Celerity
Well-Known Member
Which is the infernal issue with the way that men date.
They want us to change, we want them to stay the same. The catastrophe is the same on both sides.
Regardless of how ignorant one is, they must realise that dating above their age range comes with certain caveats. I'm not going to pick up and move since she knows I own a house. I'm not going to jeopardize my job for slight, and I'm pretty set in my ways as far as life choices. She's not going to make me a drinker and bar-hopper.
As far as her changing, I know she will. My expectations as a man have adapted to the landscape, even before her. I've been around long enough to observe changes in people over 2 decades. As long as she avoids drugs and leaving me for someone else, I'll be ok with the results.
The changes that I need to see is a cut down / cut out of the drinking (Which HAS to happen, I mean you can't maintain that, even people here on the forums are in frats and they have cut down on the demons)
For others, it's a lifestyle change. Formby had his wake up call with his family, TB had a wake up call with his partying. Others have had their wake up calls, and it's mostly right where I predicted it: Age 25.
If one exposes themselves to either abject misery or awe-inspiration then they tend to change. Aleaf has changed a lot since her abject misery in another state, B has changed himself because of good fortune. The cycle goes on.
I'm smart enough to tell if someone is going to be a serial killer or rapist later in life. When the lessons just aren't learned, and they continue to be schmucks. Life has a shelf for these people all the way at the bottom.
