** update ** on my engagement read up!

[TurboMirage]

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does she have a myspace account?

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yeah, i am going to let it be. I am living with her till my lease starts on my new apartment on june 1st. My rent is paid up until then so i am straight. So after that i sign the lease to her, and move in with a childhood buddy and start my life again. I am not a player nore and i a guy who has the most confidence. But it is not hard for me to find a girl to chill with. I have an attractive personality... and hopefully it will get me laid!!! a bunch of times.

thats pretty much what i did. i lived with the ex till it was financially possible to move. it sucked, but as long as you see an end to it, everyday is easier becasue its one day closer to getting out. my personality is similar. i have never had a problem getting girls. the only drawback for me is i am a hell of a lot shorter than you. i hate that shit. yea but i had met tons of girls while i was single, and i almost never approached them, just smiled their way and they ended up coming to me. it was fun, but it gets boring fast, atleast for some people.

That will never get old in my book.

why? i guess i wasn't clear about what gets boring. ok what i meant was picking up girls and fuckn them for the night is fun but gets boring. hell no, being able to get girls attention like that will never get old. if you guys knew me personally, you'd know i am totally not a person to brag or be cocky. i am just honestly saying that it always works and girls always tell me.

one piece of advice i can give, since i am pretty damn sure its not fuckin sexy looks that gets the girls, ahha, n o seriously, eye contact and holding that eye contact for just a split second longer than yo normally would says a lot to a girl.

OFF TOPIC: anyone ever seen the movie Roger Dodger? fuckin awesome. well kind of. i loved it, every guy should watch it, lol.

this man is entirely too correct.

confidence kills em all.

 

[YouKnowWhoIBee]

yeah that kind of happened last night. When i got off of work she didnt want to speak to me. Because my friends took it into their hands, and started to call and harass this guy. So immediatly she was mad at me. I didnt do anything nore do i know what was said. So i have to come home to be defensive. As soon as i come in, i plead my case and atleast there is some order.

I go over to this box i have been keeping all along. It had all these cards, notes, gift bags and all types of stuff i have accumulated. So i am reading through these on my couch. Just one after another. She comes over after i was there for about 5 minutes. And she starts to pick up this car she didnt recognize and she read it. And started to cry. I wasnt crying, i was just remenissing. So we spend about an hour reading this memorable moments.

We go in the bedroom so she can finish studying for her final exam. She then starts to hug me and cry for 10 minutes straight. No words, just emotion. I can tell she felt sorry. But i cannot accept her back. Atleast not now... I know i know stupid to say but it is hard to not. So we get in bed and i asked her to tell me everything that happened with this dude she is talking to. She said other than the initial kissing, 2 other occasions they kissed. What is a kiss though? I am not gonna ruin everything for a kiss. She swears up and down that nothing else happened. She is very religous, so i cant see that being a lie.

We ending up sleeping together last night and i held her all night. We didnt move and it was great. I woke up in the morning thrilled to still see her in my arms. So i helped her study for her exam and then she left for school. I see promise that this will work in my favor, but i do not think that i am going to be in a relationship with her for a while to come. We rushed into life it seems, with moving in with each other so soon and the engagement just wasnt at the right time. But only time can heal woundsa and i will just take it day by day.

 

[TurboMirage]

2 step program.

1> fist yourself
2> die


or strangle her

 

[Celerity]

She hasn't learned her lesson. She "ate some bad pizza" (Jerry Maguire quote) and now she wanted to be coddled. And you were there to do it.

you have shown what you're made of, and she has shown what she's made of. You made your bed, lie in it.

Doing what you did was very bad. Religious people lie all the time (To some, their religion itself is a massive lie). No girl leaves a sure thing for a kiss or two, they leave for massive, tricky cock. They leave for more money.

Whatever, her parachute didn't deploy as she planned, and now she's back in your loving arms.

I have nothing against taking them back - I took mine back - but I also made sure she learned months of very painful lessons - her apologies were sincere. I went through pain, you went through pain, and now it seems that when the pain starts for her, you were there to squelch it. Not fair.

And this kid that she left you for obviously got the bigger cookie. If that doesn't piss you off now, it will later.

Your relationship is now a minefield.

 

[reckedracing]

Doing what you did was very bad. Religious people lie all the time (To some, their religion itself is a massive lie). No girl leaves a sure thing for a kiss or two, they leave for massive, tricky cock. They leave for more money.

2 kisses my ass

 

[YouKnowWhoIBee]

damn celerity... 15% of what you say is BS but the other 85%... you know your shit. I guess coming your expierences have mad you wiser. i hope that we will be together again, but i am just waiting it out to see if it what i want. I am not playing the field because i dont want to. But you have to admit beign single for a long [eriod of time sucks! I have never felt the pain of 5 years, but i am still young. I will be 22 this year and i feel more like a child then ever. I just want things to be back to the way they were when we started dating so long ago.

