Newly Single :( vent

[get_nick]

no no, i'm thinking his way. i'm looking to get engaged within the next 6 months. it's a fucking bummer. but he did dodge a bullet though. he didn't cop out and say, "i'm comfortable here". he made a man decision. i give him props for it.

 

[corvetteguy78]

Not in all ways. Both are for the birds, but when you're the dumper it's not like the sun comes out. It still fucks you up.

These people were engaged to be married. you're all thinking "Whew ! Dodged the bullet!" the honest thought process is "I was really working hard towards something that is no longer possible". You're walking in a different direction, but you're still walking through a mine field.

how did you get so wise lol

 

[dacheat]

i'll speak up for relationship forensics - was it the engagement that killed the relationship? or was the engagement the 'next thing on the list' and/or the last ditch effort to be 'happy' in this relationship and you subsequently realized that didn't work, either?

regardless, the death of a dream always sucks, but it does open you up to other opportunities in life that maybe you couldn't even know existed or allow yourself to follow up on (like bryan - kidding! ).

chin up, i'm pretty sure that while you're sad at the loss of what you had, you're relieved in some way.

 

[fionntan]

You know year three is supposed to be a hard one too... I would say stick it out a little longer and see what happens, but that doesnt seem to relevent if you have already broken it off. I am going through the same thing right now, but I am not engaged.

 

[Celerity]

The life span for the average relationship, without further commitment of kids or mutually desired marriage, is 3 years.

3 years. I did 14, but only because I'm not your average joe.

 

[D16Civic]

This is the same guy that's dating Beyonce Knowles ?

Classy, real Classy.

Actually married her recently.

The life span for the average relationship, without further commitment of kids or mutually desired marriage, is 3 years.

3 years. I did 14, but only because I'm not your average joe.

14 yrs? Fuck. You're my age. I've been with my wife since 1996. You were with you're ex from high school until fairly recently, I gather? Without getting married. Wow.

 

[teggyguy]

wow

 

[invisibledemon]

holy shit, thats the same situation im dealing with today,
sounds like i typed the op myself.

congrats on breaking it. we'll see how mine goes. maybe posting a rant about it later. lol.

 

[Taco15]

holy shit, thats the same situation im dealing with today,
sounds like i typed the op myself.

congrats on breaking it. we'll see how mine goes. maybe posting a rant about it later. lol.

its gonna be your fault your addicted to internet porn not hers

sorry to hear about what happend man. Congrats on single life though

 

[UNDR8D]

i'll speak up for relationship forensics - was it the engagement that killed the relationship? or was the engagement the 'next thing on the list' and/or the last ditch effort to be 'happy' in this relationship and you subsequently realized that didn't work, either?

I just got engaged so I want an answer to this too!

 

[SlushboxTeggy]

Cheer up. I know... Let's go to the titty bar!! You could probably get a free lap dance, haha.

But seriously you don't seem too out of it. Your vent was no where near as long as any other one I've seen here, my own included. I feel like you did exactly what I did recently (obviously on a much grander scale). Even though the emotion was there, you looked at things from a rational stand point and figured out what would be best for you in the long run.