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Maybe? Could it be?

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  1. jamesA

    jamesA Well known pissed off telephone guy VIP

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    Could it really be over? Oh noes!

    This is going to be long and involved, Cliffs may follow... maybe...

    *Background* My 34 year old cousin (unrelated bloodwise mind you) broke up with her husband of 11 years, etc. She had no place to go so she called me up because she'd asked if she could move in earlier. I'm more than happy to let her in and stay here since last June. She has her 14 year old son who I'd always known to be a pretty damn good kid...

    Fast forward a few months, he gets busted with cigs. A month later he gets busted for stealing shoes and is now on probation. I have to deal with this shit, I have to deal with her being home constantly, I have to deal with his disgusting smelly ass feet every night. (they're horrid) According to his PO, he now has to have the room to himself for sleeping. Meaning she'll sleep on the couch like she's done over the past 4 months anyway without a single problem. Now here's my problem, yes he's supposed to have his own room, but whats stopping her from going up there to sleep when she has a long day of work the next day? Nothing, other than the excuses like "its his room" (hows the fucking PO going to know anyway?), or "I have to change the sheets?" (Take ten minutes, get off fucking facebook and go change them?)

    Sunday I woke up late, it was my own fault. Come Sunday night I'm half passed out at 11:30 and then I have to pee. Anytime I get up, the cats get up and then won't go back to sleep, so this is keeping me up. Then my back starts to hurt, then my ankle starts to twitch and I don't end up getting back to sleep until after 3.

    What's this do? It makes me cranky and tired all day monday. Right now my buddy has my Si so he can go to work until he gets his tax check from NC state. (he just moved back up here) This means I have no vehicle, so I wander my happy ass 6 blocks in the 20 degree weather to get some food and beer at the local bar by my office. Upon my return home I hit me up some MW2 at a reasonable volume level.

    She's down on the couch watching her fucking cops program again and proceeds to tell me "my game is keeping her awake at night" & "it takes a few hours to get the gunfire out of my head so I can sleep once you turn it off", which is asinine. I've played it with her snoring like hell before.

    Then when I tell her that she's lying and it's been fine until 5 minutes ago she says to me "Well when I get to work I'm on my feet and working all day from the moment I get there to the moment I clock out". Thats all fine and dandy, 99% of the time my job is the same way.

    Ironically she took yesterday off, oh and last thursday off as well. When did I last take a day off? Ah yes, the day I went home at 1 because I threw up and couldn't keep any food down.

    With the next breath she made me want to fucking kick her out right there, keep in mind I'm exhausted and semi-drunk... she proceeds to tell me that "You always sit in the office doing nothing for the first hour or two during the day when you get to work."

    Sure, when there isn't anything to do... which is rare. I'm still learning quickbooks, and I have invoices, receipts and statements to enter, check and recheck, not to mention the mountain of phone calls I have to answer and take care of. Then on top of that when I finish IN the office I then have to leave the office for the tech side of my job. I love it because it's something different daily, but I also hate it because it's something different daily. One day I may do a shitton of programming, easy, the next I may be on a ladder or in an attic. I guaran-damn-tee you what I do tends to be more labor intensive than what she does.

    If you saw it on my face book I wrote a book of a status update that I had to break up into 5 different posts. I deleted it the next day. The next morning I see she saw it and said "I'm looking for a new place to live, obviously I'm not wanted here." I'm fairly laid back and nonchalant, but I'm tired of the bullshit "woe is me" garbage she is constantly spouting off expecting me to care or understand. I get nothing in the way of any sympathy, so I'm just fucking done caring.

    So last night after work I grabbed my xbox, controller and bought a new HDMI cable for my tv in my room and spent all night in my room without her crappy tv shows on super loud in the background. She seriously sits there and watches COPS from the 80s and 90s and then switches it over to dancing with the stars, survivor and Dog the bounty Hunter. Flat out TV garbage, IMO. Watch good comedy's or at least the fucking history channel for Gods sake!

    I think she's overreacting to this whole thing and it'll blow over, but I would not care the least if she left and went elsewhere where she can pay her 500+ a month rent on her own.

    My happy ass did HER the favor by letting her stay here, and she wants to bitch at me about a game that I love to play in MY OWN HOUSE, and then insult me in the next breath.

    You're welcome for letting you live here, you repay me by being late on the rent and bitching about anything I do or have that isn't to your liking.


    Cliffs:
    Female roommate bitches about stupid shit.
    I indirectly tell her I'm done with the shit.
    She gets pissy and wants to move out.
    I don't care either way. I'm just sick of being told what I can and can't do in my own damn house.
     
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  2. 95b16coupe

    95b16coupe New Member

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    i can't remember, is she paying for rent?

    also, she is super immature if she is passive aggressive and commenting about facebook.

    and finally, never live with a bitch you aren't fucking.
     