 

[Taco15]

what did i tell you man. you showed you cared and she came running back apologizing. now you kinda explained how she is a little better. i dont think she's a horrible person but ....ok from a guys point of view she is a horrible person. All that you did last night was up to you and it wasn't wrong. Just make it clear to her that you cant trust her and therefore dont seeyourself with her i the future. If she really cares she'll change from night to day.

I hope toild her your plans about leaving asap. Dud dont do the same thing i did twice! Its easy to stay in arelationship and make it work if you compromise. its about you 2 just being yourself and enjoying each other's presence. if that was my girl and she told me she kissed another dude would make me leave right then. But thats what i would do.

Only you know how much you love her man. Dont take her back no time soon though. She did once with 1 guy she liked, she will do it again with the next ''hunk'' that she's able to get.

 

[Dustin_m]

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yeah that kind of happened last night. When i got off of work she didnt want to speak to me. Because my friends took it into their hands, and started to call and harass this guy. So immediatly she was mad at me. I didnt do anything nore do i know what was said. So i have to come home to be defensive. As soon as i come in, i plead my case and atleast there is some order.

I go over to this box i have been keeping all along. It had all these cards, notes, gift bags and all types of stuff i have accumulated. So i am reading through these on my couch. Just one after another. She comes over after i was there for about 5 minutes. And she starts to pick up this car she didnt recognize and she read it. And started to cry. I wasnt crying, i was just remenissing. So we spend about an hour reading this memorable moments.

We go in the bedroom so she can finish studying for her final exam. She then starts to hug me and cry for 10 minutes straight. No words, just emotion. I can tell she felt sorry. But i cannot accept her back. Atleast not now... I know i know stupid to say but it is hard to not. So we get in bed and i asked her to tell me everything that happened with this dude she is talking to. She said other than the initial kissing, 2 other occasions they kissed. What is a kiss though? I am not gonna ruin everything for a kiss. She swears up and down that nothing else happened. She is very religous, so i cant see that being a lie.

We ending up sleeping together last night and i held her all night. We didnt move and it was great. I woke up in the morning thrilled to still see her in my arms. So i helped her study for her exam and then she left for school. I see promise that this will work in my favor, but i do not think that i am going to be in a relationship with her for a while to come. We rushed into life it seems, with moving in with each other so soon and the engagement just wasnt at the right time. But only time can heal woundsa and i will just take it day by day.

holy shit. for like the 20th time, me and the ex did exactly that, exactly. more advice? still leave her. it sounds harsh, but think about it. you can't leave so much gray area in there.
what is cheating really?
is it only fucking someone else?
or is it the intent to have a relationship on the side?
a kiss?
shit maybe even just thinking about going to someone else other than you BF or GF?

it is different for each person, but i think that since all we see nowdays is people cheating are fucking. i see cheating as any way of pursuing another relationship other than mine or my GF's. there were like three, yes three times when i caught her full on talking to other guys, sometimes meeting up and going out, shit like that. She also swore she didin't do anything with them, some she did say she kissed. to me just going out like that is cheating. the reason is i am really big on trust. i understand in a relationship you might fuck up the small stuff, everyone does. but a lie like that and i will never trust the person again, period.

so each time, i took her back, and each time, it happened again.

think about it before you really take her back. whats gonna hurt less? going on without her now, or having the same shit happen again later, possibly when you might be farther along in the relationship. trust me, people who have problems with dishonesty don't just say sorry and the problems go away.

i hate to be so damn pessimistic about it but like i said, the shit that has happened to you is fuckin identical almost to my situation.

are you dating my ex?

 

[YouKnowWhoIBee]

well i get mixed signals with her. I dont know what to do as far as trying to make it work, I am pleading with her to stop talking to this guy. I am honestly begging her and she feels that hse needs sometime to see how he is. This guy... is a total douschebag. He has been with 36 girls in the sack and she will just be number 37 to him. I know this because she told me so i dont think she would lie about something so stupid. i just feel he is using this girl to get what he wants. I feel he is talking bad about me to make himself look better so he can get her in the sack and then leave her. Well if that happens i am done for good! if we are friends or not i am not going to talk to her if that ever happened again. I am through with being the nice guy. That is one plato you do not cross.

