1. This site uses cookies. By continuing to use this site, you are agreeing to our use of cookies. Learn More.

Oops, I fucked up.

Discussion in 'Members' Lounge' started by get_nick, Oct 31, 2007.

  1. get_nick

    get_nick These snozzberries taste like snozzberries... VIP

    Messages:
    11,939
    Likes Received:
    1,059
    Joined:
    Apr 21, 2003
    Location:
    Washington State
    Well, recently the gf and I have been surfing on hondaswap together. We posted the halloween pictures and wanted to show them to her friends at work. So she went on here and found the thread. No big deal, we posted them together. Well, she asked if I would care if she read other threads and posts I've made. I couldn't say no, or it would look like I had something to hide. So I said, "sure, go ahead".

    Since we have been together, she asked how many girls I have been with since my ex. I told her 1, the girl I was seeing for a while. I failed to mention a girl that I hooked up because I was really embarassed that it happened and felt ashamed.

    Well, needless to say, she found the thread I posted about the other girl. And I made the mistake of lying about it, even though she knew the truth. So we had a big discussion about it. I denied it at first, then felt guilty and confessed. Things seemed to go pretty well. But I grabbed all my stuff from her place and went back to mine after being with her for the last 3 weeks. What do you guys think?

    This isn't an apology thread to her. She told me, "And don't worry about hondaswap. I wont ever, ever look at it again."

    :cliffs:
    hooked up with a girl before I met my gf
    Said I only slept with 1 girl since ex even though it was 2
    Gf found out about the hookup
    Denied, then finally confessed
    she might break up with me
     
  2. dacheat

    dacheat ..is grounded.

    Messages:
    4,216
    Likes Received:
    205
    Joined:
    Jul 7, 2007
    Location:
    strongbadia
    :( suck, dood. my take on it (from the female side) is be as honest as you can about why you felt like you needed to deny it if she brings it up again (you didn't want to disappoint her, it was an embarrassment you wish hadn't happened, etc). then explain to her that this has been a wakeup call and that you realize what dishonesty can cost you, and you're not willing to pay that, and tell her she's worth any embarrassment or shame you might feel if you ever have to confess about something again.

    she's with you because she likes you, if she's mature and sees you're being serious, rational, and honest, she should cut you slack at least once...
     
  3. get_nick

    get_nick These snozzberries taste like snozzberries... VIP

    Messages:
    11,939
    Likes Received:
    1,059
    Joined:
    Apr 21, 2003
    Location:
    Washington State
    yeah, i told her i lied because I was embarassed and ashamed of the hook up. so she understood that. but it's the fact that i tried to deny it and lie about it that is causing the problem.

    she is considering a big career change, her rent is going up $400/month in january so she has to move, and now this. it's just the compounding stress.

    she is very mature, but it's just bad timing. hopefully things work out. I care a lot for her.
     
  4. SlushboxTeggy

    SlushboxTeggy It's only stupid if it doesn't work VIP

    Messages:
    9,392
    Likes Received:
    245
    Joined:
    Sep 14, 2004
    Location:
    New Jersey
    My ex doesn't know that I hooked-up with my female roommate that is her friend. I mean............:ph34r:
     
  5. pissedoffsol

    pissedoffsol RETIRED

    Messages:
    49,693
    Likes Received:
    54
    Joined:
    Sep 28, 2002
    Location:
    Retirement Home
    rofl. she found out about the stripper?
     
  6. Drake

    Drake Well-Known Member VIP

    Messages:
    8,633
    Likes Received:
    420
    Joined:
    Oct 6, 2003
    If she can be mature about it just lay it out buddy. You were not together, you fucked up. You really regret it ect. And if you mean it she will know it. It will buff out. If she is still up set let her know that Spokane is crawling with the fuckin MRSA virus.
     
  7. Black Widow g2

    Black Widow g2 *princess*

    Messages:
    3,599
    Likes Received:
    31
    Joined:
    Oct 18, 2004
    Location:
    California
    Well, at least you didn't wait 2 years to tell her.
     
