so how many bedroooms do you have?
you sleeping on the couch?
i also had the clock reset
me and the old lady keep very seperate finances
her savings grows, while i pay the rent, electric, cable
but i got her to buy the groceries and she feeds me, its a step forward
It's a step forward, but you need to make sure that you're both on the same page. She should be picking up this slack not because she "has to", (Role and responsibility) but because she "wants to". Careful with that axe, Eugene.
I have 3 bedrooms. One is her office, I've asked her to move her things out of her office so I can take over. every piece of furniture in my house is hers. In fact, I still don't own a TV. I have a desktop computer and some smaller items. The bed is hers, and I never liked sleeping in it. The couch is comfortable, and I understand that she doesn't like the couch, so I don't expect her to take it.
But I've learned to NEVER have expectations in situations such as these. I'm prepared to wind up with a house with absolutely nothing in it - and be happy with that.
The garage, on the other hand, is all mine. Even my office is stacked with a combination of her things and mine - She has a LOT of stuff. I am minimalist.
The seperation of beds wasnt too tough - It's not like we've been coating each other in love and respect over the past few months. Things have worn down so that at bed time, she just disappears and tries to fall asleep before I get there. Intimacy tapered off a pretty long time ago. That's when I started to investigate and not only think about this day, but prepare for it. That's also when I learned that she is behaving in a way that is alot like "packing her parachute".
I have always held onto hope that things would get better, that I would get a new job, my mom would move out, and my girlfriend would start loving me again. That doesn't happen, and I knew that - but I held on because to me, it's a hope worth holding on to. But I've learned (well, I learned this when I was goddam 12) that when things are going tough, that's when you should be CLOSER, not more distant. Again, I didn't provide the stable environment that she was raised with, and I didn't get the ultra-supportive environment that I was used to. It wasn't healthy for either of us.