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I need relationship advice.... Again

Discussion in 'Members' Lounge' started by SlushboxTeggy, Aug 9, 2006.

  1. SlushboxTeggy

    SlushboxTeggy It's only stupid if it doesn't work VIP

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    Well today is me and the girl's 8 month anniversary. It's been a great 8 months. Lately however I have wanted to sleep with other girls more than I usually do. Nothing is wrong in the relationship, I still love the girl to death, the sex is great etc. I just for some reason have this feeling. I find myself thinking about the fun I will have after the relationship, but in the same breath I don't see the end of this relationship. Plus I would feel horrible if it in fact did end. I think I may just miss the single life and may be getting a little bored.

    Plus lately she says I have been acting weird/strange/distant. I don't feel I am acting any different. When I'm around her I don't think like this, but obviously it is impossible to be with her at all times to keep these feelings down.


    Any comments, questions, or advice?
     
  2. 93delsolsi

    93delsolsi Junior Member

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    Just Be your self and you'll be fine. But don't cheat and get cought the you'll realize you lost somting great. Jersey stand up lol
     
  3. reckedracing

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    *sniff sniff* i smell drama
    lol

    this is something you really need to think long and hard about
    the grass is always greener on the other side
    you could end it, and get lots of play
    but what if this is YOUR girl?
    kinda a big decision

    and......

    TTIWWOP
     
  4. Capt. Orygun

    Capt. Orygun Win the Day

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    First of all the distance in your relationship is because you feel guilty. As a fellow guy with experience in this particular area let me tell you that what's happening is perfectly normal.

    It's in a guy's nature to aquire wanderlust, but that doesn't make it a good thing. I've ended a couple great relationships just so I could "go play", both times I have regretted it.

    Remember this. Should you leave her to go screwing around with a bunch of different girls eventually you'll find another you'll really like, get involved, and eventually leave her too so that you may resume your antics. Does that make any real sense?

    Take her out and do something nice for her, and be happy
     
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    reckedracing TTIWWOP VIP

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    ....recked...the official hs comic relief.

    i tend to agree with silverchild (i scare myself everytime i say that). Do something nice for her. Ill give you examples.

    One girl i dated, LOVED soccer, so once a month, sometimes twice a month we went to the Dallas Sidekicks games. It was a lot of fun and 2002 world cup was just us. It really rocked. I wasnt a big soccer fan but she was and it always seemed to lift her spirits during a bad week.

    Sometimes they feel you getting bored, dont tell em that you are, just reassure her make her feel special. thats the best advice someone can give.
     
  7. TurboMirage

    TurboMirage YEEAAAHHH VIP

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    if youre having doubts now, you will have doubts later.

    flip it, stick it, see ya lata bye!
     
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    reikoshea HS Troll...And Mod Moderator VIP

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    god bless chris and his horrible fucking advice.
     
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    TurboMirage YEEAAAHHH VIP

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    ok here is better advice.

    stop doubting yourself. get heartbroken, later.
     
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    you can always recognize the jaded
     
  11. TurboMirage

    TurboMirage YEEAAAHHH VIP

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    jaded? ha!

    i get EVERYTHING i want. trust me ;)
     
  12. get_nick

    get_nick These snozzberries taste like snozzberries... VIP

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    so when the guy gets bored, he does something for her? that doesnt sound right.

    the key to this is communication. you are at the break point of a relationship. every guy has a set limit to the amount of time he can be monogymous. mine is 1 year. sounds like you are an 8 month guy. some guys are 2 or 3 years. it's all about you. if you are getting bored, you probably are. don't waste your time just hanging out with her. the thing is, you are a man. men get bored easy.

    you aren't ready to settle down obviously. don't waste her time. but definitely DO NOT CHEAT!!! don't do that to her. if the grass seems greener, give it a shot. but make sure she understands why. communication is the key. maybe if you talk to her about your issues, she can re-ignite your interest and remind you why you are with her and not single.
     
