If you aren't wired like that, you understand you are being a sadomasochist right now and are ultimately punishing yourself, right? You can't possibly be over your last relationship even if it was a relationshit. It lasted years and up until a month ago, you wanted to save it. And let's call a spade a spade. You weren't alone for a year. You may have felt emotionally alone but that's very different than not having someone. You're proving that right now by your inability to NOT be with someone when the opportunity arises. E hit the nail on the head. Like on the MF'ing head. The only thing that has changed is the opportunity. I'm a firm believer that men and women suffer from an inability to be alone based on their lack of confidence that they will ever be able to get someone again or find someone as good. If these people always thought they could get someone better and they were confident, then they would leave their relationships and go out and find that better person. Sometimes you just have to take a leap of faith based on your confidence in your abilities to put your life in an as good as or better than previous situation.