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So my GF is breaking up with me.....

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  1. 92civicb18b1

    92civicb18b1 The Trisexual

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    She's pulling the it's me not you bullshit. It was pretty random, we've been doing great so I don't know what's up but I'm not happy about it.
     
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    INJEN78 HS LEGEND

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    kill her...thats what i would do...

    nah but seriously..ask her what the problem is..and tell her to be straight up..
     
  3. invisibledemon

    invisibledemon Bored Moderator VIP

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    damn, sucks.

    just try to figure out what the major issue is.

    if its another dude, fuck it, let her go.
    move on.
     
  4. 92civicb18b1

    92civicb18b1 The Trisexual

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    I've been talking to her for a couple hours now. it isn't someone else and I believe it, she has her son and doesn't go out much, regardless that's not my worry.

    I didn't cheat on her and I've been extremely good to her and she's been great to me, this is out of the fucking blue.

    I love this girl and don't want to let her go, i need to figure out what the deal is.
     
  5. jeffie7

    jeffie7 Wrong Whole! VIP

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    That sucks, at least shes being honest and isnt screwing around behind your back. Just let her go, give her space, and if she has any doubts that might help clear them up and she'll either come back or know she made the right choice saving both of you time.

    Sucks when it happens, I still think about Rachelle a lot but I'm much happier now.
    to say I don't miss her would be a lie.but again. its better now then it was back then.
     
  6. invisibledemon

    invisibledemon Bored Moderator VIP

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    punch her in the back of the head and say: "what it is bitch!"
    jk
    seriously though.

    good luck with that.
    maybe just comming into a depression?
    whats her work life like?
    maybe she just feels stuck in one place and this is the easiest thing to change in her life so she's acting on it.
     
  7. BigJ

    BigJ I'm just about that action Boss. VIP

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    man that blows. Just when you think things are going smoothly, you have to be reminded why it is smooth, and that there are still bumps.






    But don't be a girl about it. Girls like to walk out on guys that are being girls about them leaving. It gives them emphasis on not being there. But I'm not saying don't be an ass and act like you won't miss her or someshit to her. You probably know what I mean.



    At that I hope everything works out.
     
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    Celerity Well-Known Member

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    Read up on the usual, Ladder Theory, Golden Parachute theory, and relationshit.com


    All of these things make pretty much anything that happens in your relationships make sense.
     
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    daveholiday Do work

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    I agree, at least it's not another guy. Just talk to her, and let her do her thing. If she comes back, she does, but don't chase her. IMHO and shitty experience, if she has any doubts for whatever reason now, even if you work things out, it'll be different than before.
     
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    AHHVTEC Well-Known Member VIP

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    well this is what i think if she is saying its not you its me, 2 things she just flat dont have feeling for you anymore or there is another guy that has got her interest
     
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    Celerity Well-Known Member

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    Yup. Golden Parachute. The first assumption is based on her being a stable and secure person. Less than .001% of the people in the world fall under this category. Chances are, your woman - as 99.9999999% of the world will do, "doesn't let go of one branch until she has grabbed onto the next".

    It's one of the worst parts of the human condition, the suffering of knowing each other. The worst thing you can do to a human is expose them to another human.
     
  12. 92civicb18b1

    92civicb18b1 The Trisexual

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    One of my pronlems is I'm deeply in love with her so for me not to act like a little bitch is hard. I have no choice but to let her go, I just really don't want to.

    She says she wants to stay friends and still hang out and talk, it just aeems real hard to do that.
     
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    AHHVTEC Well-Known Member VIP

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    dont be friends with her until you have no feelings for her anymore or it will get bad
     
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    Celerity Well-Known Member

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    That won't happen. You're not friends. I think you and I should be friends, and you should come up to CT every weekend and take me out to lunch. We should be friends.

    You have friends, you have family, then you have your woman (Or man, whatever way that gate is swinging next time). Never the two shall mix.'

    I've been with my girlfriend for 14 years. If we broke it off, I would never talk to her again. It's not happy, but it's realistic.
     
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    AHHVTEC Well-Known Member VIP

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    :werd:
     
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    BigJ I'm just about that action Boss. VIP

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    Yeah man it will be, but avoid it. Seriously. Girls always want guys to have on the back burner. I've been that guy and it hurts.
     
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    Civicsolidus Fixer Upperer

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    My girlfriend did this same thing. Wouldn't give me a straight up answer as to what brought up the whole thing of breaking up and "needing space". I gave her a little more space than she was asking without being a jerk and ignoring her and she begged me back...and now we are married. Maybe just treat her like a friend like she is asking and she'll realize that a "friend" wasn't what she really wanted you to be. Give her support whatever the problem is.

    Don't suffacate her and don't abandon her
     
  18. INJEN78

    INJEN78 HS LEGEND

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    you are a smart mother fucker...


    dude just listen to cel..come up to ct an all the ct members can chill
     
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    werd. that could be it. My gf has done that a couple times, where she gets upset and thinks that it's possibly our relationship that's the root of any problems. She eventually realizes that the problems aren't really between us, but other things. Sometimes it's easy to blame the other person in your life for stuff, but its not always the truth.
     
  20. 92civicb18b1

    92civicb18b1 The Trisexual

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    yea it;s worth a shot
     
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