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Questioning life

Discussion in 'Members' Lounge' started by JermBizzle, Jul 1, 2014.

  1. JermBizzle

    JermBizzle Active Member VIP

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    Yeah possibly, and I'd be ok with that cause I don't have too many close ones.
     
  2. E_SolSi

    E_SolSi Member of the 20 nut club Moderator VIP

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    go out and focus on simply having a good time
    don't worry about being attracted to her, or hooking up with her or any of that... relax, be yourself, don't stress out about trying to impress her, just go out and have an enjoyable evening
    maybe you hit it off, maybe you don't... maybe you make a new friend, maybe you don't... who cares... just go out and have fun

    not every date needs to end with wedding bells and fairy tales
     
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    JermBizzle Active Member VIP

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    Well said, and thats all I planned on doing...thanks for the reassurance
     
  4. jeffie7

    jeffie7 Wrong Whole! VIP

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    Just treat it like a random night out. Don't over think it and don't expect anything. Just enjoy the company.
     
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    Drake Well-Known Member VIP

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    Jeffie and E have it covered. Just have a good time!
     
  6. Briansol

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    Yup,
    it's actually a GOOD thing that you're not into her. It will take all the pressure off of it. It's a good go-back-out-there move.

    Just go out, have fun, be yourself, and there's NO expectations of anything. Just don't let your sister push you into anything you don't want. o a double date. have fun, say good night. Get used to being out with other people again.
     
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    JermBizzle Active Member VIP

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    Well we've seen each other a few times now and really enjoy each other's company. We went to Asheville NC yesterday and hit the blue ridge parkway on the way home, that was fun.

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    Jeef NO MA'AM Moderator VIP

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    I know it was said in another thread, but sweet beard.
     
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    JermBizzle Active Member VIP

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    Lol thanks, its on it's way back. Had to shave it completely for a job that I ended up getting screwed out of several months ago.

    This is what it was

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    epic beard thread

    good man, just have fun with it. if it turns into something, it turns into something. if it doesn't, who cares? continue to have fun.
     
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    "Only fools rush in."

    Take it slow. Especially if you like her. Otherwise you risk poisoning the well.
     
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    JermBizzle Active Member VIP

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    I'd planned on taking it real slow, but it didn't happen. She got all touchy-feely real quick and we've already hooked up. It had been nearly a year for me and over a year for her she said. She asked afterwards what I wanted from "us". Told her I'd like to get to know her and it not just be about hooking up...seemed to be what she wanted to hear, I'm just kind of skeptical still since its happened so fast.
     
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    BigJ I'm just about that action Boss. VIP

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    Too fast amigo. If you can't be by yourself, you're no good for anyone.
     
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    A week ago you weren't interested.... what changed?
     
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    E_SolSi Member of the 20 nut club Moderator VIP

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    opportunity
     
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    yup. and it all leads to a dead end.
     
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    Yeah opportunity basically. Felt like it was a mistake then, and she just left my house again. Same things happened. Its like I want to get to know her, and she does too but she wants to hook up more.

    We're supposed to be going out for dinner tomorrow, then heading to her house...
     
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    I'd been by myself for the better part of a year. I missed being with somebody, but I don't feel like I have to be with somebody.
     
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    jeffie7 Wrong Whole! VIP

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    More sex, less dating/dinner, hit it for awhile until she gets tired of you not wanting more. All the while, keep looking else where.

    You are fulfilling a need for her, she wants to get laid, she is fulfilling a need for your nuts, they want to discharge. win win. But the minute you start adding feelings into the picture, break it off ASAP and run.
     
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    JermBizzle Active Member VIP

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    I'm not wired like that lol. I think she'd be ok with what you're saying, and I wish I was, but I don't know how to not get feelings for someone.
     
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