Let me counter that by explaining that I, myself AM adopted. Having said that, I have a clear understanding of how the child will feel later. It's not easy for a mother either, and if I ever do meet my biological mother, I would thank her. I know my parents couldn't conceive. After what it put my mother through (7 miscarriages) I can tell you I'd understand how happy I would make a family, but my boyfriend says that it would be near impossible for him to consider giving our child away.
I have thought about it, but there's no possible way I would be able to go through the joys of pregnancy (and tribulations) and then just give it to someone else. Having carried 2 children and having them, I can't imagine actually giving one away after that. If it were my first, maybe.
Adoption itself has put me in a compromising position because as an adopted child, I wouldn't want my child to feel the way I do some days. On my birthday, I wonder if my mother remembers. I wonder if she wants to meet me. I wonder if she cares or has forgotten. I wonder if I was only a problem she merely had to get rid of. But, in the end, I was raised by loving people.
Right now, this baby didn't have a choice and it's not the baby's fault. I never tried to place blame. It's not even a 'baby' or 'fetus' yet, it's just a cell dividing at light speed. I've been taking care of myself, not smoking, and being a good girl because it's the right thing to do... but, still, I just don't think I can bring myself to it. Maybe it's selfish, but, it's really how I feel. If I were truly that selfless, I wouldn't be considering a medical miscarriage. Either way I choose to do this, it's going to be hard.