't believe it took me this long to see it. Either way, I think I'm truly onto something brilliant and I hope all the single, yet deserving men like myself that don't have this habit develop it.

    _Cliffs_
    I think my penis is no longer inverted.
     
  2. Hondadude141

    Hondadude141 ¿pɐǝɥ ɹn ɥʇıʍ uıop nɥɔʇɐʍ

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    wow man good job, i know i sure as hell wouldn't do that, i mean i was working today and this really really nice girl came up and i helped her with car stuff for like an hour, and she seemed interested enough for me to want to ask her on a date, but i didn't have the guts to do it, you are going to have to teach me man!!! lol i think my penis is inverted now hahah
     
  3. Kanned

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    I'm telling you man, it took a lot to get me fired up enough to do this. Hell, I don't even going to do it again, but I'll sure as hell try.

    Just think about it... What if you were into a girl that you were only talking to just 5 minutes she said "Would you maybe want to ummmm, hang out, ummm sometime?" with her face bright red and her voice breaking like a 14 year old boy's. If you are anything like me, you wouldn't even think twice about her being blatantly nervous. Matter of fact, I would find it really cute. I find it easy to believe that most girls think the same way. Even if you fail, you'll still feel good. At least I did. Do yourself a favor and just go 1/4 of a step out of your comfort zone.
     
  4. Hondadude141

    Hondadude141 ¿pɐǝɥ ɹn ɥʇıʍ uıop nɥɔʇɐʍ

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    haha she did the whole 14 year old boy voice thing lol, i was talking to her about car waxes and she was stumbling over words and turning red, and i thought it was cute lol, she may have not looked like a supermodel but she was very beautiful to me and seemed really outgoing and i try to say something multipe times but everytime i would its like i would open my mouth to say it and something would just freeze and i couldn't....
     
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    E_SolSi Member of the 20 nut club Moderator VIP

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    That's called a vagina... :D
     
  7. TurboMirage

    TurboMirage YEEAAAHHH VIP

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    nice job Kanman. thats all it takes. a little confidence and you should be good to go.
     
  8. INJEN78

    INJEN78 HS LEGEND

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    good work man..but im like you..i cannot talk to girls..
    i get nervous over nothing...i just wish i could break it somehow
     
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    Just think of them as dudes! :lmao:
     
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    just like skydiving or bungyjumping, it's just one small step that you have to take.
     
  11. Hondadude141

    Hondadude141 ¿pɐǝɥ ɹn ɥʇıʍ uıop nɥɔʇɐʍ

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    :laughing1:
     
  12. 90_EF_Hatch

    90_EF_Hatch Señor Member

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    add my name to the list of guys that cant talk to girls well ...

    but i think that came from me being picked on all through Middle School ... those were some rough years.
     
  13. UNDR8D

    UNDR8D ...has a job!

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    This is INJEN we are talking about...they probably are dudes...:ph34r:
     
  14. INJEN78

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    god you guth are you ever gonna thtop picking on me!!!
    yea i know,but i just get nervous as hell,and find any excuse out of it
    i was fine through elementary school..hit middle school and it all changed,,maybe it was the competition from the "cooler" kids...
    it was like elementary i was one of the cool kids "top dog"
    but middle school came and i was just an average kid..not rlly a nerd,but not cool.just someone that was there..
    and highschool got worse..till i moved and changed schools,,then it got a little better,,but i had already gotten a gf(friend introduced us)
     
  15. BrutalB83

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    Nope. :D

    Yeah, sorry dude, I don't mean to always pick on, you've just presented me with a lot of good opportunities lately...
     
  16. 90_EF_Hatch

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    haha yeah, i was normal in elementary, i think where i went wrong was joining the band.
    I was basically the nerd of my grade in middle school, and thats not a fun position to be in haha.

    but when highschool came around i changed alot, im average now i guess, but i keep to myself alot. i dont really talk to any one.
     
  17. Briansol

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    practice on ugly chicks.


    seriously.


    you'll have no interest in banging them, so you'll actually be 'yourself'. say hi, make a joke, and then say, hey, nice meeting you, but i gotta go or whatever.

    you don't be an asshole to them, as it was just causal conversation.

    eventually, you'll do the same thing to girls you are interested in.
     
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    That's how you wind up on the evening news with 'Why won't you call me' carved into your chest after being followed home and watched through the window for a month. :ph34r: :D
     
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  19. Kanned

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    I laughed so fucking hard, it'll never get old.

    I was proud of myself ^_^

    I think B's advice would work quite well.

    I have no problem talking to girls, it's just creating opportunity instead of waiting for it to fall into my lap. The two major problems of mine would be A. Going up to a girl and starting a convo and B. Passing the point of casual conversation and asking for a number. I have no problem starting a conversation with someone that I'm not interested in.
     
  20. Briansol

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    Never ask for a phone number. set her up so she gives it to you.

    ie, ask:

    B: "You going to eat on friday?"
    G: "umm, probably"
    B: "cool, me too. we should go get pizza/sushi/etc/etc"
    G: "that sounds fun"
    B: "how am i supposed to find you again?"


    bam.
     
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