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the sunday night work rant :X

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  1. pissedoffsol

    pissedoffsol RETIRED

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    i should be out with the g/f right now... but no. i'm home. working.

    made plans yesterday to see knocked up with her tonight.

    today i get a message around 5pm that one of our new clients is flipping out that we havne't done anything yet (mind you, they have a late august launch date, and their site is fairly easy... 3-4 weeks of work, tops) so we've been focusing on 2 other clients who are launching at the end of june.

    so, 5pm i get a message saying hay, we need their template done by tomorrow.

    i'm about half way done with it now... but i had to call her up at about 6 and break our plans for the 730 movie because of it. so now i feel like an ass for backing out last minuet on her. she understands and isn't remotely mad/upset about it... but i feel like i put her off.

    the real problem is that this will certainly not be the last time this happens.
    hell, i'm on call all next week, so i can't really do anything with her other than hang out around the house or something really local/close at which point i may need to leave at a moments notice.


    those of you who work a lot or have last minuet schedule changes... how do you balance your professional and social lives, so that neither ends up hating you?
     
  2. TurboMirage

    TurboMirage YEEAAAHHH VIP

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    i take her with me to work :)
     
  3. YouKnowWhoIBee

    YouKnowWhoIBee my avatar is better.

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    your allowed to bring blow up dolls to the office? LUCKY :p

    Me personally, i have my shift changed every week, so i could be 7-4, 8-5, 10-7, or 12-9. But my off days stay the same. I live with her so when i get off early we make plans... but tonight it is a 12-9 week, so i go home, do laundry and watch a movie.
     
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  4. vtecsir1

    vtecsir1 Senior Member

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    I work around 55-60 hrs a week. Im getting married in Nov. so its a little different but I try to make the time we do spend together meaningful. It has to be a swinging door though too, you cant be all but hurt when she has her work/social demands. I think thats what helps my situation, flexibility. Try to do some things like you are already doing, cooking dinners, go for Ice cream things like that.

    Dangle something out there like how about when I get some free time in the next week or 2 I will fly us somewhere close by for lunch and dinner and then back. If you always have to break plans and are always on call it may be very difficult to start or continue a relationship.
     
  5. formby

    formby learning in progress

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    i think that if you are honest and explain the work situation she wont mind... just remember to make it up to her...
     
  6. get_nick

    get_nick These snozzberries taste like snozzberries... VIP

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    "knocked up" is not a good date movie IMHO.

    if she is ok with you breaking plans to work, that makes her that much better.
     
  7. pissedoffsol

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    bah, its a funny movie that we both want to see. i don't need "date movies" to go hang out with someone
     
  8. pissedoffsol

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    anyway, i'm done now.

    5 hours, afterhours.

    and i'm billing for 10. :)
     
  9. Celerity

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    I agree that Knocked Up isn't a good date movie.

    Keep things light and fluffy, and off the topic of dating. Shit, it was awkward to watch it with my wife.

    See Shrek 3.
     
  10. BigJ

    BigJ I'm just about that action Boss. VIP

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    It's hilarious, and I would have taken a girl to it if Iwasn't such a pansy these days.
     
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    B, you're the guy that says if a girl can't handle how you are then she doesn't deserve you and yodda yodda yodda.

    This is you, this is your life, this is your livelihood. Why are you making it an issue if its not an issue for the girl?

    You balance your social life and professional life by understanding you have work commitments that when placed upon you with a sense of urgency from management, that need to come first and foremost. You don't beat yourself up, you understand that this is work, this is life and you can't control every element of life so don't beat yourself up over that which you cannot control.

    You're a week into a 'relationship' (you've seen each other a handful of times, she can't even qualify as your girlfriend yet), you shouldn't have this chip on your shoulders, already. If you do, its a bad sign for the future.
     
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    REWIND

    wife?
     
  13. get_nick

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    he always calls sue his wife.


    yeah, when i work late nights i take katrina with me. shes kinda fascinated by what i do so its all good.
     
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    GF? you guys are official?
     
