Was this an Auto before? assuming it is, your proably asking how to make your car think it is in Park. This is the best write up I have found for you</p>
<p><a href="http://www.honda-tech.com/showthread.php?t=1337459" target="_blank">[FAQ] 96-00 Auto to Manual Swap in full detail!! (44pics) - Honda-Tech</a></p>
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<p>its picture intensive, near the bottom of the 1st post is your problem enjoy and good luck