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Is it worth being friends with an ex?

Discussion in 'Members' Lounge' started by YouKnowWhoIBee, Feb 19, 2009.

  1. YouKnowWhoIBee

    YouKnowWhoIBee my avatar is better.

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    Anyone had any success with staying friends with an ex? I have plenty of friends that are the opposite sex, but not too many that I have dated and continued to talk to. For some reason... this one is sticking around and I am not sure if I should just ignore and move on... or attempt to save something. She is a cool chick but just has drama.
     
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    IMHO walk away.
     
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    run.

    the only ex's that have remained friends with me are ones that i dated for less than a month.
     
  4. YouKnowWhoIBee

    YouKnowWhoIBee my avatar is better.

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    I have known her for 4 months, dated for 2ish.
     
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    Airjockie Watanabe Whore!!!

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  6. Briansol

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    you broke up for a reason.

    next.
     
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    eh.. i'm still friend with a few of my ex's... though i dont talk to them really, we remain friends
     
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    Why did you break up? then I will give an answer on if you should stay friends..
     
  9. YouKnowWhoIBee

    YouKnowWhoIBee my avatar is better.

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    That's true... she just calls me non stop all day to talk. Literally she calls me @ 10, 12, 2 and 5 everyday, and that is my break/lunch schedule exactly. Im sorry that I have nothing new to say since the past 2 hours we spoke. I am currently talking to this new girl, but the old one likes to stay around and get attention.

    She gets upset every time she finds out I am hanging out with the new girl, or when I ignore her calls since I am with the new girl and don't feel like answering. Also when we hang out (barely anymore) she is always asking about me when I walk away, and always trying to be close... but yet she is talking to another guy as well.

    I understand the whole friends boundary, but she crosses the line. I don't act on them, but I am 100% sure if I acted I would get what I wanted.


    Oh, and we split up because we are 2 different people. I wanted something exclusive, but she didnt. I am not looking for the whole 'BF GF' tag, but I am looking for exclusive company. I am not they type of person that will fall for someone quickly again, but it is tough to get to know someone when they are dating around.
     
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    well dude its up to you to setup boundaries that you can both agree on. and that is that. if not, then walk.
     
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    Keep her around you never know when you're going to need a booty call.
     
  12. get_nick

    get_nick These snozzberries taste like snozzberries... VIP

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    who dumped who?

    thats important. she isn't really an ex. it was only 2 months. she's more of a girl you hooked up with.
     
  13. YouKnowWhoIBee

    YouKnowWhoIBee my avatar is better.

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    Booty call was Monday :)

    I wasnt saying we were in a relationship... just dating. But I still consider that an ex girl that I hooked up with. I would not be comfortable with a close friend dating her after me... just like an ex gf.

    BTW... splitting up was mutual, but she caused me to bring it up.
     
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    im still friends with a few exes :shrug:

    kinda gotta take it on a case by case
     
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    dude, she's still your gf.
     
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    most times with the ex-gfs being friends with the just harbors emotions from the relationship...as nootrac said, walk away.
     
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    "Literally she calls me @ 10, 12, 2 and 5 everyday"

    get a new number.


    psycho!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
     
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    there is no such thing as a cool chick with drama. i'm guessing she's about 20-21...

    get rid of her asap.
     
  19. YouKnowWhoIBee

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    Yea no joke, she called me 16 times one day last week... just to talk. I ignored most of them, but only answered them to stop her from calling. But... she says she doesn't care and we are just friends. Shes 25.
     
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    hmm. psycho to me.


    I take it case by case, as someone else mentioned above. I'm friends with one, because she's engaged to my buddy and our relationship was a few years ago so I can handle it just find, and I have no feelings what so ever for her. Others, I delete out of my life. Like I will do anything to not hang out with them.
     
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