I agree with Airjockie.
Congratulations ! I'm actually happy to hear it, because I know you'll be a good father, and she a good mother. I have the right to say things like this because I've met you and hung out with you (And watched you hold my girlfriend while your tequila made her cry) it was rum cel
You're a really good guy, and I think things will work out the best. It doesn't matter that you make "enough" money. No one makes "enough" money for kids, or a house for that matter. The fact that you now make money is what is important, any amount of it.
"she is my wife and i love her and i know that i may have a baby coming but i don't feel ready. i hardly know how to take care of my wife and i. i wanted to finish college, save money, buy a house, travel the world then maybe THINK about having one."
Sorry, but this is a pipe dream for anyone in our class. Only the rich, the born-rich and the leeches get to tour the world and do the things that we want. If you waited for this to happen, you would be too old to have kids.
Airjockie has toured the world, lived the life, and the horrible injustice is that it's too late for him to have his own kids (But he keeps trying to get me pregnant). Airjockie did it through taking lots of risks and joining the military. Or the other way around. Either way more than once he's put everything on the line to experience something.
And if that's what you're looking for, you have to first ditch this fear of failure. You have to shake free from the illusion that you can't do right because of the amount of green in your pocket. And you have to stop worrying so much about nature's ways.
"i have a steady job but i only make 30k and she hardly breaks 26k. i have NO money saved "
You're still better off than 70% of this country, and like 99% of the world. You're in a good place to have a kid. Luckily, you're the crazy one of your relationship - And you don't have to worry about your wife doing stupid shit. She may be boring, but she tolerates a lot of shit in an effort to maintain a plateau of reliability. This is where her and my Susan are on common grounds.
Finally you need to realise that everyone of us is profoundly fucked up in the head, and that very few people actually like their lives. Like you, I too are waiting for things to be PERFECT to conceive, but I also realise that I'm likely wasting my time in waiting. I'm still working towards my own truths.
Unlike you, however, I don't get out of control and wind up in regret. You need to shake that shit and you need to shake it now. You were stoned and drunk and didn't pull out. Next time you'll be stoned or drunk and you'll fall on a knife / get hit by a bus / get into a wreck (I know you're very good with the drinking and driving now) or anything. You've got to keep your wits about you 24/7/365.
This isn't a brow-beating speech to you, this is something that we all need to remind ourselves of. As far as this little rant relating to you : I have to congratulate you on this one, because I know you'll do great.
Also, as far as your parents, you'd be surprised. I mean this is your wife, and you have a job / place to live. You're ready and able, but you have no choice on the "willing" now. You've got to find "willing" or everything you have ever fought for in your life will be done. Dead. Caput.
next week i'm going to start laying my pipe line of leads so i can get some commissions going.
