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I knew of www.papalporn.com LONG ago.EDIT: Think of nuns and giant glass cross-shaped dildoes.
Lessons Learned:
As my sig says, Never make someone a priority when they will only make you an option. It's tough to do, but being honest to yourself saves a lot of pain.
You can't match one ignorance with another and expect them to balance out into something correct. This chick went on and on with her valid little racism talking points, without even realising she is the exact person she hates with pale skin. Meanwhile, my views were viewed as wrong in her book, because they didn't exactly counteract the original ignorance to the situation.
You can date below you. It can happen. Lance Armstrong dated Mary Kate Olsen. Nuff said. If this is the case, then why not date dramatically up ? This little gothy thing should have NO HOPE for getting someone like me (Who was at the time spending evening coffee dates with a hot professional girl) It can happen. Should it happen to you, evaluate yourself if your the cockroach, and still evaluate yourself if you're the dark corner.
It may not be possible to be "yourself" on a date. I wasn't myself. I picked her up in a baby blue convertible beetle for our dates because she was afraid of my bike, and had no car herself. She never knew the real me. I took her to see "the real me" once and she didn't like it, but still liked me. If I had seen the real her, I would have run screaming. Upon seeing the real her, I didn't and instead decided to deal or change her. So if you can be yourself on a date, great. It actually doesn't make a shit's difference.
If you need social lubricant to loosen up around someone, then please do. But declare that you need to drink or else you're too quiet or something. By date 2 or 3 you should try to not drink and be yourself. Best is to present your shy sorry ass at all moments.
I'll add more as I gather them.
I totally agree. I used to be the guy who couldn't function without a few drinks. Now I'm the guy who has a few drinks a month.
I remember a girl quite distinctly. I couldn't be around her without a few drinks, because I was so worried I would screw things up. I was so worried about this girl that I'd have to be drink before I talked to her. I don't think we ever had a date without my mind altered. She was awesome. Incredible. Smart, funny, awesome body, the whole deal. I was stupid, and let her slip away without truly knowing her for what she was. I do regret that I was that person then.
What the fuck. I'm that person now, just I know how to deal with my predisposition to everything under the sun.
If you don't introspect after every [failed] relationship, you're doomed to repeat your mistakes. After I got out of a long-time long-distance relationship, I kept dating the same type of girl (14-15 years old, kinda out-there) until I realized that I was doing it. Unfortunately I realized this while I was with one of them, and I ended up fucking it up very badly. Truth be told, If I was 'on the market' again, I'd crawl back to her. Not because that's what I want -- because it is what I want -- but that's what I connect with the feeling of love. I don't know what it is. Not to say I don't feel connected with my current girlie, I do; trust me, I feel like we're the same person a lot of times. It's a psycological disorder. I have to fight the urge. Seriously.
You're fighting the urge to gravitate to what you know. You said that you went through similar stages, and that's how you identify. Face it, girls this/that young can identify with anything, if only in imagination. You will always be what they want: no matter what.
Ok, I'm going to bed now.
She claimed she was big on grain. I think of the alcoholics that are so bad they'll drink rubbing alcohol or witch hazel.
She's probably cutting herself right now and drawing upside crosses on her chest. She showed up last night with an upside cross in sharpie on her neck.
My last boyfriend had just turned 16 when I dated him and I was 18 and a half. I don't see the problem as long as it's only a span of maybe 3, 4 at the most, years. Just depends I guess. My ex looked 18.
now... when you said you went through similar stages of your life... what stages were you talking about?
just the goth type stuff? or the hate too?