She now says today... she has the physical attraction we no longer have. She tells me not looks wise but sex drive. She has no ambition to do it with me, but she says she wonders about this dude. And about how their relationship will go. This guy is a total tool and i dont know what i am in for i guess. It is hard as hell to let go of what is happening. I wish i could just leave now and go to my apartment and be doen with it. But i cannot till the 30th i think it is. Or possibly i think memorial day weekend. Not sure. I know i have off though so i will be straight I want to move on but i cannot. I just dont know what else there is for me to do. I am pulling out all the tricks and none are working. All he has to do is sit there and my girl is attracted to him. I would put up his myspace but i am sure that ppl here would message him and i dont want ppl messing with him like that. Or until i am done completely with her.

I am not gonna sit here while she is doing whatever to this guy. I am not gonna be her fallback crutch, so when she is done being number 37 and gets tossed away, she can come back to me. Fuck That! I am tired of it and i havent eaten in 3 days. I have slept... 12 hours in the last 4 days. And all i talk about to everyone is my status in my relationship. So now my life is reduced to a puddle of tears i am not shedding on the outside. But that puddle is within. I think that i am over analyzing this issue and i feel i just need to cut her out. But when you love someone with all your heart it is tough.

 

[Dustin_m]

go with your gut instinct and don't second guess it. you said you want to leave and get the hell away, do it. don't keep turning back or your just making yourself feel like shit. walk away and never look back.

 

[get_nick]

man, i've been there before to. my gf at the time left me to get back with her ex. then he treated her like shit just like i told her he would. then she came back crying and apologizing. but i couldn't take her back. i would rather say, "i told you so" than reduce who I am out of loneliness.

you will be better in the long run. yes it burns worse than gonnorhea but you will recover. you will be better and you will be stronger. have faith. if it's any consolation you will have worse encounters in your life and you will have better. life is all ups and downs, now is just a down. cheer up little camper, good things happen to good people. its just a rainy day right now. and it can't rain all the time.

 

[posol]

A) leave her.
B) watch more porn so your next chick doesn't call you boring in bed. cuz that's what she did, in so many words.
C) put on some white gloves...

 

[BigJ]

Man. That seriously sucks. YOu'd move on and get better closure if she just disappeared, but you wake and she's there. I'm sorry man.

Wait it out, hit the gym, find a ne whobby and engulf yourself in something else, so you can forget about everything for a minute.

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A) leave her.
watch more porn so your next chick doesn't call you boring in bed. cuz that's what she did, in so many words.
C) put on some white gloves...

Not the best idea about the Porn I think. I'm all about being sensual and shit, and porn to me is not.

Sure if she likes it rough, there you go, but not my cup of tea.

 

[Dustin_m]

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Man. That seriously sucks. YOu'd move on and get better closure if she just disappeared, but you wake and she's there. I'm sorry man.

i think thats one more for the white gloves

 

[posol]

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Not the best idea about the Porn I think. I'm all about being sensual and shit, and porn to me is not.

Sure if she likes it rough, there you go, but not my cup of tea.

Sensual is great, unitl she gets bored of it.......


Porn it up, learn some tricks, bang it out.

 

[TurboMirage]

piidb.

 

[Dustin_m]

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Not the best idea about the Porn I think. I'm all about being sensual and shit, and porn to me is not.

Sure if she likes it rough, there you go, but not my cup of tea.

Sensual is great, unitl she gets bored of it.......


Porn it up, learn some tricks, bang it out.

True, but sensual is a more dependable thing. all girls like it and it will always work. if you go doing it all porno style she might get freaked. thats one of those things you gotta hope she brings up or hint at it very subtly

 

[Celerity]

Most of porn is degrading / humiliating for women. They love porn moves and tricks, but not from the men that they are trying / have gotten respect from.

What that does is bring down the structures of respect and trust that took a long time to build up. If there is no respect or trust, then have a ball.

Basically pulling out the raunchy moves is akin to her tying a saddle to your ass and jamming a pipe into your rectum. Not a respectful thing.

 

[posol]

There's a fine difference between blowing your load on her face and making her like your butthole.... and having porn star-like sex.

She got bored of you in the bedroom, and started chasing other cock. it's already been proven.

 

[Dustin_m]

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Most of porn is degrading / humiliating for women. They love porn moves and tricks, but not from the men that they are trying / have gotten respect from.

What that does is bring down the structures of respect and trust that took a long time to build up. If there is no respect or trust, then have a ball.

Basically pulling out the raunchy moves is akin to her tying a saddle to your ass and jamming a pipe into your rectum. Not a respectful thing.

umm, yea thats pretty much what i meant, but just tried to put it a little less graphic . ehh, every girl wants it a little rough sometimes, i agree, that porno shit is over the top, unless, like you said, there's no respect and you two are just together for the sex, then alls good. as far as GF material, i wouldn't pull that shit