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learning in progress
I love my wife with all my heart; I respect her and try to do the most for our new family [no kids]. I don’t cheat or even think about doing so, she feels the same way and it’s not an issue here [as far as I know]. Looking at other people around me that have relationships and comparing them to mine, everything looks to be okay. I do know that the only person that knows what’s in the pot is the one stirring it.
However, I have a reoccurring “problemâ€. When my wife asks me to do something [anything], ill either say yes, no or maybe. She on the other hand, she will tell me yes and not do it [no matter what it is]. It’s getting old, so old that I’m starting not to trust her. How am I supposed to trust her when she tells me she is somewhere? Is she actually there? How am I supposed to think that she only lies about some things?
This situation has brought me to a crossroads. I believe that people don’t change the way they are. She’s that way, and will be for the rest of her life. I can’t live with that, I always end up doing everything & I have to remember it all. It sucks; I want a woman in my life that is there for me that talks to me about everyday things. She gets home and really has nothing to say. In the car she has nothing to say. I’ve spent almost 5 years talking to myself. When we have arguments I tell her how I feel and how I think we should do certain things, she never has ANYTHING TO SAY nothing not even her feelings toward the subject.
That’s just disrespect and lack of communications skills. It hurts our relationship so much. Last night was the last straw. I took the ring back, gave her mine and explained that the relationship was in the brink of “POOFâ€. I don’t want to live in a relationship that is on a one way street.
What to do?
What to think?
Am I over reacting?
Should I just give up on us?
However, I have a reoccurring “problemâ€. When my wife asks me to do something [anything], ill either say yes, no or maybe. She on the other hand, she will tell me yes and not do it [no matter what it is]. It’s getting old, so old that I’m starting not to trust her. How am I supposed to trust her when she tells me she is somewhere? Is she actually there? How am I supposed to think that she only lies about some things?
This situation has brought me to a crossroads. I believe that people don’t change the way they are. She’s that way, and will be for the rest of her life. I can’t live with that, I always end up doing everything & I have to remember it all. It sucks; I want a woman in my life that is there for me that talks to me about everyday things. She gets home and really has nothing to say. In the car she has nothing to say. I’ve spent almost 5 years talking to myself. When we have arguments I tell her how I feel and how I think we should do certain things, she never has ANYTHING TO SAY nothing not even her feelings toward the subject.
That’s just disrespect and lack of communications skills. It hurts our relationship so much. Last night was the last straw. I took the ring back, gave her mine and explained that the relationship was in the brink of “POOFâ€. I don’t want to live in a relationship that is on a one way street.
What to do?
What to think?
Am I over reacting?
Should I just give up on us?