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Questions for those who have dealt with substance abuse

Discussion in 'Members' Lounge' started by SlushboxTeggy, Sep 19, 2010.

  1. SlushboxTeggy

    SlushboxTeggy It's only stupid if it doesn't work VIP

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    Here's the deal, a friend got into an accident last summer. Got prescribed pain killers and got hooked. Developed an issue, beat it himself without any knowledge to anyone. Relapsed. Beginning of the summer I caught him with over 50 pain killers and over 20 Xanax (which he stole from me). Right there and then we had an intervention. He was pissed, threatened to move out, but eventually calmed down and agreed that he needed to stop. Kicked it again.

    Well my brother just handed me a pain killer in a little baggy that he said he took from my friend. Where do I go from here? Obviously I have to confront him again, but he can't move out. If he gets pissed and does, we will lose him. I don't want this to become a cycle. I want to kick this thing to the curb and be done with it.
     
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    Honestly an inpatient program is the best choice. Recovory is more than just "quiting" it's getting the tools to deal with triggers and stressors. And most importantly there is nothing anyone can say or do until he his ready to get clean. It took a woman fracturing her own skull on a brick wall leading to him doing CPR for an hour for the EMTs to show up. For my brother it was the shame of disipointing our family with his actions. But in any case really it's up to him. Be as supportive as possible and make contact with an impatient program that he may be able to get into. But inpatient is very expensive hope this helps some. I can speak to my old man if you have specific questions
     
  3. SlushboxTeggy

    SlushboxTeggy It's only stupid if it doesn't work VIP

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    He wont do inpatient. I know this. In all honesty he needs to talk with someone. I know what brings about the depression that causes him using again. The problem is, I don't know how to force him into it. I have a friend from school that is a guidance counselor. I'm going to talk to him about it and see if he can talk to him or convince him to go somewhere.
     
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    i wish i had some video of my friend Josh.. this guy has lost it he's takin so many pills... literally sounds like hes drunk all the time
     
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    BigJ I'm just about that action Boss. VIP

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    I lost my brother for 14 years and 9 months to oxycontin. If you want hit me up on PM.
     
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    There really isn't anyway to force someone who is using to seek help. Short of a court order but even then you learn to play the system and do what needs to be done to "graduate". Being as supportive as possible and arranging options for your friend is the best thing you can do. If he does decide to try and get off himself you need to keep a very very close eye on him. If he is using a lot then the DTs are going to be a serious concern.
     
  8. SlushboxTeggy

    SlushboxTeggy It's only stupid if it doesn't work VIP

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    That's what he was like the second time. Would literally pass out standing/sitting up. I don't want it to reach that again. What he's taking now isn't as strong, but I figure its just a matter of time before he's taking lethal doses again.
     
  9. SlushboxTeggy

    SlushboxTeggy It's only stupid if it doesn't work VIP

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    Sending one now.
     
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    Sorry about your friend man. Ive got friends like that. If he is using things like this in the house and the cops show up - everyone gets in trouble, not just him... i dont know how deep he is into this but its always something to think about.
     
  11. SlushboxTeggy

    SlushboxTeggy It's only stupid if it doesn't work VIP

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    Pill heads are a huge problem in my town in recent years. Even when he was at his worst, it wasn't enough to attract police attention away from other people.
     
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    In 10 states, accidental death by prescription drugs is higher than vehicular accidental death.
     
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    A guy I know has a $100/day pill habit. It's gotten so bad that he steals from his friends and family to support it. He has stolen from my parents, my brother, some friends, but never me personally, probably just never had the opportunity. I heard the police busted him for breaking into a house and there's a record of him pawning jewelry like 50 times in the last 6 months, obviously stolen. I've known him for nearly 10 years, I really can't do anything but try to exclude him from my life at this point. It sucks cause we used to be really close. And I've never had the chance to really confront him since nothing has happened to me specifically. But I can't just be all buddy buddy with him knowing what I know now.

    Just sucks :(
     
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    hey i had one of those

    i stopped talking to him a few years back and dont really talk to anyone that does still associate with him

    we were pretty much best friends for 10 years or so... then he fell into the pills... i tried to help him out of it... but he wanted to be a pill head more than he wanted to not be a pill head

    so about 3 years ago i washed my hands of it all

    last i heard he went to jail for fraud, identity theft,and some other shit... got sent to rehab... knocked some bitch up in rehab... and i think went back to jail... as far as i know he is back out now... but honestly as far as i am concerned, he is dead to me
     
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    I want to be your friend.
     
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