Celerity
Well-Known Member
I'm willing to give anyone the benefit of the doubt : But they have to actually be a friend.
and that is where so many fall short.
If your ex won't call you to go to the mall or something, or to hang out just like a male friend would - then she can't be your friend.
I'm "friendly" with my ex. seeing how she left me for another guy, I am under NO compulsion to actually be her friend, to help her out, or listen to her piss and moan about her new slag of a boyfriend, unless I am in the mood to be amused at that moment. We still meet up for coffee occasionally, and catch up about family, work, the cats, et.al .
Amy and I are "friendly" after wards, but that's fully me. She is CONSTANTLY harping on me for who I hang out with, what I say, the color of my hair blah blah. So she isn't a "friend" at all. We just kinda hang out in the efforts of either cock-blocking each other, or just seeing "where it goes". That's not being friendly at all.
I still talk to my exs generally because they have friends, and if they have nothing bad to say about me - they often mention me to their single friends. At my age; however, That pool is less and less. So I associate with my exs just to associate with their friends, and find a new conquest.
And that's not very friend-like on my part either.
So the truth, about 99% of the time, is that you shouldn't hang out with your ex as "friends" because you aren't "friends" unless you think of each other and hang out and do things just like you would with your male friends.
and that is where so many fall short.
If your ex won't call you to go to the mall or something, or to hang out just like a male friend would - then she can't be your friend.
I'm "friendly" with my ex. seeing how she left me for another guy, I am under NO compulsion to actually be her friend, to help her out, or listen to her piss and moan about her new slag of a boyfriend, unless I am in the mood to be amused at that moment. We still meet up for coffee occasionally, and catch up about family, work, the cats, et.al .
Amy and I are "friendly" after wards, but that's fully me. She is CONSTANTLY harping on me for who I hang out with, what I say, the color of my hair blah blah. So she isn't a "friend" at all. We just kinda hang out in the efforts of either cock-blocking each other, or just seeing "where it goes". That's not being friendly at all.
I still talk to my exs generally because they have friends, and if they have nothing bad to say about me - they often mention me to their single friends. At my age; however, That pool is less and less. So I associate with my exs just to associate with their friends, and find a new conquest.
And that's not very friend-like on my part either.
So the truth, about 99% of the time, is that you shouldn't hang out with your ex as "friends" because you aren't "friends" unless you think of each other and hang out and do things just like you would with your male friends.