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Question about Ex-Girlfriends

Discussion in 'Members' Lounge' started by YouKnowWhoIBee, Jan 17, 2008.

  1. YouKnowWhoIBee

    YouKnowWhoIBee my avatar is better.

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    Some of you may know the whole story behind me and my ex. But the short of it is... we broke up in October, because she wanted to see other people. Well we didn’t talk to each other for 2 months. Right around Christmas we started talking again, and we were building a friendship back. She got no gifts from me, and I didn’t even call her family.

    After New Years we start sleeping with each other again, and things start to be back to the good old days. We would have hour sessions and still be ready for more.. I was pumped. Well the shitty thing is... I am getting jealous of her hanging out with other guys. I don’t think she is screwing them, but I just worry she is trying to play me and whoever else at the same time. If she is I screwing them I should be in the clear, I always use a condom now so at least I am staying safe.

    I am just wondering if it is worth it to continue to be friends with benefits and possibly more later on, or just call it quits. I have been with 2 other girls since our breakup and it felt good... but my ex is too good in bed to let go. I also have 3+ years with her so it is kind of hard just to let go. What’s your honest thoughts... and I swear this time I will listen.
     
  2. Briansol

    Briansol Admins Admin VIP

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    WTF is the matter with you? this is a crazy psycho bitch that you found sitting on your car after a party???

    lose her in a ditch. seriously. there's better pussy out there. in the meantime, youporn.com

    /thread
     
  3. K2e2vin

    K2e2vin Senior Member

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  4. SlushboxTeggy

    SlushboxTeggy It's only stupid if it doesn't work VIP

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    I say use the friends with benefits. But make sure your friends first. Me and my ex (yea that one) always hooked up and it always led back to a relationship because we weren't actually being "friends" but rather SOs.

    At the moment we have finally realized that a relationship simply wont work. However, we know each other far to well and care about each other far too much to simply walk away. At the moment we are straight friends. No benefits. It may progress that way but will not go any further. Neither of us wants a romantic relationship with the other.

    One thing that helps... it's really pretty childish but when she starts getting romantic I say,"remember that girl that I fucked right after breaking up with you?" and vice versa, she will say, "remember that time I punched you in the jaw and trashed your bedroom?" While they're jokes they remind us that it wont work and re-center us. Just my .02.
     
  5. jeffie7

    jeffie7 Wrong Whole! VIP

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    Dont forget about the nights at the bar, I wouldn't keep going unless you just want some slit.
     
  6. YouKnowWhoIBee

    YouKnowWhoIBee my avatar is better.

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    Yea I am contemplating ditching her for good. She still owes me 600 bucks... but I may have to chalk that as a lose. I would like to see where we go but the more and more i think about it the same shit still goes on.

    For instance yesterday. I will type my text history with her. We originally made plans to go eat sushi at 9:30 last night...

    Me - 11:25 Thanks for the sushi after work.
    Cunt - 11:26 I had a really bad day. Im sorry. I just want to lay around and be sad.
    Me - 11:27 Why was it a bad day?
    Cunt - 11:28 Dont want to talk about it. Lets make a raincheck for tomorrow. I am really looking foward to it.
    Me - 11:29 Why wont you tell me?
    Me - 11:36 Since you havent answered by now... i presume your night was bad from another guy. So in that case... Ill go out with someone who wont whore me up.
    (call megan and go to sushi.)
    cunt - 2:43am I wish we could talk about all of the things going on right now. I feel lonely all the time.
    Me - 5:02am sry feel asleep. Stop hiding crap from me and we would be better off. I dont have time for this BS. I will call you once I get back from the gym.


    Now... call and no answer. She calls me at 6pm and tells me that she is going out to eat with her roomate. So I get pissed and ask her if we are even going to hang out tonight. She says "well i have plans but i can break them." I dont get this shit. Hanging out should not be this hard... I love sushi, and I love sex. I never would have thought it would be this hard to mix both.

    Moral of this story... same shit happens 3 months later.
     
  7. totalburnout

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    She is fucking the other guys or will be fucking the other guys.

    Get that through your head.

    Figure out whether you can accept that or not. Usually if you're out slaying other poon then its something easier to accept, but if you're sitting around and only have her then it is a much tougher pill to swallow.

    I'm the king of staying friends with ex's and having occasional romps. I make sure its good and understood that there won't ever be "anything more" and that its strictly physical, before I engage in any of those festivities, though.

    Perhaps your ex should have done the same thing with you.

    Do you have a 10lb lump next to your head or perhaps your penis? What is wrong with you that you don't think you can possibly find a better girl than the one who clearly doesn't want you?

