ThatGuy4life
The Riced Sleeper
So after being engaged for a year i'm single again. Brief scenario, I have my daughter she has her son, her son calls me daddy I've taken care of him and raised him basically since I've met her. Lately we argued about her not approving of hos I raise him as the only time I interact w/ him is to discipline him. My point of view was that I was raised up to do things for myself the only time I really interacted w/ my parents was for discipline and I turned out all right I think and I see nothing wrong w/ it. Our other main argument was that she wants things to be how they were when we 1st met because I talked more and spent more time w/ her. my rebuttal was I'm normally a quiet person when I 1st met you yes I talked more and interacted w/ you cause i was trying to get to know you and find out what u were about. I've done that and there's no longer that newness of the relationship for me. So she decided to move out so we can live apart and start over so that it will be like it used to be.
Me being the stubborn person that I am, said hell no. If you move out it's over for good, I'm not about to undo all that we've done and fought for in this last year of being engaged to start over... why, to end up back where we are at now because this is who I am. Tell me if I'm wrong isn't a relationship supposed to be about 2 people being together who will yes have problems and differences from time to time but working together to get through them to build and strengthen their relationship? Am I wrong, am I being an asshole for telling her if you move out we're over, am I not seeing her point of view, should I accept what she wants to do and start over????
Me being the stubborn person that I am, said hell no. If you move out it's over for good, I'm not about to undo all that we've done and fought for in this last year of being engaged to start over... why, to end up back where we are at now because this is who I am. Tell me if I'm wrong isn't a relationship supposed to be about 2 people being together who will yes have problems and differences from time to time but working together to get through them to build and strengthen their relationship? Am I wrong, am I being an asshole for telling her if you move out we're over, am I not seeing her point of view, should I accept what she wants to do and start over????