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    Capt. Orygun Win the Day

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    Is B finally gonna get laid?

    this could be a sign of the end times fellas...
     
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    how is a funny ass comedy NOT light and fluffy? i dunno... i think you guys are looking into it too much.
    we saw pirates last week, and shes already seen spiderman, and we both want to see this. I don't see what the big deal is about WHAT movie it is.

    well, it kinda was. She initially thought bad things.

    Here's how it went down:

    night before: plans to see a 7:15 movie. theater about 20 min away... meet up around 6- 615 or so...

    5:45, i get a call from my boss with the error.
    6pm i get a vm from her (my phone didn't ring for some reason) with her seeing whats up, etc
    6:10, i send a txt message saying that i have to bail on her and that i'd call her in a few to explain (as i was making client calls and talking with my boss at the time trying to get everything in motion... didn't have time for a phone call, but wanted to let her know)
    615, i get the notification that i have vm after i sent the txt. i call her up. tell her something at work came up and i can't go out and blah blah. short and sweet, as i have shit to do.

    do my shit.
    talk to her again around 9:45

    i explained what happened in more details. I told her that unfortunately, this is part of my life, i work in a 24/7 business, and at any time i can be called away for something that i have to handle. I'm the senior developer. Other than my boss, i get the call first. It's my role to handle shit or PM it out to who can.
    She said she understands but she was a little shaken up by it at first. She thought i was just blowing her off because A) i didn't pick up when she called (cell phone fucked up...) and B) it was totally last minuet C) something she did/said the day before or whatever D) I lost interest in her and/or found someone else.

    So, I guess she called mike's wife all hysterical sometime between 630 and 930 (remember, thats like her best friend and who set us up in the first place) trying to find out why i blew her off, etc etc... (i found this out from mike around 1030, not from her on our 945 call)

    So, obviously what i did gave her a scare. it made her feel like i was blowing her off or didn't want to see her any more, and that work was just some lame-ass excuse.
    Unfortunately, its the truth. and i have the website i built tonight to prove it.

    When we talked again at 945, everything was fine. i gave her the full story, and told her that i feel bad about everything, and that it wasn't a lie, and that i really wanted to see her tonight, and all that. And she jokingly says, 'you know, you can just tell me that you took someone else out'. So i replied "yeah, i met up with this supermodel and we went to the movies instead and she paid for everything" in a very sarcastic tone of voice which made her laugh and broke the ice.
    So, all is good. She realizes that i wasn't trying to play here and that my reasoning was legit, albeit shitty. I'm planning to see her tomorrow, even if it is just laxing at the pad and watching some tv or something.


    Yeah, i know this. My issue is how to relay this without putting work first.
    I don't want to but either first (work vs social life). I want a nice 50/50 balance, but i'm afraid i won't be able to give that ratio.

    Granted, it is very early.... but its also my 2nd longest relationship ever. Yes, 99% of girls i meet/date lasts a day or two because i find out something i don't like or theres something about her that i can't stand, and know i won't ever stand, so i move on.. And other than my 9 monther back in the day, this is #2, with lots of potential to break my record. So, obviously i like the girl. she's fun, cool to hang out with, and we're getting along great. I see no reason why this won't last for at least a couple months at this point in time... with lots of potential to go further than that.

    it's a common term around here. everyone refers to their g/f as "the wife"

    god, i'd be bored in 5 min watching me code. lol i would never torture someone with that. my job isn't so much hands on as yours is.

    i really don't give a shit about titles or making things "official". it is what it is.
    she likes me. i like her. neither of us are seeing anyone else. we talk daily, we're going out from time to time and so forth... so label it what ever you want.
     
  19. jeffie7

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    I'm the same way but I hate when a girl jumps to the BF/GF title. I prefer the term dating. =) makes it seem less exclusive.

    so when are you starting up www.pissedoffsolsladiesinbed.com porn site? =)
    $19.99 a month X how many HS members? just think of all the fun things you could do with that money =)
     
  20. get_nick

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    for some reason i don't think i could fap to pictures of b. sorry man.
     
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