    Number one turn off for me, if someone doesn't completely want me. I may be egocentric and some may call it selfish, but I demand of myself and those that I'm with, that they want me and only me. I have no reason to compete with any other guys. For any girl who's trying to play me or make me vie for her attention, I can find three more that would be more than willing and happy to be with me.
     
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    bro forreal ditch her gurls come and go u said u were wit her for 3 years ok now stay single for 3 more years and have as much fun as u can with other gurls then maybe u shud think about settleing down unless u like gurls thats play games or just want 2 be wit other dudes bro just have fun but if u get her pregnet then u cant get rid of her soo just walk away lol ok forreal
     
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    I'll offer you some advice that is free, but doesn't come cheap.

    Whenever you have a recurring problem, analyzing the situation and look for constants. If the problem is reoccuring, then there is a constant somewhere in the situation that keeps reproducing and replicating the same results.

    An example of this analysis would be constantly fighting with a girl. Look at the fights and see if there is a constant theme. What are the fights about? Is it always the same topic? When do the fights happen? Is it always around the same time or same situation? Where do the fights happen? Always the same place? etc., etc.

    Continue to ask yourself situational questions like this and you'll begin to understand why you are constantly revisting certain problems and situations.

    Seems simple, right? Well now apply this information.

    There are a few constants in your relationship with your ex. One major constant being yourself, the other major constant being your ex.

    Now look at your other relationships. Did you have the same problems? If you did, then its time to start turning inward and seeing what you can do to change in an effort to avoid these problems.

    If you don't have problems with other relationships, then you have to start looking at the other person and what they bring to the table. Figure out what it is about her, if this is the case, that causes conflict. This is imperative to assure that you will not find yourself in another relationship, with the same kind of person, and ultimately in the same situation.

    If you want to be happy and you want things to change in your life, you have to actively play a role in your life. Work, scratch that, fight to change these things. In the end you'll be a much happier person.

    Cliff notes;
    Read everything if you want to benefit from what I said. Most of the times I'm not serious on a message board because good advice falls on deaf ears.
     
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    wtf happened to puncuation these days? :shrug:

    imo i say leave it as friends and find a different girl
     
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    fuck her, fuck the money, and get her the fuck out of you life.

    grow a pair already.
     
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    Just another typical emo slut...

    They're all the same. Maybe you dont realize it, but it's the same as the girls that post:


    live and learn. move on.
     
  13. SlushboxTeggy

    SlushboxTeggy It's only stupid if it doesn't work VIP

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    Really. I don't claim to be a king at this. I'm a beginner. This is the first ex I'm trying to stay friendly with.

    But common sense says that if she is not your gf, other guys will be around. And in the same breath other girls will be around for you. Actually, at the moment my ex is on a date. She might fuck this guy, I've realized this. And when I go on a date tomm, she will have to understand that too and I believe she will.
    I agree with this whole heartedly. My number one turn-off for PEOPLE in general, is being shady with plans, blowing me off, or making me compete for attention. Sorry, not going to happen.
     
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    Save yourself the trouble, the time, and the heartbreak.

    Cut her loose and look elsewhere, "theres plenty of fish in the sea."

    And although your history, there are plenty who will treat you better than this bitch.

    Goodluck.
     
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    SlushboxTeggy It's only stupid if it doesn't work VIP

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    That's funny you say that. I was just hanging out with a female friend (friend-friend) and she got off the phone with some guy and just say in front of everyone, "Oh well, there are plenty of balls out there."

    I couldn't help but respond, "Actually it's, there are plenty of fish in the sea, but I guess what you said was the slut translation"
     
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    "This time she Loves me. Yeah, I know what you said before... but this time..... I'm calling from my new Comcast DIGITAL phone.."
     
  18. E_SolSi

    E_SolSi Member of the 20 nut club Moderator VIP

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    :lmao:

    LMMFAO!!!!!
     
  19. philyphreak2127

    philyphreak2127 Back in the Game

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    man every guy goes through a situation like that at some point. I wasn't with the girl that i went through it with as long but its been almost 2 years and I can't let go either even though I know its probably for the best. sometimes we guys can be retarded, and anyone who says they haven't gone through it or that it is easy to get rid of them doesn't know what its like.
     
  20. TurboMirage

    TurboMirage YEEAAAHHH VIP

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    exactly what you posted above is how i evaluate sabrina and i. rediculous, really. same recurring issues from her. not me. all my close friends up here say the same shit, but like a puppy in love i always find my way back. sad.
     
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