  8. nootrac22

    nootrac22 Well-Known Member VIP

    Messages:
    4,331
    Likes Received:
    131
    Joined:
    Mar 16, 2007
    Location:
    exeter pa
    shame on you for lying to her, and shame on her for making an issue about who you slept with before her.
     
  9. Bob Vila

    Bob Vila ɐןıʌ qoq Admin VIP

    Messages:
    4,670
    Likes Received:
    57
    Joined:
    Jul 4, 2003
    Location:
    Bristol, Ct.
    Big fkn deal. Who really cares, the past is the past, if she's going to break up with you about not telling your "True" number then you have nothing to worry about. Its not worth your time to deal with some immature crap like that...
     
  10. TurboMirage

    TurboMirage YEEAAAHHH VIP

    Messages:
    24,580
    Likes Received:
    696
    Joined:
    May 20, 2003
    Location:
    Central, MA
    give me her phone number ;)
     
  11. reckedracing

    reckedracing TTIWWOP VIP

    Messages:
    21,057
    Likes Received:
    1,180
    Joined:
    Dec 5, 2002
    Location:
    NY
    hondaswap confessionals snags another one...
     
  12. dacheat

    dacheat ..is grounded.

    Messages:
    4,216
    Likes Received:
    205
    Joined:
    Jul 7, 2007
    Location:
    strongbadia
    it isn't about the number, it's about the lying...
     
  13. Eros2180

    Eros2180 New Member

    Messages:
    203
    Likes Received:
    2
    Joined:
    Aug 15, 2007
    Location:
    Hagerstown, MD
    :concur:
     
  14. nootrac22

    nootrac22 Well-Known Member VIP

    Messages:
    4,331
    Likes Received:
    131
    Joined:
    Mar 16, 2007
    Location:
    exeter pa
    true, but the whole fact that he was asked is wrong. maybe back in highschool you'd ask how many driveways have you plowed out, but not at this age.
     
  15. Eros2180

    Eros2180 New Member

    Messages:
    203
    Likes Received:
    2
    Joined:
    Aug 15, 2007
    Location:
    Hagerstown, MD
    Bottom line, we as people lie about things we are embarrassed about, ashamed of, or to avoid getting in trouble. Thats the 3 main reasons for lying.

    For someone to get THAT upset over a lie that is irrelevant to her and was created to cover shame, not guilt.

    On the other hand, I DO see her point. I would be upset, disappointed etc. But wouldn't break up over it.
     
  16. Black Widow g2

    Black Widow g2 *princess*

    Messages:
    3,599
    Likes Received:
    31
    Joined:
    Oct 18, 2004
    Location:
    California
    Why would she ask if she didn't want to know? That's something that's always confused me. I'm a curious person, but I've never asked about my bf's history. We've talked about it, but it doesn't matter to me.
     
  17. Kanned

    Kanned Beast

    Messages:
    1,555
    Likes Received:
    40
    Joined:
    Jan 11, 2007
    Location:
    Florida
    That sucks, but you know exactly what's going on here. You know her and exactly why she's upset better than anyone here. I trust my personal judgment and I'm sure she does as well, so in a situation like this I would just sit and ask myself "Will she(he from her POV) honestly learn her lesson from this?". She saw the way you acted, heard the sincerity in your voice, and saw the disappointed look on your face. Hopefully she will answer herself "yes" to that question and that's all she should need instead of keeping herself upset and picking at other stuff. Good luck
     
  18. Celerity

    Celerity Well-Known Member

    Messages:
    21,969
    Likes Received:
    146
    Joined:
    Sep 11, 2003
    Currently Active Users Viewing This Thread: 2 (1 members and 1 guests)
    Celerity




    Honest injun !
     
  19. dacheat

    dacheat ..is grounded.

    Messages:
    4,216
    Likes Received:
    205
    Joined:
    Jul 7, 2007
    Location:
    strongbadia
  20. INJEN78

    INJEN78 HS LEGEND

    Messages:
    9,187
    Likes Received:
    121
    Joined:
    Oct 1, 2007
    Location:
    OHIO
    what?!?!




    and dont worry about it dude everything will prolly turn out for your best interest,everyone lies,wether its a small or big lie..
     
Verification:
Draft saved Draft deleted

Share This Page