Question about Ex-Girlfriends

[jeffie7]

You know what, me and rach split up around the same time you two split, I cut her off 100% deleted anything that reminded me of her and took down anything around my place that had anything to do with her. I made a point to go out and also had my share of dates.

cut her off and move the F on. Cut her off like a band aid, the faster the better.

 

[integraslut78]

This situation seems to cause more pain than happiness. I agree with B bounce out yo.

 

[GSRCRXsi]

"This time she Loves me. Yeah, I know what you said before... but this time..... I'm calling from my new Comcast DIGITAL phone.."

did you know he works for comcast? or is it coincidence?

 

[dacheat]

Some of you may know the whole story behind me and my ex. But the short of it is... we broke up in October, because she wanted to see other people. Well we didn’t talk to each other for 2 months. Right around Christmas we started talking again, and we were building a friendship back. She got no gifts from me, and I didn’t even call her family. After New Years we start sleeping with each other again, and things start to be back to the good old days. We would have hour sessions and still be ready for more.. I was pumped. Well the shitty thing is... I am getting jealous of her hanging out with other guys. I don’t think she is screwing them, but I just worry she is trying to play me and whoever else at the same time. If she is I screwing them I should be in the clear, I always use a condom now so at least I am staying safe. I am just wondering if it is worth it to continue to be friends with benefits and possibly more later on, or just call it quits. I have been with 2 other girls since our breakup and it felt good... but my ex is too good in bed to let go. I also have 3+ years with her so it is kind of hard just to let go. What’s your honest thoughts... and I swear this time I will listen.

my thoughts on this: get her out of your mind for five minutes and do this: you gotta take some time and visualize what kind of relationship will make you happy; define it, list what it is like, and what it isn't like; what happens, and what doesn't happen; what you will tolerate, and what you won't.

then apply everything you know about her, you, the past, and present sitch. then put your motherfucking foot down and say to yourself and her too, 'i will only have relationships that make me feel x and allow me to y. anything else is wasting my time.'

after you've made that abundantly clear to yourself, and to her, check reality against your ideal relationship; if it isn't an 80% match, tell her to hit the fucking road and piss up a rope.

if you aren't capable of this, you're still willing to suffer entirely too much for da poon, and as such, deserve to eat ham with the drama llama.

 

[SlushboxTeggy]

my thoughts on this: get her out of your mind for five minutes and do this: you gotta take some time and visualize what kind of relationship will make you happy; define it, list what it is like, and what it isn't like; what happens, and what doesn't happen; what you will tolerate, and what you won't.

then apply everything you know about her, you, the past, and present sitch. then put your motherfucking foot down and say to yourself and her too, 'i will only have relationships that make me feel x and allow me to y. anything else is wasting my time.'

after you've made that abundantly clear to yourself, and to her, check reality against your ideal relationship; if it isn't an 80% match, tell her to hit the fucking road and piss up a rope.

if you aren't capable of this, you're still willing to suffer entirely too much for da poon, and as such, deserve to eat ham with the drama llama.

Very nicely put.

As for me the "friend" thing with the ex is working pretty good. We actually did hook up last night but we both made it very clear that is was in no way romantic, but rather purely sexual. I actually get along with her better as a friend, it's weird.

However, last night might have been calculated, haha, because now I'm dead tired. Enough to leave my internship early and not go on my date, haha.

 

[dacheat]

However, last night might have been calculated, haha, because now I'm dead tired. Enough to leave my internship early and not go on my date, haha.

yeah i can't put it past the wiminz to be conniving like that . ps the 'hit the fucking road and piss up a rope' in my previous post is a lyric straight outta ween; sorry if it came out too harsh (but damn it is a good song).

as for you, slushy, pop some caffeine and go on the date anyway. ^_^

 

[SlushboxTeggy]

yeah i can't put it past the wiminz to be conniving like that . ps the 'hit the fucking road and piss up a rope' in my previous post is a lyric straight outta ween; sorry if it came out too harsh (but damn it is a good song).

as for you, slushy, pop some caffeine and go on the date anyway. ^_^

It was my idea for us to hang out last night. I was just making a bad joke. I actually forgot I had to be up early for my internship today.

As for the date... eh, I've known this girl for awhile. She's cool but a few years older than me. She already seems to be settled into her 9-5, go home, eat, watch American Idol, and go to bed lifestyle. Like I've said before, it's not that I'm attracted to crazy people, but normal people are fucking boring.

School starts back up next week. I'm sure I'll find a few girls to take to dinner pretty quick.

