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Need opinion about a girl (no drama yet)

Discussion in 'Members' Lounge' started by SlushboxTeggy, May 18, 2008.

  1. SlushboxTeggy

    SlushboxTeggy It's only stupid if it doesn't work VIP

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    I kind of want a girls view of how a girl would react, but any and all comments are welcome. This may get a little long.

    So this chick Meg is a sorority sister of my ex gf. On top of that, she is also her "pseudo big sister"(when an original big sister sucks, they assign the girl a new/second one). We never really liked each other because she comes off as kind of snotty and she only heard the bad stories about me. Well we both graduated on Friday but the whole week before was "Senior Week". Pretty much only seniors around, doing the activities the school set up. Well the graduating seniors from my fraternity, another fraternity, and this sorority hung out during most of the events and every night there after. We talked civilly for the first night or so but in doing so, realized we have a lot in common. Both the second oldest of 4, all the way to our personalities are near mirror images(it would have been gay but I could have said jinx like 40 times to random comments made all week). So basically on Tuesday/Wednesday we were just being extremely friendly to last night us falling asleep on a couch together talking and tonight walking out of Friday's with all our friends with my arm around her and her's around me.

    I've always found her attractive and obviously that was amplified by actually getting to know her. But before I do anything rash I needed to know if the feeling was mutual. Just dumb little tests. Sit down first at Friday's or on the shuttles all week, she sits right next to me or close by the majority of the time. "Disappearing" throughout the week, only to receive a text and return with a smile. She's the one texting me to come hang out with the group (I have known some of these guys for almost 4 years now and hang out with them daily). We were both on the fence about staying at Rowan tonight (I wasn't really, I needed to be home for something tomm). All day she is unsure, I'm unsure. I make my mind up, she shortly followed. And lastly, I was approached by members of all three organizations asking what the deal was with us being so buddy-buddy.

    I don't want it to sound as if she follows me around or is caught up on me and vice versa, but just pointing out some things other people and I have noticed. I have not made a move simply because I am in uncharted waters. When I break up with a girl, friends are off-limits. The arm around her tonight was really the extent of our contact, both public and private.

    I just also want to point out that while being pseudo big and little, her and my ex do not see eye to eye. The ex lives at the bar and gets wasted, Meg likes to have a few beers with friends. The ex is a whore, I know of one guy Meg has kissed randomly at school (My ex did more than that while I was with her). The ex has no problem going off the deep end and making a fool of herself, Meg is very collected. A Bruce Banner like myself(it takes A LOT to get us there and then you regret getting us there).

    So what should I do/would you do? We both don't plan on spending much time back at Rowan so I don't think it would be an issue, but I'm just looking for opinions.
     
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  2. Jeef

    Jeef NO MA'AM Moderator VIP

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    If you want to try something with her go for it. Don't let other people hold you back. I think its none of their business what you do. If you hooked up and something happened in reality how often are you going to see her?
     
  3. Celerity

    Celerity Well-Known Member

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    You have a stark perception deficiency.

    Take a step back and read what you've typed, over and over again until something sticks out at you.

    Don't come back and say "I read it over and over and I don't see what you are saying" because that's horseshit. You need to read this until you see what I see.

    It may or may not answer your problems, whatever that problem is, but it will help you.
     
  4. TurboMirage

    TurboMirage YEEAAAHHH VIP

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    dude, if you think you're interested in her then take her out.
     
  5. 90_EF_Hatch

    90_EF_Hatch Señor Member

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    who cares if she is friends with your Ex.

    You have chemistry with her and you like her and she is cute. Fuck your Ex, she doesnt control you, who cares if she gets mad, she is just jealous.


    but really, sounds like you got something good with this girl, Just take it slow and dont fuck it up :thumbsup:
     
  6. invisibledemon

    invisibledemon Bored Moderator VIP

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    are you retarded?
    must be some kind of deficiency.

    she was assigned to your ex. not like they were exactly best friends, considering your explanation of it.

    like cel said, read it again, its pretty self explanatory.
     
  7. INJEN78

    INJEN78 HS LEGEND

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    really self explanitory..
    just let things flow.
    dont push the issue but dont just let it be..show some interest

    im pretty sure good things will prevail
     
  8. dacheat

    dacheat ..is grounded.

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    your girl perspective, i have it right here:

    i'd want you to give me a chance, and i'd be disappointed and pissed if you passed on me because i knew your ex/had to be social with her. graduation is all about endings and beginnings. i'd say this is an opportunity for a beginning. i also feel like you both came to this decision point as rightly as you could; some of the best things come from unexpected/unplanned events.

    at the very least, be open to it - don't discount her value based on your ex's drama.

    :thumbsup:
     
  9. get_nick

    get_nick These snozzberries taste like snozzberries... VIP

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    what really is the question here? "what should we do" is not a question.

    are you going to live close to her after graduation? if not, don't worry about it and move on.

    you're 22 years old. when you get older, all you do is say, "hey do you want to go out?" problem solved. if you really like her, just go on a legit date.
     
  10. YouKnowWhoIBee

    YouKnowWhoIBee my avatar is better.

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    Go for it. I am currently dating a friend of my ex. My ex is exactly the same.. slept with massive amounts of random dudes after and during our relationship, always at the bar and bitch all the time.

    Carpe Diem... Just make sure she is comfortable with the possible consequences.
     
  11. E_SolSi

    E_SolSi Member of the 20 nut club Moderator VIP

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    take her out
    you are a fucking retard if you let a forced friendship/acquaintance (ie: sorority relationship) with your ex stop you from dating a seemingly high quality girl that you apparently click with quite well
     
  12. |Chaz|

    |Chaz| Well-Known Member VIP

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    I'm curious, what exactly do you think you might want out of this girl? Are you looking for a serious relationship? It sounds like she could be really good for you. I'd say go for it if she's really what you think you want.
     
  13. INJEN78

    INJEN78 HS LEGEND

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    but keep in mind,,people that are way to similar wil do nothing but fight..
    no 2 people with the same personality are good together because one will always try to get the upper hand..
    so having things in common is good,,but there comes a line where things in common becomes dangerous
     
  14. Celerity

    Celerity Well-Known Member

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    Provide evidence.
     
  15. SlushboxTeggy

    SlushboxTeggy It's only stupid if it doesn't work VIP

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    A hook up or a summer fling would not be worth the possible drama. I could see this going somewhere. But like I said, I want to take it slow and see what happens. I just graduated and have no idea what I'm going to be doing or where I'm going to be living. By August I could be living and working around here, down by school, or in Myrtle Beach (She is more than likely moving there to teach and to be honest, I'm burnt out on NJ).

    At the moment she lives about an hour and a half from me. Not an issue. Last summer I drove that far north for a girl I knew I had no future with.

    And since my last post we have been texting. Her telling me I should have come to her house last night because she was having a few friends over but she wound up passing out early and needed a reason to stay up. Then talking about hanging out over the summer and what not.
     
  16. INJEN78

    INJEN78 HS LEGEND

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    my mom and her bf..thats enough evidence for me

    im not saying that having stuff in common is bad..im saying to much in common will make you fight
     
  17. Briansol

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    school is over. you'll never see your ex again.

    and along the same lines, you'll never see this chick again if you don't act.


    do it.
     
  18. swapedsucka

    swapedsucka New Member

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    Take It Slow And What Ever U Do Dont Nocker Up Cuz Then U Stuck
     
  19. 92civicb18b1

    92civicb18b1 The Trisexual

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    lol, he's usually good avoiding that situation, I was really bad at that
     
  20. |Chaz|

    |Chaz| Well-Known Member VIP

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    :lmao: :werd:
     
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