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Vent--Life, Love..confusion--Long

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  1. corvetteguy78

    corvetteguy78 Well-Known Member VIP

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    Vent--Life, Love..confusion--Long-Pics added

    So I had posted before that my Fiance and I had departed, which I am completely fine with, as it was my decision. I have the condo the dog all my stuff etc...

    Well what i left out was that part of that whole situation was that I had met a girl who made me realize how unhappy I was. I wasn't cheating or anthing but after the EX moved out, me and this girl were hanging out ALL the time. going on 6 months now. We figured it was just going to be a fling etc....but In all honesty, I fell in love with this girl, and she did with me.

    About a month ago she dropped a bomb on me, she was moving away, far away, across country. She left Sunday. It wasn't her fault she lives with her parents, it was there decision, her grandfather is sick. She is also from the west coast and she hated it here. She lived here for 5 years.

    Here is where it gets complicated....We decided to be commited as there was talks of her going out there for awhile and doing what she had to do and possibly coming back. I know what your thinking....Trust me, I've broken up with girls for moving 45 minutes across state...thats how much I don;t do long distance relationships, i never have, never thought I would. But this girl is different, she makes me completely happy. I haven't found a reasonable flaw yet. I could pick out like 10 with my Ex in the first 3 months.

    She's called me atleast twice a day so far. She tells me she loves me and misses me etc....

    So here is another doosey.....If she comes back, she's not going to want to live here on the east coast. But thats ok with me, because I am willing to move for her. And it's not jusy her, it's for me as wel. I;ve never gone anywhere really, no real vacations, never been to Mexico or Cali or Europe or anyting like that. I;m boring and I feel I need to go out and experience some of the world, or at least other parts of the US.

    So this is my life, hondaswap forum style.
     
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  2. TurboMirage

    TurboMirage YEEAAAHHH VIP

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    dude, find another girl. cali is just... too different.
     
  3. reckedracing

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    maybe you should go visit her 1 month out
    see if the feelings are still there and if you like the area

    its always a whole new ball game once you LIVE with someone
     
  4. corvetteguy78

    corvetteguy78 Well-Known Member VIP

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    lol thats exactly the plan....

    It's not Cali FYI...It's....Utah :(
     
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    +1 for visiting her. Give it a little time for her to figure out if the move is gonna be long term or not, then go from there. why sit back and wait for her to come back to you when you can, and sound like you want to, go to her?
     
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    How long were you with the fiance?
     
  7. HelixB18C1

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    choose wisely. I hate to get all sappy but i was kinda in your shoes once however the out come had a huge FAIL sign on it... my only advice is prepare for the worse and never neglect your freinds nor families because they are the ones that are gonna help you up when your down.
     
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    All I can say is that Utah is awesome. The people suck, but Utah is awesome. :D
     
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    Also something to consider... Are you really in love with this girl, or is this a rebound and you are just happy that she has things about her that your ex didn't have? It may very well be for real, but I'd think about it carefully. If it were me, and I came to the conclusion that I really had found someone to be with, I'd move in a heartbeat.
     
  10. SlushboxTeggy

    SlushboxTeggy It's only stupid if it doesn't work VIP

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    You broke up with girls over moving 45 minutes away? I don't think I've dated a girl that wasn't about 45 minutes away. The ex was around 30 minutes. Last summer the girl was over an hour north. That chick Meg was about an hour and a half south. And the new girl I'm taking to is about 45 minutes south. Maybe I like a little distance, who knows?

    But I was thinking about moving to Myrtle Beach with the girl Meg so I know the feeling. I felt a certain way and would regret not knowing what could have come of it. Luckily for me her mind changed over night. Instead of MB with me, stay in Jersey and go back to her ex, fun fun. Still a little salty about that one.

    But as much as we can offer advice and things to consider, the final decision is yours. Just make sure that even if it is an emotional decision, you have also looked at the situation from a rational stand point.
     
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    utah? wtf are you going to do in utah? lol

    if you're bored here, you're going to hang yourself there
     
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    SLC punk And utah jazz . thats all i know about that
     
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    Dude, we gotta get together for a coffee or something.

    I have the answers for you. :)
     
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    ever in dallas tx hit me up, wonder if any one on this site go to races around here?
    sorry off topic
     
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    lol

    i think scott would probably make it 5 min before he stands up and says 'WTF is wrong with you?'

    lol
     
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    Mine and Scott's predicaments are very similar. And I'm crazy enough to give ideas that may be "better" but are definately "Different".

    I'm also willing to bet that Scott and I are more similar than different
     
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    sorry im speechless care to share? cel
     
  18. corvetteguy78

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    To answer a few thing sin no order....

    1. no she is not a rebound in anway way shape or form.....trust me on this one
    2. I dated my Fiance for like 2.5 years, lived with her 95% of those years. I was unhappy for the past 7 months in our relationship, but with teh Condo, Dog, 2nd Mortage, Marriage plans, i felt trapt and not able to say anything...
    3. Celerity PM sometime :)
    4. yes I really in in love with this girl...i know this because of the things i am willing to do for her...I can be banging chicks np left and right but I don't even want too
     
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    Here is an interesting thing for you...

    You know the Goth girl from my thread ?

    I'm still in love with this girl. So before you go on, you look around. That said, I'm all for love - Cel is a softy.

    PMs suck. We live like 20 minutes away and every minute on the 'net is a minute off my bike.
     
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    man if u moved to utah i could totally get u a job fast.
     
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