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Questioning life

Discussion in 'Members' Lounge' started by JermBizzle, Jul 1, 2014.

  1. totalburnout

    totalburnout Well-Known Member VIP

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    If you aren't wired like that, you understand you are being a sadomasochist right now and are ultimately punishing yourself, right?

    You can't possibly be over your last relationship even if it was a relationshit. It lasted years and up until a month ago, you wanted to save it.

    And let's call a spade a spade. You weren't alone for a year. You may have felt emotionally alone but that's very different than not having someone. You're proving that right now by your inability to NOT be with someone when the opportunity arises.

    E hit the nail on the head. Like on the MF'ing head. The only thing that has changed is the opportunity. I'm a firm believer that men and women suffer from an inability to be alone based on their lack of confidence that they will ever be able to get someone again or find someone as good. If these people always thought they could get someone better and they were confident, then they would leave their relationships and go out and find that better person.

    Sometimes you just have to take a leap of faith based on your confidence in your abilities to put your life in an as good as or better than previous situation.
     
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  2. BigJ

    BigJ I'm just about that action Boss. VIP

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    Great advice. This is why Ian was my pseudo life coach that I brought all my problems to while I was in college. If only I listened to any of the advice.....
     
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  3. JermBizzle

    JermBizzle Active Member VIP

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    Going to dinner tonight, but I think tonight will be it with her. If things had started the way I wanted, it'd be a different story, but they didn't.
     
  4. Briansol

    Briansol Admins Admin VIP

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    keep her around if you want... have fun. just don't fall in love with her. if you can't do that, you probably shouldn't be having dinner with her
     
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    JermBizzle Active Member VIP

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    I really don't know that she wants a full blown relationship either, so that's gonna be the plan
     
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    Briansol Admins Admin VIP

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    just TELL HER you're not looking to get involved.. just looking to have fun. Maybe she isn't either... there's no harm in being honest.
     
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  7. invisibledemon

    invisibledemon Bored Moderator VIP

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    fuck that. tell her you love her. then piitb, and never talk to her again
     
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    jeffie7 Wrong Whole! VIP

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    Make sure you take pictures. Since you've moved on. Don't forget the pics or the ex too ;)
     
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    JermBizzle Active Member VIP

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    Well she didn't want it to be just casual, so you can write that one off.
     
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    jeffie7 Wrong Whole! VIP

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    Good. Glad it worked out.

    Now you can focuse on yourself and find someone who you really want to be with. No settling needed.
     
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    Jeef NO MA'AM Moderator VIP

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    How the hell is everything going?
     
  12. JermBizzle

    JermBizzle Active Member VIP

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    I was going to say pretty good, and I guess I am doing fine, but its probably not for the right reasons. When I stop and think about how I'm doing, I'm not in much better shape than I was when I made the thread.
     
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    well, what are the reasons
     
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    JermBizzle Active Member VIP

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    Not where I want to be.. But I'm making it, I appreciate you asking.
     
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  16. JermBizzle

    JermBizzle Active Member VIP

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    Just wanted to stop in & tell all you guys (& gals?) that I really appreciate your help, advice, pm's, inspirational pics, etc. It all meant & continues to mean a lot to me. Funny, I made this thread 1 year & a day ago...don't know what caused me to think of this thread this evening.

    As far as me? I'm doing some better I guess. I'm with a girl who is really good to me, and likewise me to her...we match pretty well. I still really struggle staying happy, but it's just a day to day battle I guess.

    Anyway, I hope everybody has a great holiday weekend! I have the next 3 off after working the last 12, so that's a big relief. I definitely plan on getting the bike out...I still ride quite a bit & love every second of it.

    Have a good one!
     
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    I was just thinking about you the other day... i was wondering where you were... haven't posted in a while.

    good to hear things are looking up and up. being happy is hard sometimes with all the life shit that comes at ya. everyone struggles with it to some extent. But you gotta take control of it for yourself because no one else will do it for you.
     
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    Xanatos Village Idiot VIP

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    @JermBizzle Read through this whole thread on a whim, i'm glad you're doing well. Also nice to see the community rally around one of their own.
     
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    JermBizzle Active Member VIP

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    I apologize for the absence, but I visit very few forums anymore & just don't really ever think of them. I appreciate you as much as anyone though!

    @Xanatos Thanks! There are definitely some good people on here! Some of them went so far as to pm me their phone numbers...really great of them.
     
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    JermBizzle Active Member VIP

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    I still think about doing this all the time...not good I guess.
     

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