 

[totalburnout]

"you gotta take some time and visualize what kind of relationship will make you happy; define it, list what it is like, and what it isn't like; what happens, and what doesn't happen; what you will tolerate, and what you won't."

This is one aspect, I failed to mentioned in my original post. If it helps you, write things down. I made an entire list of what I wanted out of a relationship, when I wasn't sure I was with the right girl, over the summer, and if I liked the way the relationship was making me feel and the person I was turning into.

Writing things down is a way of grounding yourself and constantly reminding yourself.

Very effective when I make other goals, as well.

 

[totalburnout]

ps the 'hit the fucking road and piss up a rope' in my previous post is a lyric straight outta ween

Years and years ago I used to say "piss up a rope". This was during the mid 1990's. Was the song around back then? I don't remember where I heard the saying but it stayed with me for quite awhile. People, somehow, didn't understand it back then.

 

[dacheat]

This is one aspect, I failed to mentioned in my original post. If it helps you, write things down. I made an entire list of what I wanted out of a relationship, when I wasn't sure I was with the right girl, over the summer, and if I liked the way the relationship was making me feel and the person I was turning into.

Writing things down is a way of grounding yourself and constantly reminding yourself.

Very effective when I make other goals, as well.

+1, it makes shit feel real and possible. it's also affirming, like you're kinda making a contract with yourself to want good things, and to hold yourself accountable for keeping yourself in situations that don't deliver what you've already told yourself you want or need.

and hey, great sex can be on the list. but mutual respect, no cheating, and other crap like sushi sundays can be too. it's your list. it's your life. kinda cool, that way. it also gives her something to try and measure up to; a set of defined expectations and desires. if she wants to be your girl, she has to measure up. there can be pride in that. or she can just be a hooch. but at that point it ain't up to you. that's allll her.

 

[get_nick]

no sex is good enough to stick around.

there is no amount of money that you can't let go.

i have been in the worst of situation. just let it go. you are going to get yourself in some shit.

don't make it so bad that it takes herpes to make you figure out you need to leave her.

 

[dacheat]

Years and years ago I used to say "piss up a rope". This was during the mid 1990's. Was the song around back then? I don't remember where I heard the saying but it stayed with me for quite awhile. People, somehow, didn't understand it back then.

the album came out in '96 ( 12 Golden Country Greats )

[FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Piss Up a Rope (3:33)
my dinner's on fire
while she watches TV
and if you've ever wondered
what it's like to be me
she takes all my money
and leaves me no smokes
yells at my buddies
and insults my folks
i'm breakin' my back doin' the best that i can
she's got time for the dog and none for her man
and i'm no dope
but i can't cope
so hit the fuckin' road and piss up a rope

you can
piss up a rope
and you can put on your shoes
hit the road get truckin'
pack your bag
i don't need the ag
on your knees you big, booty bitch start suckin'
you ride my ass
like a horse in a saddle
now you're up shits creek
with a turd for a paddle
and i can't cope
piss up a rope

uh you can piss up a rope
and feel the pissy dribble
you can piss up a rope
and watch me giggle
for the last 6 months
i been packin' your bag
you can wash my balls
with a warm, wet rag
till my balls feel smooth
and soft like silk
i'm sick of your mouth
and your 2 percent milk
and i'm no dope
but i've lost all hope
so hit the fuckin' road and
piss up a rope


... etc.
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[ThatGuy4life]

What the hell, I'm gone for a few months and this turns into hondaswapdatingadvice.com. I will never understand why people get on forums asking for relationship advice from people whom most of them they don't even know. Whaaaa my girlfriend and I broke up and we still hook up and I love her and I just don't know what do to, whaaaaaaaa I love her man, I love her. Seriously only you know what's best for you. THink of the reason why it didn't work out the 1st time. Is it likely that reason will appear again or did ya'll work it out. If so then do what slushbox and myself would do, keep it friends w/ benefits while you shop around or play around.

 

[SlushboxTeggy]

The fucked up part is were better friends than ever and the sex is incredible. It was great before but holy shit.

 

[TurboMirage]

2 weeks... who is taking bets?

 

[E_SolSi]

i can hear that shit ticking from here

 

[SlushboxTeggy]

Haha. I realize that is a definite possibility, I'm just enjoying the situation at hand while I can.

 

[TurboMirage]

hey what is your ex's phone number?

 

[dacheat]

The fucked up part is were better friends than ever and the sex is incredible. It was great before but holy shit.

i'd like to know what's improved about it plz. i'm conducting research, or something.

 

[get_nick]

i'd like to know what's improved about it plz. i'm conducting research, or something.

the other guys she's fucking actually taught her something.