If a guy thinks that you have some sorta attractive aspect to you then they will see what will go on but sometimes a guy will end up letting his trouser snake take control and let all his hormones take over his brain. After all that is said and done no matter how you react it will be sorta weird because his hormones are ready for something and might not be able to get it. UNDR8D is right about all guys being assholes. I am one aswell but some people know how to hide it alot easier than others and just tend to be gentlemen. If you keep finding assholes around you just forget about it cause well most guys dont care and if they do get upset they will forget about it soon. Guys most likely treat you like this because your attractive and they think that pretty girls are willing to give it up with enough effort on their part. Young is just a horrible thing sometimes. Maturing will come to them some day and of course you will get more mature aswell. Since your not really worried about that guy anymore and just curious about why guys sometimes treat girls like that. My idea is some guys really think that girls like to be treated like that. Others are just stupid.
Mild rant thread, more just curious than anything: the male mind
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It still sounds like you are talking to the wrong guys if they are all basically carbon copies of one another.
well, it seems that maybe you need to work on your appearance, if you seem to meet these guys everywhere then you are doing something to give them that idea. you may not know it, but if it happens a lot, then you are.
some guys get defensive bc they dont know how to accept rejection. they cant seem to grasp that not every woman wants to have sex with them. and when that happens, they feel insulted. stupid people do stupid things. my brother is the exact same way. stop talking to people. when a guy approaches you with some kind of line like that, just tell them to go away.
some guys get defensive bc they dont know how to accept rejection. they cant seem to grasp that not every woman wants to have sex with them. and when that happens, they feel insulted. stupid people do stupid things. my brother is the exact same way. stop talking to people. when a guy approaches you with some kind of line like that, just tell them to go away.
UNDR8D
...has a job!
That's the shit that gets me defensive. I'm not the village bike and that's what most guys don't seem to get. Just because most guys find me attractive somehow, automatically means I'll put out??
As for the opening the mind thing, I think I have damn open-minded for my age. I may be opinionated, but that's a little different.
And I'm trying to figure it out. Bouncing ideas off of people's one of the best ways to help the process.
I respect your opinion, but I think what you're saying it a tad different than the idea I'm trying to get across.
Cel- You hate myspace, so I think that opinion's a little biased.
I promise I was not referring to you. Just dropping a little piece of unr8d knowledge.
Aleaf.CRX
Well-Known Member
yeah what b said. don't try to date random dudes from myspace. i try not to even talk to people on there. I can't imagine inviting some creepy slut over...
Dating him didn't even come into my head. Jesus, once and for all, I don't go looking for this shit on myspace, I don't sweet talk these guys into complimenting me or hanging out with me, they find me. I understand what everyone is trying to say about the myspace thing. I get that now. I also understand that maybe I am giving off some kind of signal to these guys that I'm not aware of, I'll look into that more.
But I don't want this kind of attention and definately am not looking for it through myspace.
Celerity
Well-Known Member
Leave myspace. Problems over. Stop putting yourself in the areas that creeps congregate. Remember what I said about hanging with "lower" people ? They only drag you down.
Bars and clubs are fun too. you'll never find ANYTHING that elevates you at them. Turn around, and don't even log into myspace to close your account. Just walk away.
Bars and clubs are fun too. you'll never find ANYTHING that elevates you at them. Turn around, and don't even log into myspace to close your account. Just walk away.
Aleaf.CRX
Well-Known Member
Um, I'm not gonna get mad about it. I've figured out that guys tell you what you want to hear, at least most of the ones I talk to. But, in reality, a lot of people do that. So who're you supposed to believe when most people you talk, lie through their teeth to fulfill their selfish desires. I mean, you either buy into it, knowing what's going on, and just use care. Or you don't talk to anyone, period.
But, at the same time, I have what people like to call "selective hearing" which I'm trying to overcome. For those who don't get that concept, you hear what you want to hear, and when you listen to someone tell you something that totally opposes what you're going for or hoping to hear, you either ignore it, or get defensive. But there are some deep-seated issues that go along with that I'm not going to get into right now.
But, at the same time, I have what people like to call "selective hearing" which I'm trying to overcome. For those who don't get that concept, you hear what you want to hear, and when you listen to someone tell you something that totally opposes what you're going for or hoping to hear, you either ignore it, or get defensive. But there are some deep-seated issues that go along with that I'm not going to get into right now.
Luis998
Honda Enthusiast
Let me know if you'd like me to and I will bust out my bazooka and proceed to shoot someone in the face with it.
