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I hear ya and appreciate it. lol I have never said "Will you go out with me?". It's usually "May I take you out to dinner?" even though I fucking hate meals being the first date. I always get screwed on that deal lol.how to be a playa by B
for real though, if you say it right, and in a jokingly manner, she'll think its funny/cute/whatever, not creepy.
it also saves you from being a fucking and loser and saying 'will you go out with me'. so gay.
set it up, set her to offer/give it to you, and things will go pretty smoothly.
The biggest thing is just getting flustered from anxiety and being nervous. Try to think about all the times you could've gotten a date, but were too shy to open your mouth. I just remembered that shitty feeling and finally got fed up with it. If you build up the balls, you could just say "What's up?" like I do lol. If are at a complete loss for words after that, just blurt out something about her being pretty and how you want to take her out. You will simply get the best feeling ever or she'll say no and you'll still feel good that you took the step.how about some convo starter lines for me thats the only part i really suck at....
how to be a playa by B
for real though, if you say it right, and in a jokingly manner, she'll think its funny/cute/whatever, not creepy.
it also saves you from being a fucking and loser and saying 'will you go out with me'. so gay.
set it up, set her to offer/give it to you, and things will go pretty smoothly.
Stand by for rant... :ranting2:
Beautiful women are the easiest ones to get, and i will tell you why...
Most guys are so hung up on some esoteric vulnerability, lack of confidence, or lack of knowledge of self, that they are done before they get out of the box (or perhaps I should say into the box...).
Just stop giving a fuck. I mean really. Women are the same god damn beings as men. They feel fear, the get horny, the have self doubt, vulnerability, and lack of direction. Take them down off the pedestal and lo and behold they aren't that much different.
Back to my original point though...
"hot" women are the easiest to get. Most of the guys who walk up to them are the Maxim/GQ punks (the ricers of love?), the societally proscribed males that are so far off the base of self they have no idea how stupid they look.
I suggest a strict regimen of weed...
I mean shit, I'm a 135lbs soaking wet. I've been bald since I was 23. I read comic books, I still play dungeons and dragons. You should have seen some of the women I landed, not to mention I'm married to an Icelandic woman who is none to shabby herself.
Know thyself. Knowledge is booty...
That's the part I'm bad at. I can do it, but not as well as I converse and close.how about some convo starter lines for me thats the only part i really suck at....
So I was at a customer's house just delivering some cabinets when what turned out to be the home owner's granddaughter walked into the garage to see what the noise was. She was my age, very sweet, semi-quiet, and attractive. I looked over and said "Hey, I'm Sean and just dropping off cabinets. Sorry about all the noise.". She stepped into the garage, closing the door behind her and introduced herself as well. I heard a northern accent, so I took a shot and asked how her vacation is going. She smiled and said "It's beautiful down here, but my flight heads out Saturday to go back to NY. I love it down here, but I've been hanging out with too many older folks.". I mention how lucky a guy would be to take her out and all that jazz and she slips in that she has a boyfriend awaiting her up north. All in all, she was still being quite flirty and as soon as I drove away I realized I could've and she wanted me to show her a good time. I wanted to turn around, but of course I did not.
So while chewing myself out during the ride back home, I stopped to get gas. I'm beating myself up while filling up and decide to get a drink. As I'm about to walk inside for some water, a girl gets out of her car and stares right into my eyes for a good three seconds. It was then that I realized I don't take any chances when it comes to women. Like Cel said, I'm practically waiting for my doorbell to ring. So I just said fuck it. I walked over to her while filling up and said exactly what was on my mind. Maybe not for the best, but I was amazed with the results. It went something like.
Me: "Hey, what's up?"
Her: "Just emptying my bank account, do I know you?"
Me: "Nope, I just noticed that I seemed to of caught your eye and figured I could squeeze talking to a cute girl into my schedule."
Her: "That's so cute, but my boyfriend wouldn't like that very much."
Me: "That's fine, it was well worth the chance. Maybe I'll see you around."
Her: "Was nice chatting and maybe we will."
I know it's nothing special at all, but she didn't slap me and yell "rape!" and I think that's what surprised me. Why the fuck is everyone so anti-social these days, including me? Why don't I do this more often? I can take rejection fine, it's just the anticipation that kills me I suppose. Before even talking to girls, I'm worrying if they're taken, whether or not it will actually last, that she's out of my league and any other excuse to just walk passed her. That's absolutely ridiculous and I can't believe it took me this long to see it. Either way, I think I'm truly onto something brilliant and I hope all the single, yet deserving men like myself that don't have this habit develop it.
_Cliffs_
I think my penis is no longer inverted.
Pause for slightly less than a second "Ok. Offer still stands. If you're bored, call me"
you: "Fat Penguin"
girl: "huh?"
you: "I just wanted to say something that would break the ice"
This exact thing actually worked for my best friend... He walked up to a girl at the mall and said:
"Cactus."
"What?"
"Cactus!"
"What does that mean?"
"Oh nothing, I just couldn't think of anything to say to you to start a conversation and that's all I had. I'm Carl."
I see entirely where you're coming from and it must be nice to have that sort of confidence at all times, but I need to be let in by a girl before I can gain it. I need to get passed the greetings and into a conversation. I guess that kind of sucks for me, but it's the way I am for now.Stand by for rant... :ranting2:
Beautiful women are the easiest ones to get, and i will tell you why...
Most guys are so hung up on some esoteric vulnerability, lack of confidence, or lack of knowledge of self, that they are done before they get out of the box (or perhaps I should say into the box...).
Just stop giving a fuck. I mean really. Women are the same god damn beings as men. They feel fear, the get horny, the have self doubt, vulnerability, and lack of direction. Take them down off the pedestal and lo and behold they aren't that much different.
Back to my original point though...
"hot" women are the easiest to get. Most of the guys who walk up to them are the Maxim/GQ punks (the ricers of love?), the societally proscribed males that are so far off the base of self they have no idea how stupid they look.
I suggest a strict regimen of weed...
I mean shit, I'm a 135lbs soaking wet. I've been bald since I was 23. I read comic books, I still play dungeons and dragons. You should have seen some of the women I landed, not to mention I'm married to an Icelandic woman who is none to shabby herself.
Know thyself. Knowledge is booty...
You know, I have a problem here. I'm not a forceful person by any means, so when I get a "no thank you" in any way, shape, or form I accept. I think in the back of my head that I don't want to date a girl whom I have to convince from the start, but I guess that's the way it goes. Thanks man, I'm gonna start working on my backstroke.The stumbling thing is a horrible trait that women have. She MAY be using the boyfriend thing just like you did with the garage girl. She may be walking away going "STUPID STUPID STUPID" and get in her car and start cutting herself. Or, she may have a boyfriend. Unfortunately, the soft human brain can't handle a situation like this - even though without these wierd meetings (or muslim rape) the human race wouldn't procreate. And you can imagine that even with the gelatinous brains that people have, they still manage to hook up all the time.
So by deflecting the boyfriend, you're not just being a cool and relaxed asshole, you're padding yourself against a blow, OR you're giving someone the chance to make good on the offer when their grey matter stops sizzling.
Duly noted. If there's anything I've learned, it's that I'd much rather get a no than go home wondering if I could have gotten a number at the least.Nice Kanned. Can I suggest something though?
Be persistent. Even if she says "...my boyfriend...". A lot of times the ladies love to lie about that to keep the guys away. Maybe just ask for a number, if she refuses. Oh well you asked, right? No harm in at least trying to get that far.