  3. jamesA

    jamesA Well known pissed off telephone guy VIP

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    She is, but it's usually late. Basically what I do is pay all the bills, then collect rent & live off that cash, or pay more bills. It works out sometimes, you know when she doesn't give me January's rent half way through February. BDN usually pays early, sometimes too early. lol

    I double dog dare you to find some place in Ft Wayne where rent is 280/month + 1/3rd of all house utilities. Usually doesn't get more than 350-360 a month. I dare you to find that anywhere but in Haiti.
     
  4. chestercheeto48

    chestercheeto48 Senior Member VIP

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    Eh the best I could find was 305-325 a month plus utilities in your area on rent.com. But if she can't pay on time then she isn't going anywhere.
     
  5. SlushboxTeggy

    SlushboxTeggy It's only stupid if it doesn't work VIP

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    I'd tell her to take the two foot express. You didn't need her to move in in order to pay your mortage. You did her a favor. If she's not appreciative, retract the favor. If anything, tell her she's not allowed to watch crap TV because the background noise interferes with your game.

    It's the beauty of owning your own home, you make the rules.
     
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    95b16coupe New Member

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    and i'll revise my previous statement.

    never live with a woman you aren't sleeping with. (more pc)

    especially if they are "family". they are too different from men. you can't yell at them, you can't fight them, you can't be drinking buddies with them. its' not worth it.
     
  7. jamesA

    jamesA Well known pissed off telephone guy VIP

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    305-325 was on the southside wasn't it, right around the Creighton/Pontiac area? lol

    Ghetto-ville...
     
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    jamesA Well known pissed off telephone guy VIP

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    I don't know how many times she's bitched about the washer/dryer. My parents gave me a 2 in 1 combo when I first moved out, and I'd used that until the belt broke off the washer, so I went out and bought my own full size washer. The combo dryer still works, so she waits 3 weeks to do laundry then just stuffs the ever loving shit out of the washer. Then throws them in the dryer and wonders why it takes 4 hours for that tiny thing to dry 3 weeks worth of clothes.

    I told her to break up her loads in the dryer and she bitches about it even though it'd end up being faster and more productive.

    Don't even get me started on how MUCH of the bathroom counter space I lost... How do you need 4 canisters of mousse and hairspray all at once? damn... no wonder I'm still single, I don't want to put up with that shit.

    I have one can of mousse, body spray, deoderant, toothpaste/brush, mouthwash, a comb and my razor on the counter itself. Takes up all of 1 square foot... she has half that damn counter.

    Ok I guess I got myself started on it...
     
  9. UNDR8D

    UNDR8D ...has a job!

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    Fixed it for you

    Tell her to move to Steubenville, OH or Weirton, WV. There are plenty of strip clubs she can work at and apartments can be had for $300.
     
  10. jamesA

    jamesA Well known pissed off telephone guy VIP

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    Also, anyone know any electricians that will do a few outlets/lights for fairly cheap? I want to turn my basement into a sort of mancave and move all my gaming/tv shit down there.
     
  11. eg'sforlife

    eg'sforlife New Member

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    Slap a hoe and let her know who's house it is.
     
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    UNDR8D ...has a job!

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    Kick her the fuck out. The relationship is tainted. You will be friends again after she gets her own place.

    I have seen so many friendships dissolve when people live together. No one can overcome their own selfish bullshit, or, as in your case, do not want to defer to the person who is clearly in charge....
     
  13. 95b16coupe

    95b16coupe New Member

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    she sounds like a fucking loser.

    pimp her to hs members.
     
  14. jamesA

    jamesA Well known pissed off telephone guy VIP

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    What relationship? She's my cousin by marriage. Thats about it.

    and I will not pimp her out, none of you would touch her with a 10 foot pole.
     
  15. chestercheeto48

    chestercheeto48 Senior Member VIP

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    Does it matter? She is out of your house....
     
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    95b16coupe New Member

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    the only thing i would worry about a bitch like that is what she would do when she's gone. would she key your car? would she send her kid to burn your house down?

    maybe you should consider feeding them to pigs.
     
  17. jamesA

    jamesA Well known pissed off telephone guy VIP

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    Nah, she wouldn't do that. She has some crazy ass friends though.
     
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    Drake Well-Known Member VIP

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    Id be willing to bet there are some HS members that would hit it anyway.

    But I agree, I would start suggesting that she find some other arrangements.
     
  19. E_SolSi

    E_SolSi Member of the 20 nut club Moderator VIP

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    :werd:

    she has worn out her welcome
    tell her to find another place
    set a time table (ie: your out by the end of the month) and stick to it
    you dont need her money
    you dont need the problems or aggravation she, or her kid, is bringing into your home

    you helped her out of kindness, you did a good thing... but she is now taking advantage of you and your kindness ans well as taking you for granted... and i would definitely say that is a good place to draw the line

    if she doesnt like the way you act around your own home, tell her she is free to leave

    hell if you can swing it, sweeten the deal a little and tell her she can keep her money for April's rent, and put it toward her new place, as long as she is out by the 30th...
    but you need to be prepared to pack her and her kid's shit up and leave it outside on the 30th if she is not out by then
     
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