Guys, girls, a lot of people in this world tell you exactly what you want to hear, just so they can get what they want. Whenever I run across someone like that, I look at them if we are face to face, smile, scratch my eye with my middle finger and just walk away.
Guys, girls, a lot of people in this world tell you exactly what you want to hear, just so they can get what they want. Whenever I run across someone like that, I look at them if we are face to face, smile, scratch my eye with my middle finger and just walk away.
really?
when i come across those girls, i simply look them in the eye, and seriously say:
"really? if thats the case, then i get to stick it in your butt. and hard too, minimum lube."
that usually gets the story out. not many girls wanna be pumped in the ass.
and when one agrees, well, i cant say what i would do next. never came across that.
when i come across those girls, i simply look them in the eye, and seriously say:
"really? if thats the case, then i get to stick it in your butt. and hard too, minimum lube."
that usually gets the story out. not many girls wanna be pumped in the ass.
and when one agrees, well, i cant say what i would do next. never came across that.
Well I think the biggest thing you're dealing with here is the fact that most of these cats are probably 18-21 years old. At that age, they want to get laid. Period. They probably have their own insecurities about themselves, and the rejection brought out some type of defense mechanism, so in order to feel good about themselves, then you become ugly, shitty car driver, etc. I never really made fun of anyone because of where they live(d), so I don't get that one.
My only suggestion is to try and meet some older guys (maybe 23-25ish). Keep in mind they probably are interested in the bar/club thing, and you being 19 would exclude you from that, and you have to be ok with the fact they will be hanging out where there are large numbers of drunken, single women as well. I'm sure glad I'm not single. Too much fucking work.
My only suggestion is to try and meet some older guys (maybe 23-25ish). Keep in mind they probably are interested in the bar/club thing, and you being 19 would exclude you from that, and you have to be ok with the fact they will be hanging out where there are large numbers of drunken, single women as well. I'm sure glad I'm not single. Too much fucking work.
I agree, dress like a slut you get treated like one. I do not know how you act but if you are a tease that is going to piss guys off. I have found many times that people get treated how they are. I know some girls who are sluts, dress like whores, are teases wondering why they can't find a decent guy. I do not know much about you but if you dress provacatively or have provacative photos on your myspace guys are going to think you are easy. Stuff like that gives a false impression.
post the myspace messages, and no editing them. then we shall know. lol
TommyTheCat
Gonzo Scientist
Well, I was going to say you're okay because you acknowledge that this Myspace Persons' behavior is a bit nutty. But then you said you should go for 35-40 year olds. For this - you fail.
Saying "I get along a hell of a lot better with adults in their mid-thrities, early fourties."
Is different from "Go for older guys? Bingo."
This is a bad instinct.
Saying "I get along a hell of a lot better with adults in their mid-thrities, early fourties."
Is different from "Go for older guys? Bingo."
This is a bad instinct.
90_EF_Hatch
Señor Member
So yea... Check out my myspace and give me a call 555-555-5555 and we can have some fun tonight.
*sings* Im gunna get some booty!
IM TELLING YOUR GIRLFRIEND ON YOU
pig ... haha jk
I understand that these guys are making contact with you rather then you seeking them out, but even so, you're responding, which makes them hopeful. Just because some dude hits you up on MySpace doesn't mean you have to respond.
If you get a random friend request or message from a dude on MySpace that you don't know personally, he's either 1.) a friendless freak, or (more likely) 2.) a horny dude looking for ass. When these guys contact you, it's because they did a search of local 18-20 year old females, and they're probably writing "hey hottie, what's up?" messages to several other random chicks at the same time they're messaging you.
This particular guy that you're talking about is an asshole, no doubt. Here's my question for you though...how much contact did you have with him prior to his little outburst? If you seriously had barely spoken with him, he asked you to come over, and then flipped out when you rejected him, then he's psychotic. As someone else suggested, he will end up in jail someday, and he shouldn't be any concern of yours.
However, if you had spoken with him several times, flirted with him a bit (maybe not even intentionally, I'm just talking "LOL'ing" at his jokes), and then he asked you to hang out, well that's a little different. It's absolutely no excuse for him to treat you the way he did, but it makes more sense. I think you just need to keep in mind that dudes who are randomly contacting you via MySpace are 99% of the time looking for some play, and nothing else. If a dude contacts you and says "hey, you're hot, wanna chat?" you don't have to respond.
Dude was probably just pissed that he wasted his time on a dead end, so he lashed out just to make you feel bad about yourself. Like UNDR8D said, he probably wacked off and that night and now has completely forgotten about it. Dudes like this aren't even worth talking to. It will always end the same way...
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