If you opt for the larger turbine housing that will help to kill the quick spool up. Unfortunately I dont know the math to find the exact numbers for you.
The A/R of the compressor housing wont effect it too too much, I believe its the turbine housing that controls most of the spool up characteristics.
ALSO, on your T3/T4 are you using a .48A/R on the turbine housing? It sounds like it since you're getting such a quick spool. Maybe .63 or even a .84 on that turbo would be better for your needs.