got it figured out pretty much, it was leaking antifreeze from the IM gasket because i was in a hurry and didnt scrape off all the old gasket (i know, stupid) and the vtec solenoid had a crack or something in it so i put my other one on it and the oil leak stopped, there is a little antifreeze leaking from one of the things on the bottom of the IM that i need to get figured out, but its not too serious