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Pondering the meaning of life.

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  1. get_nick

    get_nick These snozzberries taste like snozzberries... VIP

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    I need some good perspective here. Steve, this should be right up your alley. So lately I'm trying to figure what the hell is going on. I have a decent career, a great gf, a motorcycle, car is kinda shitty and a nice townhome i rent.

    But I'm still having issues. I barely sleep at night. I'm lucky if I can sleep for 2 hours before I wake up. I feel like I am a prisoner to the debt that I owe (school, motorcycle, minor credit cards). Every paycheck is spent before I get it. I don't have money to go on vacation, nor the time off to do it. I don't want kids, not any time soon anyways, so that's out. I don't have time to workout anymore or work with my music. On the weekends I hang out with the girlfriend, eat food, and try to get drunk at night. I don't drink during the week.

    Every day I get out of bed, go to work, go home, cook dinner, watch tv and go to bed. As Chris Rock says it best, "I'm bored as FUCK". I'm not crazy, or suicidal, just braindead and lost my reasons to smile. maybe it's the seattle weather or something.

    So my questions.

    1)what makes you wake up every day?
    2)how do you cure a case of the "blahs"?
    3)what do you see in the future that makes you smile?
     
  2. LS_VTEC

    LS_VTEC you get the BRAKE

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    You have to keep yourself occupied. Not as easily done when you do not have spare cash to dump on hobbies. The bike is pretty much seasonal, you have been with your gf for how long? I am guessing quite some time, so the "magic" isn't there like it was in the begining BUT you do love her a lot. I am no Dr. Phil, but this looks to me like your depressed. Do you like your work? Does it motivate you to go that extra mile? I felt this way, just as you are now. I made a career change to something I enjoy doing quite some time ago and I couldn't be happier. The trick is to always have a goal after you accomplish one. Start off small, and work your way up. My goal was to become certified by ASE. I have a few cert's now, and I am working on getting all 8 for my Master certification. From there I would like to maybe even own my own shop. Always have a goal in something you love, it WILL keep you motivated. Just don't fall off track and you never know, you just might wake up smiling...
     
  3. Briansol

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    you post this emo shit and my server dies. way to go. lol

    it tried to commit suicide.



    STFU and be happy. that's what i keep telling myself :)
     
  4. get_nick

    get_nick These snozzberries taste like snozzberries... VIP

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    the career is fine. it's just a career. i used to work on fighter jets, now i'm doing finance. it's a big change, but it has been 5 years so it shouldn't matter. things are fine with the gf. we haven't been together forever. the sex is still there. i'm just feeling blah right now and really can't shake it.
     
  5. get_nick

    get_nick These snozzberries taste like snozzberries... VIP

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    yeah, i figured that would happen.

    so what keeps you going b?
     
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    coffee time

    that's about it.

    having jokes with the buds a couple hours a night is all i got really. and it's enough
     
  7. E_SolSi

    E_SolSi Member of the 20 nut club Moderator VIP

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    :slap: cheer up asshat
     
  8. get_nick

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    well, that put a smile on my face. ^_^
     
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    someone make this:


    :cheerupemobitch:
     
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    i mean shit, you're frigging zoolander. you make good money... what more do you want?

    go spend a night at a shelter if you need a reality check
     
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    something like that may be a good idea. not necessarily spending the night there, but have you thought about giving your time for something? maybe volunteer at a shelter, be a big brother or something like that?
     
  13. BigJ

    BigJ I'm just about that action Boss. VIP

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    I'm with B. Go serve a meal in seattle at a homeless shelter.



    But on a different note. I look at life like this. One day at a time, and having a good day everyday. I don't know 100% what makes me happy, but I'm getting better at being happy and not being angry anymore, even without my booze(only drank 2 days last week((turned 21 week before)). I literally am in debt up to my eye balls, and I have no job to pay my bills. I'm lucky because I have good credit so I'm just borrowing against myself(stupid, I know). BUT. At the end of the day, the bills somehow get paid, I make due, I have fun, and I get my workout on to make myself feel tired so I sleep. AND I LOVE WORKING OUT. If you only spend 2 hrs sleeping, what do you do with the other 22 hrs of the day? You don't work for more than 10 of them, or commute for more than 12 of them, meaning you do have some serious spare time. Find something that will make you happy or at least help your outlook in our shitty ass weather everyday of the week, that isn't a controlled substance.
     
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    life moves pretty fast. you don't stop and look around, you might just miss it.
     
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    the money is just decent. being zoolander doesn't help when you are tied down. but it's ok.

    i guess i just feel like i'm chasing my tail. i work to pay bills. i know that there are people who have it worse. i have never been anally raped, i have both arms and legs, and i control my drooling.

    i am just dragging ass lately. maybe the summer will cheer me up.
     
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    spring/summer should help you out
    winter can cause this sort of feeling
     
  17. daveholiday

    daveholiday Do work

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    I donno how your weather is, but mine often puts me in the pits. Although my bills are much less extreme, and again so is my pay, I can pretty much understand the "check spent before you get it" feeling. The gym keeps me happy though, and I pretty much do what I can to make time for it, but then again, I'm still in highschool, still living at home, and also don't have a significant other to pay attention to right now. As far as future? I think about after highschool, life, and everything like that. Just try and cheer up :)
     
  18. get_nick

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    anybody here optimistic, or are most of us bitter?
     
  19. 93civicracer

    93civicracer Oh, I do a little here and there.

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    I always hear life is what you make it. I don't believe it tho, I'm not really motivated enough to try to make anything better anyway.

    1) for hope that I'll find a good meaning (edit) lol not like i'm always thinking about it all the time just more like i feel like shit all the time
    2) I don't, I just wait til something good happens
    3) nothing, except maybe more money
     
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    daveholiday Do work

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    1: My alarm, to get me up nice and early for the gym.
    2: I'll usually do something that i've been putting off for a while, that way, I feel like I've accomplished something and I just feel better in general. Or, and this may sound kind of gay, but I'll eat something that is delicious, that also happens to be good for me, eg, lean steak with a light seasoning, and some dried fruit or something. Sorry, health nut here.
    3: Already stated, life after highschool and my plans working out.
     
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