  13. High_Rolling_Civic

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    Im with silverchild here. Ive been having the same feelings as you with my relationship, but i always decided to stick with the girl. Well just last week she called it off for reasons that i understand. Its odd because its a feeling of relief(i can do stuff with other girls now without worry) but at the same time a feeling of regret(I miss the relationship and time with her a lot). Overall though i regret it being over more than I enjoy the freedom.

    I'd say stick with the girl if you know that you would feel horrible. Its a choice of avoiding a little temptation vs a lot of pain.
     
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    *waits for celerity steve's rant of the day*
     
  16. SlushboxTeggy

    SlushboxTeggy It's only stupid if it doesn't work VIP

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    I'm done cheating on girls. Back in the day I thought it was cool but after I saw my sister have an ex cheat for 1 and 1/2 years of a 2 year relationship, and what she went through because of it I would never do it again.

    In all honesty I wish I met her about a year from now. I just wanted to get a few more girls under my belt. I've had only 4 (3 blondes and the gf) and I feel like I don't want to miss out. Plus we have had a few things that bother me.

    She has slept with 12 guys and I accept this. However she sometime will talk about other guys. Just because I accept it, doesn't mean I want to hear about them. If I talked about my ex she would flip shit. And there is one particular guy that bothers me. Her best friend's older brother. Her best friend never knew. My gf and him never got along, just would always hook-up. She basically hates him now. I have no problems with him, he is actually a pretty cool kid. But for a guy that she didn't like she did things with him that she still has yet to do with me, a guy she says she loves. She just keeps saying, "when I'm ready". At this point I don't even want to do them anymore.

    I just feel like she has had her fun and I have yet to. I almost want to put the teg in the driveway under a cover and go test drive a few cars for about a month. I really don't know what to do.
     
  17. get_nick

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    1. i didn't say you should/would cheat, but i suggest against it. good boy.

    2. i've been there before about all of this. if it bugs you that she talks about other guys you can do two things, deal with it or leave. it's your call. it bugged the shit out of me, so i left.

    3. you are a lot better person than me. i hated knowing a guy that had boned my girl. he could have been hella cool, but i still hated him. i'm selfish, immature, and jealous. i don't want to know who or what has been done.

    4. as for the "when i'm ready" shit. either she has done it and doesn't want to do it again, or she really wants to wait. my ex said that shit to. then i put it in her ass. i guess that's what you are trying to do. it all depends on how you approach it. she could really be saving "something" for marriage.

    5. if you want to put the teg in the garage, go out and get a porch/ferrari/F150 truck/and a 1989 ford aspire. you have to get it ALL out of your system. the good the bad and the ugly. if you even remotely have these thoughts, go out and do it before you get caught up by a girl getting pregnant or something.

    6. i can't stand to know a girls past. bah. i tell girls straight up. don't ask me, cause i don't want to know about you. that is rough water to tread in. never ever ever run down the batting order.
     
  18. get_nick

    get_nick These snozzberries taste like snozzberries... VIP

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  19. SlushboxTeggy

    SlushboxTeggy It's only stupid if it doesn't work VIP

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    I doubt the teg would let me just put it under the cover though. I'm sure if I was driving, it would want to be driving.

    We did run down the batting orders. Her's is just more than double. I think I will take your point of view if I have any relationships after this. Especially when I knew one of the guys. He was also a friend's ex and I knew far to much about him.
     
  20. get_nick

    get_nick These snozzberries taste like snozzberries... VIP

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    have your fun. put this in the past as a learning experience. if you are more conservative and it bothers you that she is "experienced", you gotta go. i've been there and it ate me up. it's hard not to attack her or use it against her. with all the kevin smith fans here, it's kinda like "chasing amy".

    what i don't know can't hurt me, unless she has an std. i don't wanna know. but you put yourself in that territory. get out of it early before you get too attached or she gets pregnant. have your fun. if she is there when you bang your 12 or 13 randoms. maybe then. but it will always bother you that she is more experienced. if you are anything like me that is.
     
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